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Husband told a driver that he needed to get a hair transplant

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Elektrathon · 28/09/2024 23:18

Hi all. I just wanted others' opinions on something my husband did earlier.

My husband and I were walking out of a hotel driveway in London. It was a bit unclear whether it was pedestrianised or not. A car came up behind us and hooted (not too loudly) a few times, because we were in the way - it gave us a shock. My husband knocked on his window as he drove past us, to show he was annoyed. The driver drove past us, then, when on the road, the driver rolled his window down and was gesturing to say 'What's the problem?'.

My husband then shouted across the road at him, 'you should get a hair transplant'.

I thought that a personal remark like this (since he was implying he was losing his hair) is unkind.

I would say that the driver had been unnecessarily impatient with us, and it would have been ok to criticise his hooting - but not his appearance.

I told my husband it was unkind and I was upset with him, but he doesn't think he did anything wrong, and he got annoyed at me for being critical.

What do others think?

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NahNotHavingIt · 28/09/2024 23:20

I thought that a personal remark like this (since he was implying he was losing his hair) is unkind.

Yes but it's a small price toupée for being rude.

Curtainsformeplease · 28/09/2024 23:21

Yes, very spiteful and personal comment

SweetSakura · 28/09/2024 23:21

Both of them behaved badly. But your husband was a twat

NahNotHavingIt · 28/09/2024 23:22

No, seriously I think your husband embarrassed himself totally.

Not even by being mean (which he was) but more that he made himself sound like a bag of wet lettuce.

'You should get a hair transplant', is hardly the comeback of the century.

Mygreyhair · 28/09/2024 23:24

NahNotHavingIt · 28/09/2024 23:20

I thought that a personal remark like this (since he was implying he was losing his hair) is unkind.

Yes but it's a small price toupée for being rude.

👏🏻 😆

LightDrizzle · 28/09/2024 23:27

A bit of a red flag. Is he someone who can’t be wrong?

It’s such a cliche but it’s like those men, and it’s always been men in my experience, who cross a road where there is no zebra or other kind of crossing and then do that scowly glare at any cars that have the temerity to approach. Women, in the same scenario, do that sort of scuttling semi-run to speed up. The glaring men absolutely do not speed up.

Radionowhere · 28/09/2024 23:27

NahNotHavingIt · 28/09/2024 23:20

I thought that a personal remark like this (since he was implying he was losing his hair) is unkind.

Yes but it's a small price toupée for being rude.

😂😂😂

AutumnTimeForCosy24 · 28/09/2024 23:28

NahNotHavingIt · 28/09/2024 23:20

I thought that a personal remark like this (since he was implying he was losing his hair) is unkind.

Yes but it's a small price toupée for being rude.

😂😂

GrazingGoat · 28/09/2024 23:30

I feel pity for you having to have him as your husband.

Tiswa · 28/09/2024 23:30

So in response to likely walking in an area that was not pedestrianised your husband knocked on the window and then went very personal and can’t understand why you think he might have gone too far

ues yiur husbands was an absolute twat

AutumnTimeForCosy24 · 28/09/2024 23:30

I think your husband showed himself up. It was unkind & not even witty!

AtomHeartMotherOfGod · 28/09/2024 23:33

Seen the link to the 'Husband said nice comb-over' thread at the bottom of this? Both written in a weirdly similar style.

Is there some kind of bot with a hair-loss obsession generating posts on here?

Didhe · 28/09/2024 23:41

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Elektrathon · 28/09/2024 23:48

@Didhe I can promise you this is not!

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Elektrathon · 28/09/2024 23:49

We haven't been married that long.

If he had done this on our first date, I don't think we would've gone on another date...

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dixkybow · 28/09/2024 23:51

The comment was bad, but banging on a moving car becsue you are annoyed? He sounds far too reactive and I would not want to go anywhere with him. A comment or bang on the window to the wrong person could end up putting you in danger. What a prick.

NahNotHavingIt · 28/09/2024 23:52

Given the amount of road rage around, he's lucky the guy didn't get out and punch him really.

I mean just for tapping on his window, let alone mouthing off.

It's really not worth it over something so trivial.

outdamnedspots · 28/09/2024 23:53

LightDrizzle · 28/09/2024 23:27

A bit of a red flag. Is he someone who can’t be wrong?

It’s such a cliche but it’s like those men, and it’s always been men in my experience, who cross a road where there is no zebra or other kind of crossing and then do that scowly glare at any cars that have the temerity to approach. Women, in the same scenario, do that sort of scuttling semi-run to speed up. The glaring men absolutely do not speed up.

Yes! Totally

outdamnedspots · 28/09/2024 23:54

Your h sounds like a twat. He'd have given me the ick.

thebestinterest · 28/09/2024 23:55

NahNotHavingIt · 28/09/2024 23:20

I thought that a personal remark like this (since he was implying he was losing his hair) is unkind.

Yes but it's a small price toupée for being rude.

😂😂😂😂

AGoingConcern · 29/09/2024 00:06

Your husband was being an ass, sorry.

The two of you were walking on a drive that was not pedestrianized, not leaving room for a car to pass and not paying attention for cars coming behind. Car horns are designed for this purpose - alerting inattentive people to the presence of a vehicle coming through - and you said the driver didn’t hit his as loudly as possible or just lean on it, so it sounds like he was trying to be “gentle” with how he got your attention so you could move out of the driveway. Could he have been more patient? Yes, but he wasn’t way out of line and frankly it’s frustrating to creep along behind people walking (often side by side in the middle of a lane) like they’re the only people in the universe.

Everyone could have just waved it all off and moved on happily with their day, but your DH chose to instigate a close-up verbal confrontation and jumped straight to completely unrelated personal attacks on appearance. That escalating response to someone being mildly unhappy with his behavior would be a big turnoff to me. It makes me wonder how he handles you or other people disagreeing with him or asking him to change his behavior. Does he ever acknowledge being in the wrong?

GrazingGoat · 29/09/2024 00:10

*Elektrathon · Yesterday 23:49

We haven't been married that long.
If he had done this on our first date, I don't think we would've gone on another date...*

Have you any respect for him now?

Original poster
Elektrathon · 29/09/2024 11:39

@GrazingGoat , I certainly didn't for his behaviour last night!

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Freixene · 29/09/2024 11:43

NahNotHavingIt · 28/09/2024 23:20

I thought that a personal remark like this (since he was implying he was losing his hair) is unkind.

Yes but it's a small price toupée for being rude.

Are you OP and did you name change just to set yourself up for this joke? Coz if so, I love it

user5883920 · 29/09/2024 11:43

Yes, it was a very personal and rude thing to say and had nothing whatsoever to do with what actually happened which is why it's odd. I am all for calling people out if they're rude or unreasonable but its their unreasonable behaviour that should be addressed not their physical appearance.

What happens the next time you forget to unload the dishwasher?- is he going to tell you "you're fat" or something?

I also highly doubt your DH resembles a perfect male model himself.

Red flag.

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