Don't want to take the kids trick or treat .

[Shithole101]

I really don't want to.take the kids trick or treat . I don't feel up to it at all. But also we have not done anything at all this half term. So I feel like I should at least do trick or treat
But I really don' t want to.

Op do you have a local playground? You could take the kids out there you'll all feel better for fresh air

And have a spooky movie night to celebrate together?

I don't think that's all that unusual really, going out with her mum and siblings is a bit different to actually taking smaller kids out alone.

Wrap up, dose up, stand back and let the kids do the knocking and talking, an hour out and you're done. Hope you feel better soon!

Sounds like a tough time. However if physically possible i would do trick or treating as kids are expecting to and excited.

Doesn't need to be long 30 mins, and stand back from doors so no socialisng.

I can't make her do that. I will them though.

Tbh trick or treating isn’t really hard work in the first place. I assumed OP had issues around going out or something.

@Shithole101 what I meant was at 14 she should understand you aren't well and take the younger ones for you.

You must feel like shit after the dentist OP. But it sounds like you were already struggling with your mental health? Are you getting any support? I rarely want to do for a walk but never regret it if I do. Take your kids to the park and let them have a run around. I bet you'll all feel better for it.

Oh sorry I misunderstood. I think teenagers can be quite selfish though. So it does always work out. And I'm not up for the teenage strop stuff.

@Shithole101 yes I know some teenagers can be a bit of a pain in the bum 🙁

I'm just drained generally. Probably feeling a bit sorry for myself. I will definitely take them trick or treat even if its just for a short while.

Not really fair for the kids to be cooped up all half term. Is this a constant thing as you should see your GP if it is.

Op gently you have kids, you haven’t taken them out at all this half term and trick or treating really is minimal effort. I’m struggling myself this half term, 3 kids under 7, I’ve been struggling mentally & would like nothing more than a day to myself under a duvet but that’s not fair on the kids is it? I hope you feel better anyway, some fresh air will probably help clear your mind.

Are you the op with the housework threads? If so I know you struggle with things but look what you managed to do with clearing your clutter and cleaning each room once you put your mind to it. Obviously the dentist procedure sounds awful and will hold you back but if the kids haven't left the house all week I think it would give you all a bit ofa Boost to get out in the fresh air for half hour and they will love it.

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have you missed the bit about the poor woman needing to get all her teeth removed?!

*This person is a regular poster who we often (willingly) give support to.

That's really good OP that you've decided to take them, perhaps have a nice bath/shower, wash your hair etc, get dosed up on painkillers and wrap up warmly. the walk and fresh air will do you all good, just half an hour or so around the block will be absolutely fine. Hope you're feeling better soon.

Yeah I will definitely do that. I'm in no dental pain though to be honest . But does ibuprofen take swelling down ? Or have I imagined that .

And people's support has Been lovely and although I go up and down a bit. There's been more ups than down. Well I think so anyway.

I don't think that people are being fair to the 14-year-old. It sounds like she IS stepping up - she's the only reason the younger kids have left the house recently.

I have not agreed at any point that dd should take the kids trick or treat. Someone suggested it and I said I doubt she would want to . She litterly took them to the local shop about 10 houses away.

Others have made some good suggestions about local support to take the kids or have some fun at home.

No one in good mental and physical health ends up having all their teeth removed and not pre-planning some fun for their kids over half term knowing they'd be feeling rough after dental work. You sound very down and I'd suggest going to see your GP.

But you did talk about selfishness of teenagers and not being able to deal with a stromp (implying that she would have one if asked). And others have talked about her needing to step up. I’m pointing out that she already has - it might only be ten doors down but they wouldn’t even have had that if it weren’t for her.

I think you are right, you will feel better taking them around the block. Sometimes the thought of it is worse than the reality, and staying at home seems like the best idea but actually makes you feel worse. The kids will love it and they will be kept busy with their sweets afterwards.
My sons are still very young, so we stay in and give sweets out, I do not expect any conversation with the parent (although it is nice when they do) and most stay at the end of the path on the road and let their children knock, so you can just stand back and let them get on with it!

Yeah but it was just a suggestion and I did say she would not want to. And I said I can't be dealing with a stroppy teenager . Which was meant light heared . A couple just said it as a suggestion. There has not been post after post saying dd should step up.

Yes, it does count big thing. My sympathies.
could you get them Halloween cupcakes/ cookies or similar from the nearest shop and put them on a Halloween film?

I wouldn’t take them. We spend all year advising kids to be cautious with strangers then throw all that to the wind for one night and encourage them to knock on said strangers’ doors and beg for sweets.

I would try to get them out for a couple of hours though, OP. Your treatment sounds bloody awful and I would probably just want to crawl into bed too. You have kids, though, and can’t.
Is there a Halloween trail at an NT property nearby or a woodland path you could walk along. Then home for popcorn and a “scary” movie?

Where’s their dad?

I never felt like it either. But I use to do it, like a load of other stuff you end up doing for your children. A mere hour and they get so much joy out of it.
It can actually be alright, and a chance to see who lives where so I think it's good for the community.