Pudding or Dessert - which one is 'posher'?

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Sitting watching Bake Off with DH and Alison Hammond has commented in a joking way to Paul Hollywood that he calls dessert 'pudding' instead. DH and I have been debating on whether the word dessert is posher than pudding. What's your thoughts on this vital topic of discussion??

Thanks, my idea exactly.

Pudding is posh. It makes me think of what public school boys call dessert!

I grew up in a dessert/serviette/lounge household and my mother thought she was being very upmarket. Sadly not.... the worst of all, lower-middle! It took me years to unlearn all this stuff, but it does make a difference as to how people view you. Occasionally, if a non-U word slips out, I have to pretend I'm being ironic 😂

We call it pudding in our house .

Brought up with 'afters' - went to quite a posh area for Uni and it soon became pudding 😄
Dessert....never

Pudding.

Mary Berry (to the PP), always says pud.

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My grandmother (which has always sounded a little formal to me)

I just see
Pudding = warm afters
Dessert = cold afters

@StormingNorman or a goat, as my Granny would have said. Shades of dowager duchess.

’Haitch’ another personal bugbear esp when used by our head of English dept. How the chap from Steps coped I’ll never know. Someone will be along to say perfectly correct in Ireland etc.

You've illustrated the point exactly though, the word 'dessert' is all about pretension and aspiring to things people perceive are luxurious/posh. The truly upper class just don't care whether it sounds fancy or gives an impression of something special because they don't care about impressing. Pudding means pudding

Where I grew up it was quite a rural / urban thing. I worked in a hotel and the locals in the town always said dessert but the people who came in from the country villages would always say pudding.

Pudding

If you choose the old fashioned way of deciding what's posher, then you choose the word that is least French/more English. So pudding, not dessert(which actually means something else) lavatory, not toilet, living room, not lounge. And in the extreme-looking glass, not mirror.

What about the use of full stops?

@CurlewKate haha, yeah probably snobs, rather than posh!

I am so posh they are irrenevant...
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Where do we stand these days on the right way to express “please repeat what you said?”

Pardon = French word, non-U, rude

What = English word, U, appropriate

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What? is correct. Pardon is awful and to quote Dame Jilly, is a much worse word than fuck.

Dessert Isn’t on that list though - it says “sweet”.

When I worked for a posh chef, he said always say “dessert” never “pudding” as it’s “common”.

@TheRutshireWI When people "correct" my DS when he says "what?", it really pisses me off. Pardon is a vulgar word.

So I think of most of the non-U words as lower middle class/upper working class (although mirror and mantlepiece seems to have won everywhere and conversely nobody says cycle rather than bike anymore. Scent v perfume is looking dodgy). I think the upper middle and middle middle have all read their Nancy Mitford and have adapted accordingly. Presumably there are now different markers that the upper class use. Like pegging.