What would stop you travelling to/from events etc. alone?

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Friend has proposed a London get together for a group of us that met as young people in our hometown. The distance to travel into London varies from 20-60 mins. 3 of the group live in our hometown and would normally travel together by train to any London based meets by direct fast train. Only one of the 3 can make it this time and she’s said she can’t travel by train or drive up on her own and her partner can’t accompany her that day so won’t come this time.

It’s got me wondering whether this is something other women worry about. I’m not single, but often travel to visit friends or family and when DH has had spells of working abroad, I’ve flown out to join him for a few days.

How many of you don’t like to travel alone?

I don’t get it

You meet regularly
you have known each other for years
You are close to her

So why are you doubting her?

Um errr, what am I doubting?

I have presented facts of a situation. I accept that we can’t persuade and that it is fear of solo travel to London.

I asked how others feel about solo travel as an original post.

We can and we have and I’ve said this.

The original post asks what other people might feel limits them in relation to solo travel.

But if you’ve done as Pp advised

you obviously think she’s being silly

is it a special date for you Op ie your birthday?

How many others in the group?

you have said this to her?

Erm, already done it. I don’t think she’s being silly, I am sad she’s limited her horizons.

The thread is about asking what limits Mumsnetters horizons along similar lines.

Is this about having to do return travel in the dark? Otherwise, not sure I get it. 20-60 mins to get to London is less than I did to commute to London every day for a while. Big problem at the moment is unreliability with trains being cancelled, on strike etc. Check live updates. Text friends your whereabouts. Is this a general anxiety issue???

Yes, but not using that ‘OMG …’ terminology. I’m not asking for a solution, I’m asking if Mumsnetters have any limits to their horizons.

the thread is clearly about this person not coming to something you have arranged and you’re pissed off with her reasoning

out of interest….how many others are in the group

So her non attendance isn’t purely about not travelling alone on the train

It’s a general anxiety issue in relation to London mostly in the case of my friend.

The thread is asking about what Mumsnetters feel limits their own horizons

seems to me if she’s also unwilling to drive to you and go together…. she just doesn’t fancy joining

but she’s also not willing to come to you and travel in together

I know a few people like this. It's usually nothing to do with safety or anything practical, they also wouldn't go to an exercise class alone or for a coffee. If they are tired and want to leave early they expect someone else to leave with them, I wonder how they hold jobs down at all. I remember a friend of a friend phoning from outside a restaurant asking if someone could meet her at the door so she wouldn't have to walk in alone.

It's one of my least favorite qualities in a person and a big friendship red flag. I avoid people like this to be honest.

Yes, plus she’s not keen to drive very far out of area either.

But as I have been saying, this thread is asking Mumsnetters what limits their horizons

Why? Are you doing a research paper? What limits my horizons going to London? Can't be arsed. Train is cancelled. Weather is shite. Don't have lift at the other end... to name a few.

100% not this. Travel solo anxiety relating to train on her own and driving out of area

So I was just doing a chat thread like one does. So we should keep it light

how far do you live apart? In all the years, she’s never visited you? or only with her partner?

genuinely curious
the special date…. by chance is it your special date?

and how many others in the group?

Sorry, I’m the original poster so I do actually know what the thread is about.

Please don’t tell me I’m pissed off with my friend or attribute any other sentiments I haven’t expressed.

This is me being light 😁

Since my mental breakdown I've only ever travelled by public transport alone in a life threatening situation. Well, to visit someone who was in the ICU. I'd be more comfortable in a taxi/Uber. If you can afford it just do that.
Its not worth feeling worried or vulnerable. But I guess I would not have need to travel that far.