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A FwB women has no self respect 🤣

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Heisabastard · 05/11/2024 19:30

I found out on Thursday night partner of 4 years was cheating on me.

He's trying to reconcile, so I'm humouring him a little. I'm enjoying the squirming. A lot. One of the things he's done is show me his messaging with her since I found out to show how he's told her he can't see her.

Her responses! Hilarious!

She knew about me. She knew we'd been together over 4 years. She stupidly believed he was in an open relationship. She fucked him bareback (another issue for me, I know...). He's seen her about 5 times since June.

She's got the actual gall to try to play the pick me dance! She's demanding she meet him so she can have it out with him. She says she's done nothing wrong (err, 👋). She deserves it apparently. He owes her to meet in a neutral place where he must give her his full attention for one hour or seven, however long it takes. And after that she may, or may not, take him back.

And get this... He's never going to meet a stronger woman than her. She's a fierce mama bear. You don't want to cross her or push her. She's threatened to smear his name if he, or I, tells anyone they've been fucking. Why on earth would either of us do that? Grow up woman!

If you're so strong lady, then have some self respect. Stop trying to get him to come back to you. Stop being such a piss poor role model for your teenage daughter by fucking a stranger without a condom. Look after your sexual health. Stop wanting to take back a lying cheating cunt. Stop pleading. Stop believing a few secret shags trumps a 4 year relationship.

One girl to another, be better.

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Grepes · 05/11/2024 19:31

I think your anger is misplaced.

FeistyFrankie · 05/11/2024 19:32

Maybe you should take your own advice?

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Heisabastard · 05/11/2024 19:32

I suspect she's a Mumsnet user, as she's mid 40s, middle class and looks the type.

I really want her to hear this message for the future relationships she has.

I have her phone number and email address, but sending it directly doesn't show her the replies I expect to see agreeing with me that she needs to love herself more.

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Heisabastard · 05/11/2024 19:34

Grepes · 05/11/2024 19:31

I think your anger is misplaced.

Does my post come across as angry?

It wasn't meant to.

I know he's completely in the wrong here. I'm done with him

But I can't believe a grown woman is trying to get a man back in this way. I feel sorry for her and I'm squirming at some of her messages.

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Heisabastard · 05/11/2024 19:36

FeistyFrankie · 05/11/2024 19:32

Maybe you should take your own advice?

To chuck out the trash?

I have thanks.

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corlan · 05/11/2024 19:36

You're directing your anger at the wrong person. What about your partner - where's your anger and disgust for him? He's the person that betrayed you.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 05/11/2024 19:36

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You don't think that there's anything wrong with sleeping with someone you know has a long-term partner? I agree that the OP's anger is completely misplaced, but from a moral point of view the OW has still done a shitty thing.

Spaffer · 05/11/2024 19:36

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ToriMJ · 05/11/2024 19:37

He told her he was in an open relationship?

He's the cunt here. He's lied to you both.

littlebirdieblu · 05/11/2024 19:37

Fucking hell, she is not the one in the wrong here 🙄

Kimmeridge · 05/11/2024 19:38

Fascinating stuff 🙄

Heisabastard · 05/11/2024 19:38

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Fair point. But I'm getting too much enjoyment out of watching him squirm.

Can't be arsed to be a bunny boiler. He's not worth it.

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PickleJelly · 05/11/2024 19:38

I agree that she needs to have a little more self worth. He's a cheating scumbag. But I do think your anger needs to be faced at him, or even better, channel your self worth and kick him out, block, delete and never speak with him again.

Interlaken · 05/11/2024 19:38

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Centhule · 05/11/2024 19:40

If she believed he was in an open relationship I don’t understand your anger. He sounds like he’s very good at lying and has fooled you both.

TooBigForMyBoots · 05/11/2024 19:40

He lied to her as well as you. And, just like you she's pissed off with him and wants an explanation.🤷‍♀️

username7891 · 05/11/2024 19:40

I had a female friend who only went after men in relationships, she eventually split up a marriage and was like the cat that got the cream. She thought I was a prude.

You have every right to be angry at both of them especially if she knows he's been cheating and wants to meet to talk about their relationship.

Spaffer · 05/11/2024 19:41

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mymycherrypie · 05/11/2024 19:41

Have a look again at who is playing the pick me dance. Running her down to feel better about yourself.

Belittle the man who treated her like that, not the other victim in the scenario he is also part of.

Heisabastard · 05/11/2024 19:41

ToriMJ · 05/11/2024 19:37

He told her he was in an open relationship?

He's the cunt here. He's lied to you both.

Agreed he's a cunt.

But surely once she found out he wasn't in an open relationship she should have joined me in calling him a cunt and binning him off too.

Not pleading to carry on with him. In such a cringeworthy way. Some of the messages are an embarrassment to females everywhere.

And yes, he is a cunt. I have absolutely no issue with that!

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spring49ooaA · 05/11/2024 19:42

She's not your problem, he is

Heisabastard · 05/11/2024 19:42

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I don't know if she is. I just suspect, as she seems to have that life.

I'm just hoping she reads this and digs out some self respect.

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LittleRedRidingHoody · 05/11/2024 19:43

I mean, maybe she has the same thought process as you and is planning on stringing him along and making him think she'll forgive him before dumping him too!

Happygogoat · 05/11/2024 19:43

This was awkward to read.