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Don't want to take the kids trick or treat .

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Shithole101 · 30/10/2024 09:27

I really don't want to.take the kids trick or treat . I don't feel up to it at all. But also we have not done anything at all this half term. So I feel like I should at least do trick or treat
But I really don' t want to.

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Edingril · 30/10/2024 09:28

Not everyone does we haven't ever

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Shithole101 · 30/10/2024 09:30

Edingril · 30/10/2024 09:28

Not everyone does we haven't ever

Yeah I know but we have for the past few years . And both kids are asking to go . Abd they are getting their hopes up that we will .

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GhosterPoster · 30/10/2024 09:33

Have a party at home. Duck for apples, make witches finger hotdogs, put a Halloween playlist on Spotify, get cheap decorations from the supermarket and do pumpkin carving. Halloween Arts and crafts sets from Baker Ross on Amazon come next day.

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ComtesseDeSpair · 30/10/2024 09:33

How old are they? In my ‘hood, parents just walk up and down the streets and then wait at front gates / end of driveways whilst the kids go up to front doors to do their thing. Surely that wouldn’t take too much “feeling up to”, a 45 minute stroll around your immediate local area. Take a travel cup of tea for warmth. Invite a friend to chat to as you walk.

Rewilder · 30/10/2024 09:34

ComtesseDeSpair · 30/10/2024 09:33

How old are they? In my ‘hood, parents just walk up and down the streets and then wait at front gates / end of driveways whilst the kids go up to front doors to do their thing. Surely that wouldn’t take too much “feeling up to”, a 45 minute stroll around your immediate local area. Take a travel cup of tea for warmth. Invite a friend to chat to as you walk.

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This. It’s a fairly minimal commitment unless you’re seriously unwell or have mobility issues.

ButterCrackers · 30/10/2024 09:34

Do some non Halloween games at home instead. The kids will have a great time.

MermaidEyes · 30/10/2024 09:35

ComtesseDeSpair · 30/10/2024 09:33

How old are they? In my ‘hood, parents just walk up and down the streets and then wait at front gates / end of driveways whilst the kids go up to front doors to do their thing. Surely that wouldn’t take too much “feeling up to”, a 45 minute stroll around your immediate local area. Take a travel cup of tea for warmth. Invite a friend to chat to as you walk.

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We used to do this too.
Honestly OP, it won't be long before your kids are too old for it and they'll be off to Halloween parties instead. Make the most of it, it's only once a year.

thesunisastar · 30/10/2024 09:37

Why not? There is a big difference between "can't be arsed" and "I'm recovering from major surgery".

If its the former then I think you should take them, it's so much fun for kids and why should they miss out because you can't be bothered?

If its something along the lines of the latter, then obviously only you can judge what you can and cannot manage, and if you genuinely aren't able to take them then of course you shouldn't feel bad about that.

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Shithole101 · 30/10/2024 09:37

GhosterPoster · 30/10/2024 09:33

Have a party at home. Duck for apples, make witches finger hotdogs, put a Halloween playlist on Spotify, get cheap decorations from the supermarket and do pumpkin carving. Halloween Arts and crafts sets from Baker Ross on Amazon come next day.

I don't have anything in like that . I don't want to go out either. I don't drive. I don't want the hassle of the buses and people. I haven't been in a super market for years . I hate them

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Shithole101 · 30/10/2024 09:39

ComtesseDeSpair · 30/10/2024 09:33

How old are they? In my ‘hood, parents just walk up and down the streets and then wait at front gates / end of driveways whilst the kids go up to front doors to do their thing. Surely that wouldn’t take too much “feeling up to”, a 45 minute stroll around your immediate local area. Take a travel cup of tea for warmth. Invite a friend to chat to as you walk.

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It does feel to much though. I don't have anyone to ask for company

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poppetandmog · 30/10/2024 09:40

When you say you haven't done anything over half term, have you left the house?

