My surname getting dropped from DS birthday card

[MaltipooMama]

Hi all, I have some spare time whilst my little one naps so thought I would pop on here and gather a general consensus! So our baby is turning one on Monday and as such he's had a birthday card delivered from his Dad's aunt who lives in another city, the name on the card is Master T and then only his dad's surname. His name is actually double barrelled, his dad's first and then mine second (hyphenated). This family member may not even know my surname so I kind of get it, it's not a massive deal to me and certainly not big enough to mention to my partner, but I was just wondering would you be bothered about this or not care less? Just curious really!

I would be bothered but in this case it doesn’t sound deliberate.

My kids are double barelled and my in laws always leave my name off. It is annoying, especially if they write cheques to them incorrectly. One of the boys corrected his uncle but he just said he didn't know how to spell my name 🙄 Boys are 13 and 15 so it has been going on for a while.

No

My great grandma told me her new great grandchild was a girl but she'd been given a boy's name 'Stephen'. I assumed her name was Stephanie but years later I found out her name was Joanne! Joanne is now about 50 and I wonder how she felt getting cards every year addressed to Stephen.

Dd1 has kept her surname and she gets very bothered when she receives a card saying to Dr and Mrs Partner's Name! Especially as she is also a doctor.

She's in her eighties. She is a similar age then to my mother, who would find it very unusual (even confusing) that women do no longer automatically change to their husband's name on marriage, and that any children born do not take their father's surname as a matter of course.

To my mother the name change was just "the done thing" and that is very ingrained in her although she does realise that times are now changing. So perhaps it is to some extent generational and the elderly aunt has just made an assumption?

You also acknowledge though that she may not even know your surname, so in this case I don't think you can blame her for what she has done. She's not erasing you but she isn't psychic either.

Tell her gently the next time you see her if you really must but I wouldn't let it bother me for now.