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Children: ‘No Christmas, Please!’ YAY!

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PoliticalPossum · 18/12/2024 06:25

So, my teenagers confirmed last night they don’t want to do Christmas! They just want to spend the day with family, relaxing, eating good food, playing with the dog and watching old films - no roast, no presents, no forced interactions with family they don’t like.

Not sure whether to laugh, because honestly just eating nibbles, fruit and salads all day whilst we watch Star Wars and DH loses so badly at scrabble he tosses the tiles across the table again sounds amazing, or to cry tears of joy because they actually agreed on something together (honestly, it’s the first time I can remember them ever agreeing)

Not even anything to really comment on here. I just wanted to post and say how happy I am that we all get a day off and can actually just relax without any pressure! Obviously did not say this to them, just nodded and said ‘oh that sounds lovely’ but I am so pleased!

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SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 18/12/2024 11:04

PandoraSox · 18/12/2024 11:02

What a great idea! I might string a few lettuce leaves up as decorations, then we can eat them on Christmas day. Sustainable and delicious.

Brussels sprouts make a far superior crafting material.

LostTheMarble · 18/12/2024 11:05

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/12/2024 11:01

Sorry you’re having a hard time, @LostTheMarble . Hope things get better for you very soon.

Maybe treat yourself to a Christmas salad for lunch, I’m sure OP won’t mind you sharing the joy?

I’m hoping beyond hope I/my other children don’t catch this stomach bug/suspected noro my youngest brought home from school, because even a salad won’t be on the table if that’s the case! But thank you, nothing is the end of the world and it’s Christmas next week. I cannot wait to avoid anything remotely healthy until the New Year with my completely consumerist family.

PandoraSox · 18/12/2024 11:06

SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 18/12/2024 11:04

Brussels sprouts make a far superior crafting material.

Too Christmassy for me, I'm afraid. I don't want to taint the house with anything vaguely festive.

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PandoraSox · 18/12/2024 11:07

LostTheMarble · 18/12/2024 11:05

I’m hoping beyond hope I/my other children don’t catch this stomach bug/suspected noro my youngest brought home from school, because even a salad won’t be on the table if that’s the case! But thank you, nothing is the end of the world and it’s Christmas next week. I cannot wait to avoid anything remotely healthy until the New Year with my completely consumerist family.

Oh, poor DC. Crossing my fingers for you!

user1492757084 · 18/12/2024 11:09

Have a nice year off.

Melonmango70 · 18/12/2024 11:10

Sounds amazing, some people have made ridiculous assumptions and judgements here! Quelle surprise. You will all have a thoroughly lovely time doing your own thing, being together, eating what you want and enjoy (I love a salad, me!). No stress, no aggro, no hassle, just lovely family Christmas (because no matter how we much we (I) might want to avoid it, it's there whether or not there is turkey and presents everywhere else). You'll all have a wonderful time, good for you! :-D

ItOnlyTakesTwoMinutes · 18/12/2024 11:12

PoliticalPossum · 18/12/2024 07:07

No cooking, at all. No presents. No seeing family (other than the two winos I call DM and MIL).

TBH it’s a big change for us given we usually spend 5+hrs dressed up and socialising at a party with 40+ people, have a huge blow out meal and lots of presents. It may not sound it to others, but honestly, it’s usually a pretty full on day - hence my utter, utter, joy.

Instead we’ll have a day sitting on the sofa (post dog walk), playing games and eating healthily 😍

Edited

So it’s either that or this? Sounds extreme. Why not just do a nice small Christmas for your kids?

Mrswhatsit40 · 18/12/2024 11:13

So you are boasting about staying home (which most people do anyway) on Christmas Day and eating salads and fruit instead of turkey, having no presents, and later on watching dh strop and throw his tiles across the room when he loses at scrabble?

O-kaaay…

Isxmasoveryet · 18/12/2024 11:14

Sounds bliss do it

Purplecatshopaholic · 18/12/2024 11:16

Sounds brilliant op. Do what you and your family like, no pressure (maybe give the board games a miss, lol). I think you are getting a hard time on here from people who are jealous of your stress-free Christmas!

BotterMon · 18/12/2024 11:16

Not sure why you're getting a hard time! Sounds blissful and enjoy it (but do have some treats for watching films a la Gogglebox!)

LaceAndCrimes · 18/12/2024 11:17

BotterMon · 18/12/2024 11:16

Not sure why you're getting a hard time! Sounds blissful and enjoy it (but do have some treats for watching films a la Gogglebox!)

Try reading the thread

LostTheMarble · 18/12/2024 11:20

Isxmasoveryet · 18/12/2024 11:14

Sounds bliss do it

Well of course it’s bliss when you have imaginary children. My imaginary children have forgone all presents to donate to the needy and will be spending the day volunteering in the soup/salad kitchen. They’re younger than the OP’s imaginary children so I’m sure they’ll mainly be sweeping for 7 hours straight, but it’s wonderful they know that Christmas isn’t about presents and unhealthy foods.

