Husband told a driver that he needed to get a hair transplant

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Hi all. I just wanted others' opinions on something my husband did earlier.

My husband and I were walking out of a hotel driveway in London. It was a bit unclear whether it was pedestrianised or not. A car came up behind us and hooted (not too loudly) a few times, because we were in the way - it gave us a shock. My husband knocked on his window as he drove past us, to show he was annoyed. The driver drove past us, then, when on the road, the driver rolled his window down and was gesturing to say 'What's the problem?'.

My husband then shouted across the road at him, 'you should get a hair transplant'.

I thought that a personal remark like this (since he was implying he was losing his hair) is unkind.

I would say that the driver had been unnecessarily impatient with us, and it would have been ok to criticise his hooting - but not his appearance.

I told my husband it was unkind and I was upset with him, but he doesn't think he did anything wrong, and he got annoyed at me for being critical.

What do others think?

To expand on my comment.

Another person used his horn in the manner you're supposed to . 'I'm here.'

Your husbands response was bullying, nasty, spiteful and aggressive.

He then reflected on it, finds nothing wrong in his behaviour, ie zero self awareness, and berates you for not congratulating his bullying spiteful behaviour.,

He is a deeply unpleasant man.

Blimey that note would make my vagina clamp shut for good. There is no going back from that ick

Unfortunately, you have married a pompous, arrogant, mean-mannered twat who thinks others are beneath him - and he will only embarrass you further the longer you stay with him

And I hope you have told him his behaviour ruined your day?

Boom boom! 😀

That note! Pompous or what?

Oh no that little tiny red flag from before just became a flipping banner. He’s weaponizing therapyspeak to reframe himself as the victim and tell you that he views any criticism of him as unacceptable while anything he says is valid and just.

The OP's husband is horrible but I LOL'ed at this.

I think I might have responded to that note

'You acted like an abusive nasty bully. Thank you for letting me know you will always behave like that, it tells me everything I need to know about where I want this relationship to go. I will stand up for myself too, by ending it.'

Thanks all.

I brought up the note tonight. He said that the driver had brushed past his leg and that it was dangerous. I was walking next to him and I really don't think it was. The driver was just impatient. My husband thinks the driver deserved it. And he thinks his friends and family would do the same.

If you saw someone calling out that insult across the street to someone, it would be pretty unusual and noteworthy, wouldn't it?

I know what I would think - that the person was mean. I don't think I'm being super sensitive for thinking that.

OP I’m sorry, he sounds pretty mean, vindictive and stubborn in this. It’s a weird insult as well, very personal, not even a generic anger venting (not sure that’s better either).

It may well be that his family and friends would do the same - doesn’t mean it’s not nasty and aggressive, it just means his family and friends are likely aggressive too.

I think honestly it would scare me.

Yes that's really aggressive.
The hair thing is just childish snd embarrassing.

Why is he texting you?
Some people's lives are beyond bizarre.
I'm sorry OP.

How old are you both?

He’s not going to get any better.

You are married to a childish wanker.

Your husband made a tit of himself.

I'm not at all surprised to read this.

Your husband sounds like an unkind, manipulative dickhead.

Even if he felt it was important to call out the driver for poor driving, you do that by commenting on their driving, not their hairline.

And the sanctimonious little note defending his shitty behaviour? That would give me the major ick.

Do you really want to be married to a man like this?

It basically says: never disagree with me again. My opinion is law.

It was a note. I'd be cringing all the way to the website for getting divorce forms and crossing my fingers for a quick divorce. He's giving me third hand embarrassment just reading about him 🤢