SemperIdem · 30/10/2024 09:41

Do you really need someone for company for 45 minutes?

Are you struggling with mental health issues?

TTPDTS · 30/10/2024 09:41

How old are the DC?

It sounds like it'll be nice for them to spend an hour out of the house, it might not be your dream way of spending an evening but in this case I would do it for them.

From your replies it sounds like perhaps there's a few more issues on your end than just children wanting to trick or treat?

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Shithole101 · 30/10/2024 09:42

thesunisastar · 30/10/2024 09:37

Why not? There is a big difference between "can't be arsed" and "I'm recovering from major surgery".

If its the former then I think you should take them, it's so much fun for kids and why should they miss out because you can't be bothered?

If its something along the lines of the latter, then obviously only you can judge what you can and cannot manage, and if you genuinely aren't able to take them then of course you shouldn't feel bad about that.

I had all my teeth removed and feel crap. Does that count ?

And yeah I get what your saying I just feel run down . Very drained and tired .

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SemperIdem · 30/10/2024 09:44

Can understand your thinking more post update. That sounds horrible op, re your teeth. Honestly not surprised you’re not feeling great.

Do you live somewhere where ordering groceries via deliveroo/Uber so you can play Halloween games with them is possible?

AhBiscuits · 30/10/2024 09:44

How old are the children? Can't you arrange for them to meet a school friend to walk round with? Having kids involves doing stuff you don't really fancy doing.

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Shithole101 · 30/10/2024 09:45

poppetandmog · 30/10/2024 09:40

When you say you haven't done anything over half term, have you left the house?

I went to the dentist yesterday. Apart from that I have not left the house . Dd took the kids to the local shop a couple of times . They have played in the garden. On Xbox and with toys a bit. But we have not Been out

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InTheRainOnATrain · 30/10/2024 09:45

I don’t think any sane adult actually wants to go! It’s just one of those things you suck up once a year because the kids love it. If you’re physically capable of a 30 minute stroll around the block and the only real objection is you can’t be arsed and the kids do really want to go then it would be pretty harsh not to take them. As PP says adults generally hang back whilst kids do the knocking anyway. And it’s a hell of a lot easier than the alternative suggestion of ‘halloween crafts’ or ‘pumpkin carving’ at home.

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Shithole101 · 30/10/2024 09:46

AhBiscuits · 30/10/2024 09:44

How old are the children? Can't you arrange for them to meet a school friend to walk round with? Having kids involves doing stuff you don't really fancy doing.

We don't live close to their school

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Comedycook · 30/10/2024 09:46

You sound really down op...can you manage a walk round the block...no need to chat to anyone

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Shithole101 · 30/10/2024 09:49

SemperIdem · 30/10/2024 09:41

Do you really need someone for company for 45 minutes?

Are you struggling with mental health issues?

Someone suggested walking with a friend. So I replied.

I don't think so . Or maybe possibly
I think its more to do with energy levels. Animia /problems with iron etc . Which ik trying to get on top off . I'm Constantly tired. I get breathless really easily.

I think its a combination of things maybe

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Rewilder · 30/10/2024 09:49

Having all your teeth out sounds horrifying. However, if your children have barely left the house in days, I’d suck down some painkillers and take them out for even half an hour. You presumably don’t want ‘company’ if your mouth is painful and you don’t want to talk? Just stand at gates and let your children ring the doorbell and do the talking.

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Shithole101 · 30/10/2024 09:50

Comedycook · 30/10/2024 09:46

You sound really down op...can you manage a walk round the block...no need to chat to anyone

Yeah maybe I can do it like that . Sounds like a good idea

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Needmorelego · 30/10/2024 09:52

How old is your daughter that took them to the shops?
Could she take them?
Having had dental work is a perfectly fine reason for not going out - you feel crap.

Needmorelego · 30/10/2024 09:53

Is there a parent of a school friend that can come and collect them and take them out with their children?

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