My daughter is in labour and I'm a mess of emotion

[Eremomila]

As above. My adult daughter is in labour with her first baby, her partner is with her, and I will get updates from time to time.
I won't be mithering them for updates, I'm happy to hear whenever they choose to update, including if they wait until baby comes, but I'm a mess of emotion and worry. I just hope all goes well for her and the baby and it's not too awful.
She's been in early stages of labour since early this morning, has been up to the hospital and sent home again. She says she's doing ok.
Just sharing on here as I have nobody around at the moment to share with, and hoping that some can understand my emotions at my lovely daughter now being in the process of birthing her own child.
I can remember my labour and her birth so well, as if it was yesterday. I was in labour a long time, and she was born at home (as intended).
Feeling quite teary at the moment with the wonder of it all.

I'm the MIL was a nervous wreck with both my DILs. So grateful for beautiful grandchildren.

Aww I am so glad I started this thread, what really lovely and supportive comments, thank you all so much. It's so nice to be able to share this with women who truly understand.
I've actually just been speaking to my sister on the phone, she must have a sixth sense, she called me to see how things are, she doesn't usually call this late. She's my big sister and it was lovely to speak to her, she has four grandchildren so knows this well.
So I'm going to try to get some sleep now, I'm sure I will be waking during the night to check my phone.
I will come back and update the thread.
Thank you all again, I really appreciate it xx

I don't think 36hrs is particularly slow for a first labour. I'd think that quite average tbh. Mine was 28hrs and lots of people told me how lucky I was!
Just mean I don't think you've much to worry about yet with slow labour and things going wrong. She might well be quite far off but still have a good birth.

Blimey I was 14 hours with all three, second stage never more than half an hour. When daughter in law was 26 hours, then a c section at the end of it all I was so sorry for her.

Best wishes for the new parents. Being a GP in such a blessing. I’m so excited for you!

I know exactly how you feel, excited, worried, overwhelmed all at once. I’ve been through it with my daughters and daughter in law.
But it’s the best feeling when it’s over and you can have your baby granddaughter in your arm, you never get tired of looking at photos and watching them grow!
I am a granny, I love being a granny to all my precious amazing grandchildren. Congratulations and Best wishes for the birth of your very first grandchild. 🌸

Blimey, I was 12 hours from waters breaking to having him in my arms and very glad it was no longer. Midwife did say my contractions were furious though (explains why they hurt so much!)

OP, I hope everything goes smoothly for your daughter and you're able to hold her, and your precious granddaughter soon. I remember calling my mum after the doctor said I was at 8cm. She lives a couple of hours away and was on her way to the train station by 7am and so excited. I don't actually know if she was worried, she never said. Her and my mother in law turned up at the hospital together as soon as we were allowed visitors and those first photos are so precious to me.

I was roped in as babysitter for two of my grandchildren while their sister was being born. I swore I’d go to bed if it got late, but at 5am when my son, daughter-in-law and 2 hour old newest (and last) granddaughter came home, I was still pacing the floor, with what felt like my 50th cup of tea, much to their amusement. I hope your night is only interrupted for good news, and that your daughter has either a restful night or a good birth.

How exciting! I hope you hear very soon ☺️

How lovely op. I'm wishing you happy news asap x

When my dd was pregnant with her first, I was so excited. I already had 2dgc from my son, but this was so different. Initially they planned it would just be the 2 of them at the birth, I can’t lie I was a bit disappointed, but hid it well. The night she went into labour, she called me at midnight to check that her waters had gone, because she was worried that she had wet herself. I told her to get some rest, because it could be a long night. At 2am, they called to say they were on the way in as her contractions were every 3 mins. I wished them good luck and started pacing. At 4am, her partner called to give me an update, during the call I could hear her screaming “I want my mum, I want my mum, get her here now!”

I have never dressed so fast ever. I was honoured and privileged to see my DGD arrive in the world within a couple of hours of my getting there. They asked me to dress her so they could see how it was done. I did that and left them to it.

