Why do some people always seem to land on their feet…?

[Farmhouse1234]

Been pondering this lately, as I’ve a few friends who this seems to apply to.
Whilst I’m sure there’s an element of luck involved, do you think there are other factors? For the people I know I think it maybe also be linked to - confidence, an expectation that things will generally go in one’s favour, and being a generally positive person (or perhaps that’s a circular argument!).

Usually because they have self belief and drive. A good qualification helps as well.

Fall into a bucket full of tots and come out sucking my thumb was one of the funnier comments I heard from someone down on their luck
i am a firm believer in making your own luck

@Gwenhwyfar - Maybe as they refuse to do anything despite constantly embarrassing them and sometimes just not turning up at all. But I don't understand why?

I would say that I fall into this category. My mum once said to me, “You don’t know you’re born”.
I told her that I deserve the good things that I am gifted with.
I’m a good friend and a good person. I take nothing for granted. If I need help, I ask the universe for help (yes I’m woo woo) and I do things to make my own life a happy one. If you know the law of attraction you’ll understand.
I can’t help it if people want to help me or give me things/pay for things.
I dont ask them to but I’m extremely grateful for every single one of them.
That isn’t to say that I don’t get my fair share of big shit happen in my life because I bloody do.

@MsCactus I am sorry to message you. I promise I am not stalkerish!😀.
On a post that you made, you mentioned a guy that always got the women to like him. It would help me beyond belief if you could let me know what company this person worked for. If you feel you can't them maybe just the town that it was in and perhaps the type of company. I only ask as I have been made to feel that I am mad and it would just help me see more clearly. Sorry, I promise I would never need your name or anyone's name. 💚

‘Seem’ is the operative word here op, everyone has their shit to deal with. The richest family I know money wise have all had differing cancers and there’s regular scares. They’ve also had tragedies I can’t even fathom. They’re private enough that the general feeling about is ‘oh my goodness they have it all’ and it makes me feel sick when people say it.

I think this applies to me. I’d say resilience is the biggest factor, I look at everything as an opportunity rather than a problem. For example I know that I have a very high chance of being made redundant in the next two years, I worried about it for one day and then decided to prepare for it and use it as the biggest opportunity to change my life for the better in the next few years. Take the redundancy money, re-qualify , use the new qualifications to move abroad or do something more exciting. I don’t spend time blaming the government for cutting jobs, I prefer to say ok it’s happening, now what? How can I use it to my advantage?
Work wise I’ve been very successful (based on my criteria) and I’d say that changing jobs every 2-3 years was key. You get used to change and it’s no longer scary when things are unsettled. I’m quite calm and resilient at work compared to my colleagues.
I don’t tend to talk about my problems and I dislike negativity, people who complain are very tiresome to me. My attitude is you fall down, get up, dust yourself off and move on.
It doesn’t work when it comes to health though…

Social economic safety net and background - you bounce back quicker if you have resources to help you do so.

Sometime it's choices - I spent 10 year saving hard for a house then bought then 5 really stuggling round money and at time hanging on with our finger nails - then someone comes along and say oh your lucky you have a house.

Though it's also timing - a lot of work went and compromises went into getting on housing ladder but 10 years ealier the house would have been more affordable - any later we'd not have have manage it at all.

If I hadn't spent a decade saving and paying of uni debts - and I was start of that and didn't include tution fees like now - I'd have had money to plough into career development or lifestyle. At same time at least I got a career and had rent where I could save a depoist - often now that's a struggle.

There are some people who also just have oodles of charm or benfit from halo effect - which I suppsoe is gentic lottery and upbringing like health so often is.

Confidence, positivity, self-belief and resilience.

Also, the harder you work, the luckier you get.

I am sure plenty of people from privileged backgrounds end up squandering the benefits of their early life. So it is not just about what privileges you are born with.

I think sometimes tenacity and internal drive of wanting more gets overlooked.

I think DH and I did well educationally as we weren't happy where we were and options if we didn't - and wanted more -our kids are less driven becuase they are more comfortable.