What age do you stop giving nieces/nephews money for Christmas

[Washywishy]

If you do stop obviously! So my niece is now 19 and working. In my family the cut off for giving money/presents was 18 years old, DH says 21.
Does everyone stop at that age or carry on?
Happy to carry on, just wondered what others did. (We don't do adult Christmas presents)

This came up for our family this year as oldest on DH side hit 18. DH assumed we would be stopping. I assumed we would not until finished university*. I told him to talk with his sibling, he didn’t, so we are setting precedent of keeping going until finish university.

*Not attending university in our extended family is scandalous. Everyone goes. Using it as a cutoff is logical.

When they leave full time education, or when they have their own children who start to receive presents- whichever is sooner

You tell the 18 year old that you have decided to stop presents at age 18, give them a gift for their 18th then put a little note in the card that there will be no more.

The 18 year old has had 18 birthday and Christmas presents. The younger ones have had x number of birthday and Christmas presents, so have x to go. Point this out to the 18 year old if they say anything and tell them that presents will stop for their siblings at 18 too.

I won't ever stop buying my nieces presents. They're members of my immediate family, why would I not buy them a present? One of our nieces is 30 now and has always been bought gifts by myself and my siblings. Only difference now she's an adult is that she also buys for us!

You tell the 18 year old that you have decided to stop presents at age 18, give them a gift for their 18th then put a little note in the card that there will be no more
God, please don't do this, it's awful. Imagine getting that note in your 18th birthday card.!

Agree. Why would you do that 😕?

Just offer the young ones a cash price to stop,
DH bought one out for 3 years and the other for 6 years. They were over the moon to get a large lump sum. He was delighted that he could now forget about it.

Well if it's not a financial hardship then never.
We don't have a huge family though. So I buy for 3 adult nieces and nephews. Spend about £30 a head. My DC get gifts from 2 aunts though DS29 is becoming uncomfortable with it so I've said it's for him to say stop.

I still buy for my nieces and nephews , eldest is 27. Can’t imagine ever stopping buying them gifts.

in my side of the family stop buying niece and nephew gifts when that niece or nephew has a baby and then the baby is bought for. Dh’s aunts and uncles had never bought them any gifts as family is huge.

I've finally told DNephew that I won't be buying his kids, my great nephews any more. They're in their 20s, and my god, it's got to stop somewhere!

My family stopped at 18. DH family have never stopped he's in his 40's! They give our children Xmas and birthday money now too. They are such a lovely, close family, we are very lucky

I’m still giving gifts to all of ours. My DP said his side of the family stops at 18 as that’s what happened to him, which was this year for eldest, but we’ve still bought a present. None of the adults on that side currently speak to us so we didn’t have anything to go by.

In my family one side stopped at 18 other side once you have children. None of those aunts or uncles have ever given anything to my child though.

Apart from one aunt still sends me something, every year for 50years. I’ve obviously been also sending to her since I was a teenager and had money.

I’ve just sent gifts to my eldest DN and their partner (I’ve not met) as they’ve moved in together. Not sure what protocol should be will so I will wait and see if I’m sent a card or gift.

We have older nieces and nephews and stopped when they were 21.

But two of my BIL didn't get my daughter anything last Christmas and she is only 12, when we stopped their children at 21, which really annoyed me.

We stopped last year, nephew turned 21, his sister was 24 and it didn't feel right to buy for one and not the other. We suggested not buying each other presents and meeting for food/day out etc instead which was agreed (still waiting for them to confirm when the kids are free 🤣)
Still felt a little miffed that they didn't even buy our kids a token gesture (youngest just turned 12) I know I shouldn't as it was our suggestion but their kids have received twice the amount of presents as ours.
So agree with so many others, it has to stop somewhere.

We stop at 18.
For the family adults, we do a secret Santa, and once someone turns 18, they join that instead 😊

I'm 38 and my aunt still sends me £20 in a card on birthdays, it's very thoughtful but I really don't need it and am not sure how to politely put a stop to it. I say every year there's really no need.

I used to love buying for my nieces and nephews, but it was never thanked and always moaned about by SIL so I stopped.

Now that they are young adults I hope to start up again! Will probably wait until they are living independently so can start with a housewarming gift.

If they don't send a thank you and/or tell us their new address when they leave home it stops. Therefore I have some in their 20s who still get gifts and some in their teens who don't. I had a right row with my mum who thought I should have got my 28 y.o. niece a present when the niece was living in a foreign country and hadn't bothered to let me know where she was. My mum thought I should have asked my brother for her address. She's 28 FFS.

I think whatever it is, its best communicated in advance. As this don't happen before 18 would it be terrible to go to 21 but have DH explain this now to his sister and DN?

How lovely!😊

Because, if you have 15 nieces and nephews, and each of them have a partner, that is 30 presents to be sorting out, before anyone even starts having children.

I've got some nieces and nephews who are coming up 18 soon, so can anyone advise me:

Do I wait until their parents tell me not to buy for them anymore, otherwise just continue giving? I would feel awkward saying I'm going to stop, or just stopping unannounced.

The other thing is it always seems a bit unbalanced as I have lots of nieces and nephews and I've only one child. I'm on my own, I buy for my side and in-laws side. Sisters, brothers, sisters-in-law and brothers-in-law all earn much more than I do.

I do feel it needs to end at some point. As a child, none of my aunties and uncles gave gifts except when we were small, certainly stopped by teens.

I do find this a dilemma, but realise from my point of view, yes you don't give to receive but I'm always on the bad end of the stick.

Personally I would tell everyone to stop gifting for my child when they are 18 but it's more difficult suggesting it for others' children! Even now we're at the stage everyone wants cash or gift cards, it's becoming merely a transaction!

My nieces and nephews are too young to think about this yet but when I was younger it stopped on my dad's side at 18 with a one off for my 21st. My mum's side all said they'd stop when we have kids and give to them instead. So my sister would have been 19, I was 27 and my brother presumably still gets it at 37!

I would suggest you suggest to the other parents that you all agree gifts stop at 18. Then they can let their kids know that is what has been agreed.

Still gift for mine at 29 and 27 but they gift me as well so it’s a lovely reciprocal thing and not me buying for children that are no longer children.