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Come and have a laugh at my ex husband of you need cheering up!

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Mydogisamassivetwat · 18/12/2024 12:10

Ds was planning to visit his dad at some point over Christmas. Looking at trains last night, they were absolutely extortionate and for two days, inc 10 hour travel time, it wasn’t worth the price.

Ex h has gone mental. Sent me a text last night saying that as I chose to move so far away from him, it’s my responsibility, and I should bring ds to him for contact. I have to drive him or pay the train fare. He’s going to “take advice” on next steps.

Ds is 22 years old. Yes, twenty-two. Not two. A grown man.

Has his own job, didn’t know when his leave would be until last night so couldn’t plan in advance, and to be honest, he’s a grown arse adult who is working Christmas Day anyway and what he does with his free time and his money is no longer any of my business.

I am wondering on what these next steps will be? Solicitor, perhaps? Or maybe he will go for full custody? I mean, ds lives with his girlfriend now, so I presume it’s her he would take to court, not me? Or perhaps their landlord? Who knows!

Oh and I know I’ll get asked why he still has my contact details. It’s because, every so often, he will do something batshit like this and honestly, I find it hilarious. When ds was 18, he said he was going to court for full custody and was contacting solicitors as ds didn’t want to go to uni, so this is nothing new, the man is just a fucking idiot. I tell him to let me know how it goes and then ignore him.

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ARichtGoodDram · 19/12/2024 00:26

SapphireSeptember · 18/12/2024 23:00

@ARichtGoodDram Was it your ex that was bragging to his current girlfriend about playing the system so she gathered up the evidence and sent it to his ex wife and ex girlfriend? Might have been someone else, but it was brilliant!

That was indeed him!

He’s still regularly whinging on social media about being betrayed by the girlfriend 😂

healthybychristmas · 19/12/2024 00:26

That is brilliant.

The best response I saw was a friend of mine who's boyfriend had cheated on her and now wanted her back. He wrote to tell her how miserable he was. She replied "I'm sorry for your loss."

XChrome · 19/12/2024 01:23

That is hilarious! My ex does stupid shit that I find funny too, so I understand why you want to witness it for entertainment.
Ex's latest scheme was to get me to agree to bump up his share of our assets, saying it was compensation for the high cost of rental housing. He tried to get me to sign an agreement to that effect. Come to find out later that as I suspected, he is living in the low income apartment of his low income GF. It was just another con. Naturally I laughed at his suggestion and did not sign. I get a kick out of his inept attempts to get the better of me.

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XChrome · 19/12/2024 01:23

healthybychristmas · 19/12/2024 00:26

That is brilliant.

The best response I saw was a friend of mine who's boyfriend had cheated on her and now wanted her back. He wrote to tell her how miserable he was. She replied "I'm sorry for your loss."

So good!

XChrome · 19/12/2024 01:25

Loloj · 18/12/2024 22:23

Different situation but this reminds me of when my ex threatened to send the police to my sisters wedding. My son was her page boy but the wedding fell on “his weekend” (my ex’s) and he was refusing to swap. He even had his solicitor write me a letter saying that he would not allow my son to attend his aunties wedding as he was not prepared to swap weekends. The solicitor must have thought he was a right knob! In the end I just sent a laughing emoji and said I’d see the police at the wedding. Needless to say no police arrived.

😆 What a stupid twat.

XChrome · 19/12/2024 01:27

Frostingle · 18/12/2024 12:32

You really should reply to this one just to remind him that you share custody with son's gf. Since she has him more than 50% he really needs to negotiate maintenance payments to her when he seeks his advice.

Lmao!

Mummyoflittledragon · 19/12/2024 02:05

This thread has given me such a laugh op. So many men disconnected from their children. The thing is, if they even looked back at the trajectory of their own lives in their 20s (or whatever age their child is in that moment of complaint) and took a moment to reflect, they would see how ridiculous they are being.

This all begs the question, are some fathers so disconnected from their children that they don’t even know how old they are?

