Don't want to take the kids trick or treat .

[Shithole101]

I really don't want to.take the kids trick or treat . I don't feel up to it at all. But also we have not done anything at all this half term. So I feel like I should at least do trick or treat
But I really don' t want to.

Yeah I'm 100% not up for the crafts etc . Maybe I will just take them round the block. May even feel different once we are out.

It is a very low level task - literally walking round the block, leaving them to knock doors. I would make the effort as tbh their half terms seems pretty low key - only leaving the house to go to a shop... they are probably keen to get out and do something a bit more exciting!

Of course that counts OP, I'm so sorry, that sounds awful. I'm not surprised you are feeling exhausted. Have you got anyone supporting you? Are you able to eat/drink?

Why not see how you are feeling tomorrow lunchtime? You could always set the expectation then that you are just going to do x houses / 30 mins or whatever you think is manageable. But if you can't face it then give yourself a break and do something at home this year. I'm not sure how old your children are but mine still love Trick or Treating in Y8 (don't worry, they don't go in a big threatening gang or anything) so you may have plenty of years left to enjoy the fun.

We don't live near their school

If you have any decorated houses near you walk around them but maybe say to them first it will be short walk only, don't run off etc

I think that you're overthinking this and that your confidence has taken a bit of a dive. Getting out can be difficult at times, especially if you also feel under the weather and it's cold outside. However, i think that if you do manage a quick 30 min walk, you will feel a bit better for it. And it will banish the mum guilt which will lift the mood.

Do you have anything that you could use for costumes? Could they make a simple costume themselves to keep them occupied whilst you rest up a bit?

What do you think might feel manageable to you? Could you manage 10 minutes of trick or treating on your road, followed by a movie at home?

What could you do today to help lift your mood? Could you go for a short walk? Set up some craft activities for your kids? I would start by setting yourself a simple goal, even if only 5 mins of something to boost your mood and energy levels.

She's 14. She could take then trick or treat but I doubt very much she will want to .

That sounds tough, OP.

Hope your mouth is recovering ok.

It would be nice to do something for the kids - you could get a supermarket delivery of things you would need to do them a little party, but on balance I think probably supervising for half an hour while they knock on doors would be easier for you, less work.

Take it easy today, then tomorrow take plenty painkillers, wrap up warm and just wait at the gates while they knock doors. Just give a cheery wave if needed, that should be all that's needed.

Remember to only go to doors with pumpkins / decorations and there should be no interaction needed - kids tell their joke and get their sweets.

@Shithole101 are you in contact with any of their school friends though?
Some parents would be happy to drive over and collect them and take them out for an hour or two.

Yeah I know. I will do that

I won't take my kids. Don't believe in it. Think it's begging

@Shithole101 at 14 she should understand you are in pain and feeling crap.

Hope you feel better soon op, sounds tough with the teeth. We can’t afford to ‘do’ anything so will put some apples in a bowl and duck for apples, watch a fun Halloween movie, I’ll throw on a sheet and pretend to be a ghost and we’ll trick or treat and I’m trying to figure out if we have enough in to bake . If you can make a goal of 5 houses where you wait at the gate of each house they’ll feel it’s a tick box. Take care x

@teatoast8 that's irrelevant to this thread.

For your kids sake please take them out to do something or ask DD to take them trick or treating, it sounds like a miserable time for you but your kids should get to do something enjoyable, they will remember this

What do they’re holidays normally look like. Is this just a one off or are you like this all the time? If it’s all the time you need to see your GP. If it’s one off that’s fine. Get some party food (online delivery) and watch a film.

Surely the 14 year old goes out with her friends?

So don't. It's not a legal requirement!

I've never taken mine because "I'm not taking you to beg at strangers houses..."
I'm more of a 'let's turn the lights out, watch a spooky movie and eat sweets" kinda Halloween Mum

could you pay her? I just had one tooth out and was very dramatic about it so can only imagine how you’re feeling.

A walk around the block may well do you some good though. Down some good painkillers and remember it’s only half an hour?

I think I will take them . But just round the block like a few people have suggested. I might feel different once I'm out.

Costume wise they have the stuff they wore Halloween party at school. Of they haven't trashed it.

I don't really want to do anything today. My head hurts . I feel hungry and drained. It's only 10am maybe I will lift a bit later

The funny thing is she won't want to take them
But will want to tag along if I do

Do literally around the block/your street only. Painkillers before you go. You don't have to go up to the doors yourself just hover in the background.
Then bring them home and stick a Halloween film on for them while they eat some of their sweets.
Easier to do that than crafts or a party I think

It's not my 14 year old that wants to ho its the 2 younger ones

Remember to only go to doors with pumpkins / decorations and there should be no interaction needed - kids tell their joke and get their sweets.

Its even easier than that round by us. Kids just ring the bell, say ‘trick or treat?’ and get offered a bowl of sweets. Never known jokes involved!

This sounds much harder work than trick or treat!

I missed that you have a 14YO! She should take the younger ones! I know ideally she should do it to help mum after her dental procedure (poor you, sounds awful!) but teens be teens so could you not pay her £5 to do it?