When they had their second baby, I had my DGD here and as soon as she was born, they wanted us there to meet her. To have been part of that experience was magical.

I have an incredible bond with all my dgc, but I am bonded totally with my dd children, they are my little heartbeats.

I hope your precious bundle arrives safely and soon. Welcome to the grandparent club, it is a very special honour xx

Aww how lovely is this! I wish my mum cared about me as much as you seem to about your daughter! Being a grandma will be amazing! Congratulations

Awww @Eremomila I'm all teary now.
Your baby's having a baby! 🥹🩷💐

Hope everything goes well and she gives birth soon ❤️

Best wishes OP. How exciting!

Ahh op I was you in Nov 2022 ! My daughter lives 3.5 hours away and we’d actually booked to go and stay in the area to visit my mum on DD’s due date , not expecting her to go into the Labour then , but the morning we set off she went into Labour.
I was a bag of nerves and her Labour was drawn out , Saturday Eve both me and my mum were watching our phones like hawks and DD was updating me through the night , exhausted bless her and I felt so helpless . I think I was awake all night 🙈
when her partner messaged us all to say he’d arrived on the Sunday , I knew she’d asked for no visitors while they were in hospital but she’d had such a rough time (ended up with an emergency section)
That she said come to the hospital , I think she just wanted a hug . I felt so honoured to get that first cuddle with my new grandson and to give her the biggest hug .
he’s almost two now and I love him to bits , we both visit each other as much as we can .
Hopefully your little granddaughter will be here soon !

It’s the sacred lineage aspect; only a woman really understands the vulnerable nature of bring life into the world. You love your daughter more than yourself. May she be safe, and may your little grandchild be blessed and joyous ❤️

Any update OP?

I didn't get it at all when I was the daughter in this situation. I was like, chill out Mum I'll call you when it's over, no big deal. Now I'm a Mum, I do. The thought of my baby having a baby... They're nearly adults now. But still my babies. I get it.
Congratulations and hope it all goes well.

No updates yet 😊

Bless you! It’s the most incredible feeling when your babies are having babies.

I have 2 daughters, the younger one was the first to have a baby, 9 1/2 years ago, her and her husband asked me to be their second birthing partner. As it happened she ended up having a c-section after baby got stuck so I was left in the delivery room pacing the floor! Thankfully I was able to be with my daughter and new granddaughter for a few hours in the recovery ward (very quiet as hardly any babies born that night/day), it was especially poignant as she was born just 3 months after my mum passed away, and was named after her - they’d decided not to find out baby’s gender beforehand.

Elder daughter and her husband had a rough few years with miscarriages and then had their rainbow daughter after first attempt through IVF. We all got a message at 8:30am saying she’d gone into labour and they were at the hospital - then silence for hours. I was at the hairdressers for a couple of hours and I lost count of the times I cried whilst I was there, I was so agitated and worried. Finally heard from my son-in-law around 4pm that all was well but my daughter had had a rough time. I was at theirs most days to help out for a few weeks afterwards.

Grandchildren 3,4 and 5 were all born whilst I looked after their older siblings, so was absolutely kept in the loop. Even better I was at their homes when they came back with the new babies.

Can you tell that I love being a Nana?!

I hope you hear soon that that precious baby has been born.

You might as well go to sleep - the baby could well not be born until the afternoon or evening!

Aw this is lovely. I don't think my mum gave a sht. When I saw her a few days after birth and tried to tell her about it, I was quite shell-shocked after a 3-day homebirth, she told me to tell someone else as she didn't want to know. As a mother myself I can't imagine being like that. I hope it goes well for them all and you'll be there with them soon to meet your grandaughter.

Trying to sleep but unable to. Was just drifting off and my phone pinged so I shot up, only to find it was an automated message from morrisons damn them. Now wide awake.

This thread is so beautiful. Hope you have good news soon OP.