What age do you stop giving nieces/nephews money for Christmas

[Washywishy]

If you do stop obviously! So my niece is now 19 and working. In my family the cut off for giving money/presents was 18 years old, DH says 21.
Does everyone stop at that age or carry on?
Happy to carry on, just wondered what others did. (We don't do adult Christmas presents)

I would stop giving money as Christmas gifts when the recipients stop sending a formal thankyou letter - whatever their age!

This is actually a really good point!
Thanks everyone!

At 18 I would tell aunts & uncles, and whoever else, to not get mine gifts anymore. That's the general age, becoming an adult, off to university/apprenticeship/work or wherever.

My nieces and nephews are older than mine and I'm waiting for them to say don't get gifts, when the time comes. It's up to the parents to start this off. Otherwise, gifting may never end!

My neices and nephews are still young but I'll still buy them gifts or give them money equal to what I'd spend on them at Xmas (about £30 at the moment) until they have children of their own. If they don't have kids I'll spend whatever I would spend on their kids ok them. It's something my siblings and I have discussed. When they have kids they then become.part of the family secret santa group which is me, my boyfriend , my two brothers and their wives.

For birthdays, we will always buy them a small gift or give them the equivalent cash

I understand what you're saying but can I offer a word of warning?
In your scenario, a childless or child free family member is treated the same as the members of the younger generation. That is potentially patronising and upsetting for anyone who has fertility difficulties. An annual reminder that they've not got children.
I'm not trying to be arsey, just thinking about different scenarios.

I do think our thinking on this will be affected by
a) the number of nieces and nephews you have
b) if they are people you see regularly

I think it is difficult to buy for people you don't see often, as tastes / interests / even sizes (!) all change, plus you don't know what they already have.

Then it also gets difficult when they begin getting into relationships. Not only the 'when do I start buying for the other half' question, but also how you buy something for someone you don't really know.

I prefer to treat my adult nieces and nephews when I see them - take them out for lunch or whatever - rather than trying to buy the a top that's not to their taste or wasting money on a book they've already got, etc.

Our children are the only niece / nephew in my family and they still get gifts but they buy gifts for their aunts / uncles . I would think 18 or 21 is fine to stop if the gift giving isn’t reciprocal

I'm still giving my 26 year old nephew money.

We've never stopped in our family, but also buy gifts for adults.

Ten nieces and nephews, stop at 21, budget is/was £50 each birthday and Christmas, £100 for 18th and a final flourish of £210 for 21st birthday. Just starting to navigate the whole great-niece/nephew thing but might not give much to them, it could start getting very expensive.

We won't stop buying for our nieces and nephews when they turn 18. We're a close family and I can't imagine stopping. My Uncle and his family buy presents for me (and DH) and we buy for them!

Niece and nephew are early 20s, one a student and one working. We give them money every birthday and Christmas. I think DH wants to stick with the current arrangement until they are at least 30. Then SIL gives my son money (albeit less) so it ends up as a bit of a money-swapping exercise.

18 and then they get invited into the family secret Santa.

I'm struggling with this at the moment.

Especially since the two oldest ones (aged 19 and 21) have a little sibling who is 10 so we will still give money for. But seems so mean giving to one and not the other two.

I also resent it as neither of them are in education or work and sit around letting their parents provide and wait on them. I think about how many hours wages it is that I'm giving them. And I havent seen or spoken to them for a year in spite of sending them both money at their birthdays...ungrateful sods

We really should stop since its given with such resentment!

We have 14 nieces and nephews in total...will be very expensive if we never stop

My brothers just stopped giving to my two at some point when they were young adults; I’m not sure when, it was never discussed. I plan to stop giving to my nephew when he has finished full-time education.

We have just stopped at 21, will be getting a little token item rather than a bigger gift

18 on DH side (loads of them) but I still gift cash to my 22 year old nephew

DH has 3 under 18 but about 3 years ago he bought them out- he offered them a price to forgo birthday and Christmas presents in the future and they all accepted.

its been decided to be 18 by most elements of our families. However, Godparents seem to just carry on buying as do grandparents. All well and good really. I didn’t register an objection but did feel that one close family friend had an odd approach to when to stop buying DC a Birthday present. They wrote to me just before 16th to say they were stopping at 15. Seemed an odd age to stop

We stop at 21 - their 21st birthday present is their final gift. I have carried on sending them a card on their birthdays and at Christmas but I never get one back so I think this will be the last Christmas that I do not it (already bought neice and nephew cards now so might as well send them).

How do people handle this when there are siblings together? I always said I would stop at 18 (an adult!), but my nephews/niece are 12, 15, 18, all living together at home, so I feel really mean excluding the 18 year old.

When they are over 18 they become part of the secret Santa we do for the grown ups, we've had a few of the boys join in the last few years and it's actually made it so much better having more people in the draw.

I think we all enjoy gift giving tbh, I spend about £15-20 on each neice, nephew, BIL and SIL and probably double that on each sibling, couldn't imagine not doing it because someone has reached 18, 21, 25 or 30.

Just part of life in the Twat family, probably helps that we always all spend Xmas together (30 of us).

18. But usually a restaurant voucher for a small amount (eg £30) while they are still at university. Same for godchildren. Then stop, by which point they're all earning more than me!

Which is why it makes sense to stop as each 'child' gets to a certain, pre-agreed age, rather than saying "2024 is the last year".
Then it is all fair as you will have bought each nephew or niece the same number of presents (18 or 21 or whatever you decide).

If I am seeing my older nieces and nephews on the day, then I get them some chocolates or something, but don't have the stress of trying to choose something they would like, with a "proper" present.

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