Why are people so down on boys?!

[Choobakka]

I have two boys and definitely won't be having any more. I never had any particular preference regarding the sex of either of my babies. Yet since my DS2 was born 6 months ago I've had nothing but negativity from family and friends, asking me if I was going to try for a girl, videos on social media from "boy mums" feeling sad they will one day be the Grandmother on "Dad's side" and just generally loads of implication that when my boys are grown they will be all in with their female partners' families should they have female partners, and not bother with me or their Dad. Is this an accurate reflection? In this day and age? DH and I have very little to do with his parents admittedly but they're alcoholics! OTOH my brother is married and I would say he and my lovely SIL probably see more of my mum than they do of hers. My sisters' husbands seem to see lots of their own families.

@Choobakka "How would you suggest I do that? Genuine question."

I don't know. I think that's what we need to be having a discussion about! I think good male role models are important- which obviously rules out the many fathers who do not participate fully in family life, or who do not treat the mother of their sons well....

Yes agree with you. Mine is also a 50/50 parent, does all the cooking, a lot of the cleaning, alongside childcare and a demanding job. I also have friends with similar husbands, so there are many out there!

@Choobakka my OH is the same. I didn’t figure out how to work the washing machine until fairly recently. He was dealing with the teachers’ christmas present collection today. His job is undeniably more important/high pressure job than mine yet he does at least his share. There are loads of similarly wonderful men about. I can name at least 4 on my street alone.

I agree there are more catty women than men (with loads of exceptions) I think it’s called indirect agresssion. I reckon we’re all equally aggressive but have different socially permissible outlets available to us e.g be direct or even confrontational versus bitching. I think we’re born very similar to each other but tiny differences are sort of magnified by society.

Oh and congratulations on your second child! Ignore any Insta mum pressure to have a girl. Social media thrives on dissatisfaction. It’s all batshit and boys will probably be the fashion accessory of choice before long anyway!