Neighbours not speaking because of DHs illness

[pestowithwalnuts]

Sorry forthe long title..I didn't know how to word it.
DH has terminal cancer. He's 69.
I told the neighbours both sides when we got the diagnoses
The neighbours on one side haven't spoken to us since May when I told them.
We were out in the garden earlier and I called over the fence to the wife..and just looked at me with an embarrsed look on her face and didn't speak.
DH noticed and asked what was wrong.
I can only think that some people find it difficult to handle other people's troubles..like cancer.
I know some people will cross the road to avoid speaking to friends who have had a bereavement or tragic news.
I know some people can't handle this sort of thing but it's upset DH..and me.
We are going through enough without the shitty odd couple next door
Do you mumsnetters think I'm getting it all wrong here ?

Yeah my DC has autism and one neighbour won’t allow their DC to play with mine since finding out about the Autism. Makes me so angry

@ginasevern It isn't because the poor things don't know what to say, it's because they're frightened to bloody death they'll be dragged in to help with something, like hospital appointments. Or even worse, having do things for the widow afterwards

Poor things? Them???!!!??? The selfish gits! OP's DH has terminal cancer and that's all they care about? Poor things?

Did you read all of my comment or just "poor things" because I think you've wildly misinterpreted my sarcasm. I'm basically saying that such appalling behaviour is born from selfishness and the fear of being asked to help, hence my sentence "they're frightened to bloody death of being dragged in to do something"!

Having been through this i can assure you its normal, peoples reactions are odd for all sorts of reasons, which you will never find out.
Some cant handle it, some just simply dont know what to say, others are scared they will catch it! others are frightened you will claim time of their husbands so distance themselves now.
The social life we had was amazing some with friends i thought were for life, all gone, they make arrangements without you as no longer fit into the 2+2.
When i bump into them now its like they are strangers and are embarrassed.
True saying until they walk a mile in your shoes.
Ignore them concentrate on husband, talk everything through , try to sort bits of paperwork out ready, keep laughing, pull out all the old photos and do the can you remember.
I know exactly how you feel right now and its bloody scary, your running on adrenalin.
Most of all is please take care of you, its very important💐

I'm so sorry op, I think it's awful behaviour

Some people are adverts for condoms.
Don't give them any of your headspace