Unfortunately I won’t be able to join them as I’ll be at home with my real children who will disown me if Santa doesn’t come and would be very grateful if I’d replace the Xmas veg with Twiglets and orange cremes.

BotterMon · 18/12/2024 11:20

LaceAndCrimes · 18/12/2024 11:17

Try reading the thread

I did, but not 15 pages of it. Have better things to do, but you obviously don't. Have a lovely day.

Isxmasoveryet · 18/12/2024 11:22

LostTheMarble · 18/12/2024 11:20

Well of course it’s bliss when you have imaginary children. My imaginary children have forgone all presents to donate to the needy and will be spending the day volunteering in the soup/salad kitchen. They’re younger than the OP’s imaginary children so I’m sure they’ll mainly be sweeping for 7 hours straight, but it’s wonderful they know that Christmas isn’t about presents and unhealthy foods.

Unfortunately I won’t be able to join them as I’ll be at home with my real children who will disown me if Santa doesn’t come and would be very grateful if I’d replace the Xmas veg with Twiglets and orange cremes.

And you dont sound at all bitter about being forced to conform to what society and social media tells you you should do on xmas and society and social media tells u if u dont do all these things you are a bzd parent and a bad person lol enjoy your society says xmas

purplespink · 18/12/2024 11:23

So you're 31, have 2 adopted teenagers and your mum is in her 80's?

MyGladBiscuit · 18/12/2024 11:26

BotterMon · 18/12/2024 11:20

I did, but not 15 pages of it. Have better things to do, but you obviously don't. Have a lovely day.

fair enough @BotterMon

but if you don’t read, maybe don’t plough in with your size 12s and make a daft comment!

YesitsBess · 18/12/2024 11:28

Isxmasoveryet · 18/12/2024 11:22

And you dont sound at all bitter about being forced to conform to what society and social media tells you you should do on xmas and society and social media tells u if u dont do all these things you are a bzd parent and a bad person lol enjoy your society says xmas

Edited

Did everyone else read this in the most ranty teenager voice they could imagine? It's even better if you imagine a door slam at the end.

latetonews · 18/12/2024 11:28

Everyone banging on about the presents is the perfect example of what the day actually means. Mindless consumerism.

Your teenagers should be congratulated on not falling for the marketing nonsense that most adults fall for.

ThianWinter · 18/12/2024 11:29

I’m loving the latest posts from people who haven’t read the thread and don’t realise it’s a load of baloney.

LostTheMarble · 18/12/2024 11:31

Isxmasoveryet · 18/12/2024 11:22

And you dont sound at all bitter about being forced to conform to what society and social media tells you you should do on xmas and society and social media tells u if u dont do all these things you are a bzd parent and a bad person lol enjoy your society says xmas

Edited

Considering your username, I suspect you are very much fed up with this time of year, which is understandable. It’s tiring and expensive, a lot of it usually comes down to mums to sort and it’s generally a lot of work with little in return and a very poor January.

That aside, the op is on one and I’m not going to apologise for making tongue in cheek remarks. Quite the opposite of being bitter, this has been great entertainment.

Dagnabit · 18/12/2024 11:32

I’d be more than happy to avoid the wider family 😂 I would be a bit sad not to do presents for my 2 teens and do the Christmas dinner which is my favourite meal of the year….or 2nd because I think I actually prefer the leftover Christmas dinner on Boxing Day.

RufustheFactuaIReindeer · 18/12/2024 11:33

ThianWinter · 18/12/2024 11:29

I’m loving the latest posts from people who haven’t read the thread and don’t realise it’s a load of baloney.

I did read the thread, i answered in the Christmas spirit of believing in unbelievable things 😀

Wonderi · 18/12/2024 11:34

Purplecatshopaholic · 18/12/2024 11:16

Sounds brilliant op. Do what you and your family like, no pressure (maybe give the board games a miss, lol). I think you are getting a hard time on here from people who are jealous of your stress-free Christmas!

I think she’s getting a hard time on here because her story doesn’t add up at all.

Most of us also wouldn’t consider an adult throwing a childish tantrum over a board game, a laughing matter.
And if there is any truth in that part then I would be very concerned.

PandoraSox · 18/12/2024 11:34

Isxmasoveryet · 18/12/2024 11:22

And you dont sound at all bitter about being forced to conform to what society and social media tells you you should do on xmas and society and social media tells u if u dont do all these things you are a bzd parent and a bad person lol enjoy your society says xmas

Edited

You need to read the full thread about this 31 year old who has two adopted teenagers and whose late 80s DM has been coming to OP's for Xmas for 20 plus years...