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A FwB women has no self respect 🤣

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Heisabastard · 05/11/2024 19:30

I found out on Thursday night partner of 4 years was cheating on me.

He's trying to reconcile, so I'm humouring him a little. I'm enjoying the squirming. A lot. One of the things he's done is show me his messaging with her since I found out to show how he's told her he can't see her.

Her responses! Hilarious!

She knew about me. She knew we'd been together over 4 years. She stupidly believed he was in an open relationship. She fucked him bareback (another issue for me, I know...). He's seen her about 5 times since June.

She's got the actual gall to try to play the pick me dance! She's demanding she meet him so she can have it out with him. She says she's done nothing wrong (err, 👋). She deserves it apparently. He owes her to meet in a neutral place where he must give her his full attention for one hour or seven, however long it takes. And after that she may, or may not, take him back.

And get this... He's never going to meet a stronger woman than her. She's a fierce mama bear. You don't want to cross her or push her. She's threatened to smear his name if he, or I, tells anyone they've been fucking. Why on earth would either of us do that? Grow up woman!

If you're so strong lady, then have some self respect. Stop trying to get him to come back to you. Stop being such a piss poor role model for your teenage daughter by fucking a stranger without a condom. Look after your sexual health. Stop wanting to take back a lying cheating cunt. Stop pleading. Stop believing a few secret shags trumps a 4 year relationship.

One girl to another, be better.

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mymycherrypie · 05/11/2024 19:43

Surely she, shouldn’t she, why wouldn’t she, maybe she

”She” is just another woman played by the same fool who played you.

look how he’s turned you in to a puppet against her

Interlaken · 05/11/2024 19:44

Heisabastard · 05/11/2024 19:42

I don't know if she is. I just suspect, as she seems to have that life.

I'm just hoping she reads this and digs out some self respect.

I’m hoping she reads this and doubles down, to be really honest, OP
🍿x 1,000,000

Heisabastard · 05/11/2024 19:46

LittleRedRidingHoody · 05/11/2024 19:43

I mean, maybe she has the same thought process as you and is planning on stringing him along and making him think she'll forgive him before dumping him too!

Ooooh, that would be a great twist. If so, good on her!

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AmICrazyToEvenBother · 05/11/2024 19:46

Heisabastard · 05/11/2024 19:34

Does my post come across as angry?

It wasn't meant to.

I know he's completely in the wrong here. I'm done with him

But I can't believe a grown woman is trying to get a man back in this way. I feel sorry for her and I'm squirming at some of her messages.

Edited

It comes across as vitriolic and pretty horrible.

Centhule · 05/11/2024 19:48

Heisabastard · 05/11/2024 19:42

I don't know if she is. I just suspect, as she seems to have that life.

I'm just hoping she reads this and digs out some self respect.

If she reads this I can guarantee she’d be more embarrassed for you than herself. This thread is not a good look for a grown woman

Spaffer · 05/11/2024 19:49

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Heisabastard · 05/11/2024 19:49

AmICrazyToEvenBother · 05/11/2024 19:46

It comes across as vitriolic and pretty horrible.

Well it was meant to publicise on a forum of mostly women that self respect is a better choice than trying to plead with a cheating cunt to return to their side.

Can't win em all.

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NiftyKoala · 05/11/2024 19:51

I don't think this is the flex you thought it was. I'm actually embarrassed for you.

namechange1986 · 05/11/2024 19:52

This was one of the cringiest, toe curling things I've ever read on here.

She's not the problem here.

betterangels · 05/11/2024 19:53

Centhule · 05/11/2024 19:48

If she reads this I can guarantee she’d be more embarrassed for you than herself. This thread is not a good look for a grown woman

My first thought. He's a player who lied to both of you. If she believed him about the open relationship, what exactly has she done wrong?

AgnesX · 05/11/2024 19:54

You sound a bit of a snot really.... middle class. Bit of an inferiority complex?

She's certainly got some thing in common with you, which is being had ( literally and metaphorically) by your idiot husband who can't keep it in his pants.

Spaffer · 05/11/2024 19:56

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AmICrazyToEvenBother · 05/11/2024 19:56

Heisabastard · 05/11/2024 19:49

Well it was meant to publicise on a forum of mostly women that self respect is a better choice than trying to plead with a cheating cunt to return to their side.

Can't win em all.

I don't think most women need that lecture, thanks.

This just reminded me of the people who came charging onto the stage on the Jeremy Kyle/Jerry Springer show shouting their heads off.

mymycherrypie · 05/11/2024 19:57

Heisabastard · 05/11/2024 19:49

Well it was meant to publicise on a forum of mostly women that self respect is a better choice than trying to plead with a cheating cunt to return to their side.

Can't win em all.

Can’t you see that behaving like this towards another woman that your partner has lied to, reading her messages and quoting them online, is only publicising how little self respect you have. You’re pleading us to ageee with you about this woman who was only lied to, the same way you were. It sounds as desperate as she does.

mymycherrypie · 05/11/2024 19:58

“I’m not like HER, I’d never do xyx”

PICK ME

bostonchamps · 05/11/2024 20:00

Just to add to all of the above: it takes two to fuck bareback - she didn't fuck him, they fucked

I get you're angry but maybe spew that anger to people you trust over a glass of wine vs posting embarrassing drivel on a public forum?

Heisabastard · 05/11/2024 20:04

mymycherrypie · 05/11/2024 19:57

Can’t you see that behaving like this towards another woman that your partner has lied to, reading her messages and quoting them online, is only publicising how little self respect you have. You’re pleading us to ageee with you about this woman who was only lied to, the same way you were. It sounds as desperate as she does.

The messages have come AFTER she's found out he lied to her.

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Simplepink · 05/11/2024 20:06

Oh ffs stop being so mean to the OP - of course she’s allowed to be angry with the woman fucking her partner then begging him to continue. No ones toes are curling with cringe blah blah blah

MillyMichaelson · 05/11/2024 20:07

You sound so angry it's embarrassing.

Rant about your cheating prick of an ex (who you're 'humouring') instead.

MillyMichaelson · 05/11/2024 20:08

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What the fuck!?

Heisabastard · 05/11/2024 20:08

Simplepink · 05/11/2024 20:06

Oh ffs stop being so mean to the OP - of course she’s allowed to be angry with the woman fucking her partner then begging him to continue. No ones toes are curling with cringe blah blah blah

It's the Mumsnet way 🤣

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LikeARunnerHo · 05/11/2024 20:08

Happygogoat · 05/11/2024 19:43

This was awkward to read.

Right🤣

I do think people need to understand when to post on an anonymous forum and when to send a message to their friends instead

Newsenmum · 05/11/2024 20:09

Heisabastard · 05/11/2024 19:36

To chuck out the trash?

I have thanks.

But she probably thought she was dating something in an open relationship…

Apolloneuro · 05/11/2024 20:11

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OP sounds ready to catch on fire.

ohyesido · 05/11/2024 20:11

Why not send this to her instead of posting it on here? This will go badly for you