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 19/12/2024 02:35

JFDIYOLO · 19/12/2024 00:15

What is wrong with them.

It's like they run a predictable and consistent programme.

So many men think women and children are things, not quite human, property to be owned and controlled.

And when the property is taken away from them (including when she leaves) they seem to go batshit. Weirdly detached from reality.

It is funny - but it's awful at the same time.

I agree - Shit My Ex Says would be a brilliant book.

The program is called "male entitlement" and it's the core element of the software suite called "patriarchy".

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 19/12/2024 02:47

Mummyoflittledragon · 19/12/2024 02:05

This thread has given me such a laugh op. So many men disconnected from their children. The thing is, if they even looked back at the trajectory of their own lives in their 20s (or whatever age their child is in that moment of complaint) and took a moment to reflect, they would see how ridiculous they are being.

This all begs the question, are some fathers so disconnected from their children that they don’t even know how old they are?

These men understand full well that their adult kids are chronologically adults. They also see their adult kids as their property and chronological adulthood doesn't make a difference to that perception. Catofhate is thirteen years old and I wouldn't tolerate him jumping on the kitchen counter in five years' time any more than I do now. I expect that I have a right to lift him down. Narcissistic fathers think of their kids as more like a pet than as people, expecting obedience at all ages.

2021x · 19/12/2024 04:03

Hahaha… let him waste his money.

murphys · 19/12/2024 04:26

I'm a bit late to your thread, but had a good giggle. As I am/was in a similar situation.

I got a message earlier this year asking me why ds didn't reply to his message and he doesn't appreciate being blue ticked. He didnt ask if everthing was fine, just straight in with the 'I don't appreciate it' line.

My ds works and lives independently and is 26 years old. 😂 (and was on a very intensive work course at the time)

He will tittle tattle on dd not responding immediately as well. She works in hospitality so works all the hours god sends, and is 22.

He chose to move abroad and told everyone that I refuse to let him speak to the dc. They never heard a word from him in 2 years and each had their own mobile phones. At that time they were 16 and 18.

So I get it @Mydogisamassivetwat 😂

My DC really could not be bothered, as they made their decisions when he just deserted them. But now that he realises, he is making a big noise and more than likely blaming me for it all as per usual.

Isnt it just amazing that still everthing is our fault....

Gettingbysomehow · 19/12/2024 05:15

I think you should do a tik tok and maybe youtube as well 😂

FabulousPharmacyst · 19/12/2024 05:22

Headabovetheparapets · 18/12/2024 14:46

Oh @Mydogisamassivetwat THANKYOU🥰 I really needed that laugh.
I’ve just gone from ‘oh that sound’s difficult’ to ‘22 & lives with his girlfriend’ & spat my coffee🤣🤣
& @NCForSomeThings the phrase ‘bombastic faux legal’ describes it perfectly 👏🤗
I know we should say block & ignore but would love to hear what his next moves will be, kind of imagining EX lining up all his cuddly toys on his bed to hold a court session!!🤣

Is Ex Prince Andrew?

femfemlicious · 19/12/2024 07:19

Mydogisamassivetwat · 18/12/2024 13:29

It’s about a 2 hour drive. But obviously takes a lot longer on public transport - around 5 hours wirh the changes, which is why ds didn’t fancy all that money for a ten hour round trip for less than two days.

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He is just like my ex husband. Refuses to go out of his way and instead rants and raved. Claims to want yo see his son but refuses to come pick him up. Everything has yo be their way or else all he'll breaks loose

sashh · 19/12/2024 07:20

Stormyweatheroutthere · 18/12/2024 12:41

Tell him ds can't come because he is grounded... Say he left the toilet seat up /top off the toothpaste /fill in something as equally stupid... My exh is dead. 2 years on and still celebrating... But he had a solicitor write and demand I remove my new blinds as he could no longer see into my house..
Oddy no judge agreed with him.

