Living with misophonia. Anyone who has misophonia want to chat? My son is a gobbler and I want to do terrible things!!!

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My son is in the room with me and he's eating.

Gobble gobble chomp chomp grunt ahhhh grunt chomp gobble gobble sigh.

How loaded is your fucking fork if you're grunting like you're deadlifting a horse?

I feel a murderous rage and at the same time i want to cry.

I hate eating with people and avoid it as much as possible because not only do I fantasise about plucking people's eyes out with my fork and beating them to death with it but I'm so paranoid about my own eating noises that I can't force food down and need to take tiny bites and drink water to force each bite down.

My sister is blind and came to stay. We had to eat together so i sat at the other side of the room and I had to have her play an audio book while I had a towel that I shoved in front of my mouth while I chewed in an attempt to muffle any noise I might make.

I know it's a condition people joke about and don't take seriously but it's utterly miserable to have to cope with this.

I want to yell at my son which is unreasonable and unfair so I won't but the pent up rage feels like a physical pain in my chest.

I'd love to talk with fellow sufferers about this godawful thing.

Misery loves company, I suppose.

Edit - my late dad had it too. I remember him yelling at me that my dinner was already dead so I didn't need to growl at it. That is when I started to become paranoid about making any noise when eating.

Have you tried flare audio ear plugs? They don't reduce volume but filter out irritating frequencies

I haven't heard of them. I'll Google. Thsnk you.

I simply can’t eat in a quiet room.

We have to have music playing when we’re at the table. I had the misfortune to marry someone that can make eating soup sound like a horse eating an apple, so background noise is what keeps me out of prison.

Thankfully, I passed my intolerances on to our kids, so they are quiet eaters.

Yeah. The article under my mugshot will definitely read "husband ate an apple."

I have it, OP. Mine started due to hormone changes, trauma and ongoing stress, I think. It's awful. Weirdly I don't really notice it when I'm eating with other people, but if they are eating and I'm not it's awful. Or if someone is speaking and I can hear their tongue against the roof of their mouth, sort of a sucky clicky noise. Unfortunately my lovely but very noisy dog has become one of my worst triggers, to the point where I've thought I might need to rehome her. It feels like torture. People don't realise how debilitating it can be.

Loop earplugs help a lot.

I wear wax earplugs while eating if that's worth a try? You can still just about hear people talk but no dreaded mouth noise.

If your son is old enough, I'd absolutely be nagging him about his eating. Sloppy eating is a very unattractive habit, he'd be better off getting out of it now rather than when he's a grown man!

I have it. I remember clearly a horrific meal at MILs where she was squeakily chewing lettuce with her false teeth clicking 🤢

Its thankfully not all the time for me, but its awful when it is.

My sympathies. I too feel murderous rage for my otherwise lovely in-laws, especially when they slurp and inhale Chinese takeaways. Snorty, snuffling, wet noises. I mentally have to steel myself every meal and eat very, very calmly.

We have a TV on the wall. Some mindless drivle on masks the noise. I also take a 10mg sleeping pill to sleep past the noise of dh breathing. I mean how fucking dare he?

Ear plugs are going to amplify the sound of your chewing - I don’t recommend it!

Yes, my husbands mouth is cavernous and makes even the tiniest crumb sound likes he’s munching bones

Loop headphones or white noise in background

Oh I feel your pain! I was in a meeting the other day and to my horror a colleague started handing out chewing gum and I had an almost uncontrollable urge to leap out of my seat and run out of the room. It was unbearable and I couldn't concentrate on anything that was said. Surrounded by clicking, squeaking, squelching.

Been the bane of my life for years. BUT my children all eat beautifully!

Interesting about the loop ear buds though - might give them a try!

My colleague has started chewing gum

i actually hate her fucking guts for it

Oh its just horrible isn't it?

I try to stay calm and reasonable because I do understand this is my issue and eating is a normal activity but it just gets louder and louder and louder and I do my deep breathing exercises and go to my happy place

Which is where I fantasise about murdering noisy eaters in gruesome ways.

Which Loop ones do you recommend please? They seem to have a few different ones.

I have misophonia and it is miserable, I can relate.

I'm planning on trying CBT in the new year in the hope it might help me cope.

Full sympathy here. It is so debilitating isn't it? Rage/tearfulness all at once is exactly it. Sometimes dh starts clashing teeth like an effing snapping turtle. I have to leave. Oh and a very dear friend clashes her cutlery on her teeth. Oh my God! 💐 for fellow sufferers.

I have really bad misophonia to the point where I have to leave the room if my husband / dad/ brother/ MIL/ Mum eat next to me. The only people I don't get this with are my 2 boys. No idea why but their eating doesn't bother me in the slightest.

I'm only reading the thread out of interest and sympathy.

But ilovemyshed's post is enough to give me the bloody condition!!

ewwwww

I find persistent coughing or sniffing unbearable. I live on my own at least but public transport makes me rage unless I have music on loud and the office at this time of year is the same with all the colds.

You do realise that the problem is most likely not that her son is actually a noisy eater, it’s that she is hyper-sensitive to completely normal noises?

I don’t have misophonia and not once in my life have I heard anyone make an eating noise that even slightly approaches the extreme descriptions in this thread.

I can imagine from the intensity of the descriptions how torturous it must be to suffer from it but the answer is not to starting berating other people into becoming paranoid about the sounds they are making while eating.

If the OP thinks her son actually may be an unusually noisy eater she should ask someone who doesn’t suffer from misophonia to sense-check her take and if they agree that it’s a bit much, they can have a word in a way that is likely to be far more regulated than the OP might be able to manage.

It is so awful. The thing is, I know everyone in my life is probably eating perfectly normally considering nobody else even notices. But for me, my fight or flight kicks in and I just cannot do it. It is terrible. I really sympathsie

I'm well known for my hatred of hearing people eat/ breathe amongst my family and friends, have been since I was a teenager.

It's beyond horrific, I use Loops while others are eating but I can't use them when I eat because then the sound of my own eating is amplified...even seeing people eating annoys me... I know I have issues. Thankfully my children are quiet eaters because otherwise I'd be in hell

Oh I hear you all!

My DH has a clicking jaw and a penchant for haribo. It's a visceral knot in my stomach that only fellow sufferers will understand.

Eating on trains should be banned. And don't get me started on the noise from tinny headphones.

Sending solidarity to all!