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What age do you stop giving nieces/nephews money for Christmas

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Washywishy · 11/12/2024 15:11

If you do stop obviously! So my niece is now 19 and working. In my family the cut off for giving money/presents was 18 years old, DH says 21.
Does everyone stop at that age or carry on?
Happy to carry on, just wondered what others did. (We don't do adult Christmas presents)

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itsalwaysthesame · 12/12/2024 07:33

18, I did get them 21st gifts though, I still have younger ones so I get presents for sister & her husband as they buy for my kids.

TammyJones · 12/12/2024 08:22

NewName24 · 11/12/2024 17:05

18, but it was all discussed in advance (I think eldest was 16 at the time).
Bigger present for 18th and that was the last one.

Same
Think was 16 but last present at 18, so I did do 17 as well.
We all get on and are happy to see each other, when we meet , but it's rarely now as people move for uni / jobs etc.

TammyJones · 12/12/2024 08:24

LadyMacbethWasMisunderstood · 11/12/2024 17:17

I’m 58 and in a fairly well paid job. My lovely uncle still gives me £20 in my birthday card plus a box of Black Magic and £20 in my Christmas card. I keep it separate and always treat myself to something and tell him what I have bought. It means a lot to me (and I treat him in return too; usually half a case of wine).

That's lovely.

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YYURYYUCICYYUR4ME · 12/12/2024 08:24

21 - and they all got a larger value gift, of their choosing at 21, and that was it!

RabbitsRock · 12/12/2024 08:25

Stopped at 18 & gave a 21st present. My niece & nephews are all working but have never bought presents for me or DH. I remember buying for at least one of my Aunts when I was young.

TammyJones · 12/12/2024 08:27

thiswaypleasethankyou · 11/12/2024 17:47

I stopped at the age they became old enough to thank me themselves for the money I sent (they live far away) but didn't, even though I have them both on social media and they use it regularly. Would have been about 14ish.

It's sad isn't.
I used to give biscuits/ card to mine and never even got a thank you- let alone a card.

FlatShoesOnly · 12/12/2024 08:43

When we reached this stage we (siblings and siblings-I-L) all agreed 18 is the end, with a 21st gift. I am not prepared to keep sending money to grown up “children” who are in a dynamic where they don’t feel they should reciprocate - and nor would I want them to. I don’t want my nieces and nephews to spend their hard earned early career money on presents for me! But the reality is that sending them £10 in an envelope into their twenties and beyond seems ridiculous and belittling, and I have so many of them that I cannot be more generous. Factor in partners and it becomes insane and worrying. If we are spending Xmas day together we would go with a secret Santa approach that all the adults participate in.

Vates · 12/12/2024 09:02

I am 39 and my Aunt & Uncle still buy for me! They bought me a hoover this year but I had it early, in October. They usually give money to my Sister and Brother in Law with some other gifts. I posted their gifts just yesterday. We all have very different financial situations (me being the least able to afford things).

My Niece and Nephew are only young (3 and 7) but I can't see myself stopping at 18. Although it will be harder to find something for them when they are teens with my limited budget. My family is quite small. They have both got a game, a book and then a small toy each this year.

showersandflowers · 13/12/2024 06:18

My DH still gives his "baby" sister money and she's 25 and has a job (she doesn't give him anything so it's not a sister-brother thing, it's a "younger member of the family" thing - she was born just before he was old enough to leave the family home so they've never had a real brother-sister relationship).

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