I bet that letter contained the phrase, "my client directs me to..." which is solicitor speech for, "I know this is crap but he insists I put it in the letter".

TinyMouseTheatre · 19/12/2024 07:33

murphys · 19/12/2024 04:26

I'm a bit late to your thread, but had a good giggle. As I am/was in a similar situation.

I got a message earlier this year asking me why ds didn't reply to his message and he doesn't appreciate being blue ticked. He didnt ask if everthing was fine, just straight in with the 'I don't appreciate it' line.

My ds works and lives independently and is 26 years old. 😂 (and was on a very intensive work course at the time)

He will tittle tattle on dd not responding immediately as well. She works in hospitality so works all the hours god sends, and is 22.

He chose to move abroad and told everyone that I refuse to let him speak to the dc. They never heard a word from him in 2 years and each had their own mobile phones. At that time they were 16 and 18.

So I get it @Mydogisamassivetwat 😂

My DC really could not be bothered, as they made their decisions when he just deserted them. But now that he realises, he is making a big noise and more than likely blaming me for it all as per usual.

Isnt it just amazing that still everthing is our fault....

What a twat. Can you suggest to DS & DD that they remove the ticks to that ExH can't see if the message has been read or not? DSIL and the DNs did this as soon as ExBIL left and he really didn't like it.

OP I think you're amazing. Sounds like you've really been through some quite horrific mental abuse and you've found a great therapist and listened. Her phrase should be the header on the relationship section! Holding your nerve when he said DS was missing is admirable Flowers

I also agree with not blocking him. When you have DC with someone you are usually stick with them for all the Weddings, Christenings & Funerals like you say. My DC's first H still comes to all of our family events and she's been married to someone else for 30 years.

femfemlicious · 19/12/2024 07:42

Tracystubbs · 18/12/2024 14:08

My ex had a shit fit and did exactly the same when ds had a baby with his long term girlfriend

Ds is not his son,he's fuck all to do with ex but ex had tried to make it his business

This is the same ex that left me with his two children,has never paid a penny and left me to abuse a 14 year old girl and he got her pregnant

But no,I'm the disgusting one for 'allowing' my 24 year old son to have a baby in a long term loving relationship

For the record,'his' children are delighted for ds and are a fantastic aunt and uncle to the baby

There are no limits with this type of dickhead

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Wow , was he prosecuted?

TinyMouseTheatre · 19/12/2024 07:45

*stuck with them

And that's my DCousin's first H that we're stuck with Wink

femfemlicious · 19/12/2024 08:03

@Mydogisamassivetwat you should reply ooooooo shiver me timberssss🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

femfemlicious · 19/12/2024 08:04

Mydogisamassivetwat · 18/12/2024 17:29

I hear from him sporadically when he’s got some mental notion. I find it funny. I don’t engage other than with the same phrase I’ve used for years now. Which I also find funny as any normal person would think, “oh, maybe that means piss off.”

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Please never block him🤣🤣🤣🤣

EnjoyingTheSilence · 19/12/2024 09:08

Pet idiot. I fucking love that @Mydogisamassivetwat

Lovesea658 · 19/12/2024 09:13

Your ex is hilarious!😂

Tracystubbs · 19/12/2024 09:14

femfemlicious · 19/12/2024 07:42

Wow , was he prosecuted?

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No
I don't know the full ins and outs to it all,but she would have been too frightened of him
I know she moved away in the end
He did go to prison in the end,but for dealing drugs
He's such a princess among men

Tracystubbs · 19/12/2024 09:17

Tracystubbs · 19/12/2024 09:14

No
I don't know the full ins and outs to it all,but she would have been too frightened of him
I know she moved away in the end
He did go to prison in the end,but for dealing drugs
He's such a princess among men

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Meant to say prince,but phone changed this to princess!

livingafulllife · 19/12/2024 09:57

Ex mother in law said she will take me to court and have my baby taken away.
He was 3 at the time.
My baby is now 21 and living alone ex died years ago im still waiting for a court day.