People think I’m rich from a rich family… but I’m not!

[rambutann]

I have this strange thing where people I meet or even friends have the impression that I come from a wealthy family. I honestly have no airs and graces, and have friends from a wide array of backgrounds. I speak and dress reasonably well. I don’t ski. I didn’t go to boarding school. But I did go to Cambridge.

My parents are lower-middle class, both teachers. One went to Oxford and boarding school, the other the child of factory workers.

But people just assume I’ve had an easy life and my parents are wealthy which is how I live where I live or have the job I do. But it’s far from it.

Does anyone else get judged for coming from a rich family even though they had a run of the mill upbringing?!

Received Pronunciation. Like what the king and queen talk like.
My son’s friends used to consider him posh because we sometimes had wine with a meal and owned a teapot. I shouldn’t worry too much about what people think.

Actually, it won't. An RP accent that is false is glaringly obvious and quite risible (I used to work in the theatre and there were a lot of people who wanted to be 'posh'.)

No clue either. I'm guessing if we don't know we don't have it!

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I wouldn't worry about it at all OP.
We're Birmingham born and bred here, but don't have broad accents.
My son works in Hull, and all his colleagues think he's posh because he's from 'somewhere south', and we just laugh about it.

It's the accent and also there are certain ways people hold themselves and act that suggest old money. I imagine with your family and background that it has been ingrained into your general way of being and you don't see it yourself.
Are you stoic? Do you think before speaking? Do you have a good posture? Do you throw your bag down when you join a group at a table or neatly put things down? Do you lower your voice in public?
These are little clues that signal your upbringing.
If you are genuinly confused by people thinking you are wealthy, then analyse other proples behaviour and body language compares to yours.
Also watch Inventing Anna on netflix, a woman tricked New York society into believing she was an aristocrat, largely by her body language.
It's a really interesting subject :)

I disagree. Most teachers I know are lower middle class.

Oh come on, teacher is the definition of a middle class occupation. It's a profession and even now pays better than most jobs in the UK.

I always think that it’s funny on these threads that the op talks about what their parents do/did but not themselves!

Yes, 'Inventing Anna' was interesting, but remember she's a European dealing with Americans. And even in Europe, it's known for people to go to other countries and say they were aristocrats in their former (Communist) countries. There was that young woman who claimed to be a daughter of the Romanovs and who had escaped the shooting in the cellar. Then after her death it was found that she had no Romanov DNA. And then Daphne du Maurier, didn't she write somewhere that her family in fact descended from the valet of a French aristo ( the 'du Maurier' ) and when the valet escaped to England during the French Revolution, he appropriated his master's name to up himself socially.