How much rent should I charge daughter?

[Joloman74]

My daughter works full time. Her take home pay is £1600 a month. I have asked her to start paying me rent. I no longer get child benefit or tax credits for her so it's a struggle financially every month. I have asked her to pay £200 a month, which works out at £46 a week, £6 a day. This is what I told her. She has kicked off at me, saying I am taking the p##s and she doesn't know anyone who pays this much. She wants her boyfriend to move in why they look for a place, I told her this would be ok but he needs to pay£200 a month aswell. He earns double what she does. I've recieved a mouth full of insults from her and I've told her if she doesn't like it she can move out. Am I being unreasonable?. She is 17, 18 the beginning of november. Any advice would be much appreciated.

I was earning that before redundancy and kept sh flat, council tax and all other bills plus dw part time earnings paid the wee bill's.
£200 a month is fuck all and She's left with £1400 pcm.she needs a wake up call

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable. My mum made me pay £300 a month and my DH used to pay his mum £200 a month. If she thinks that’s unreasonable, she’s going to get a huge shock once she moves out!

I’d be telling her she either pays keep, or finds somewhere to live PDQ. If she thinks she can live for 200 quid a month she’s in la la land.

And I wouldn’t be letting her boyfriend move in either.

£200 is a bargain.

Get her to look into how much living away from home costs and she’ll hopefully see that £200 is a great deal.

£200 is very low. I would calculate half bills, food and a couple of hundred on top for rent. If that's not acceptable, then tell her she pays that until she moves out.

I asked my son for £280 a month. I don't need it at all but he was quite happy to pay it and hasn't complain once because he knows he's living in the lap of luxury for almost nothing.
I'm actually saving the money and will give it back to him when he (hopefully) moves out but he doesn't know this.
Your daughter sounds ungrateful and rude. I wouldn't let the boyfriend move in either. You stick to your guns!

My 18yo is starting work soon on a similar salary and is going to be paying £100pm and buying his own food.
It is minimal, and if the household needed the money I'd expect him to contribute more.

I've also strongly suggested he needs to be saving at least £500pm.

at 1600 a month, I would
require 480 to be put towards housing/savings. Some of that can go towards covering actual costs if you can’t afford to pay for her to live there. The rest should go into savings for her. I would strongly advise her to save at least another 160 a month, but she should aim for more. She is at a stage in life where she has almost no expenses. This is her time to save like crazy.

i would not let her boyfriend move in. She is way too young to tie her financially safety to another person.

My children paid 25% of their salary, for that they had everything done for them except cleaning their room. I cooked an evening meal if they didn’t want it they couldn’t just go get something else from the kitchen (that said I always cooked things they liked) I provided a lunch and a selection of snacks bought once a week with a when it’s gone it’s gone until next week. Toiletries I provided if they wanted posh stuff they bought their own. One shower/bath a day all laundry done if in basket, changed their own beds. Sons partner moved in for a while again charged 25% of her salary (trusted they where honest with this )

when they left home, we had saved 50% of what they gave us to help them out ( they didn’t know until we gave it to them ) we were lucky we could afford to do this I know.

200 is very low. Let her move out and find something comparable for 200 quid. Don't be out.of pocket. If u need it u need it. She should be ashamed re attitude

Im on disability benefits (cant work) so cant support dc. Dc is on that wage and has been paying £200 for last 2 years and managed to save for a deposit to. Dc is buying a house at the moment and been researching bills etc and realises the good value. I've told dc not to pay at the moment and put that money towards solicitors costs (but thats only been last few months since had an offer accepted) maybe you could come to an agreement that last few months no rent if pays rent on time. Get dd to research cost of renting/buying in your area might make her see sense.
My rules are happy to have them living here till their ready to move out but they must respect the home and those that live in it, do some housework (they all have set jobs) and pay rent once out of education. In return I do all their meals, laundry and put a roof over their head.

If she thinks itd too expensive tell her to find her own place......she will soon realise!!!! My son is 19 on benefits but still pays me £100 a month. I am saving half for him so when he does move out he will have some money behind him. Your daughter is being cheeky, and definitely no to the boyfriend moving in!!

In my first job when I earned 770 per month I paid rent and council tax to mom. This was in 1995. It probably came to.a third if not more of my wage. I did not expect my mom.to support me. I knew it would cost more and would be more financially difficult elsewhere.

I paid 200 a month to my mum 20 years ago.

That's a bargain, she should be grateful.

Why would you be even considering a 17 year old moving her boyfriend in? Don't even encourage such a serious relationship at that age.

DS pays £250/month

Dd is 17 and an apprentice. Earns about £1000 a month.
We take 100 a month off her and pay it into her child trust fund.
We took out a loan for a car, which she is paying, and we will get the money in the child trust fund to pay towards the loan.
We said we will reassess at 18 as her wages will go up and she wants to do overtime. She has already offered more money off her own back.

My DS earns 1800 a month - I charge him 100pm. He pays his phone bill and also gives me 500 each month for his savings. He is then putting an extra 250 away as he is off to Japan/ China next year travelling for 10 weeks. That leaves him 900 pounds so he either saves more at the end of the month or it goes on nights out/ weekends away with mates.

I have two adult DC at home.
They pay £100 per week and do the odd top up shop, probably an extra £20 per week. They have lived independently and think they are on a good thing living here now. They also do their fair share of laundry, cooking and cleaning.

I definitely wouldn’t be letting the bf move in if she has that sort of attitude.

I think £200 is a fair amount.

Would she be paying for anything else or is this all included?

I didn't charge my kids 'rent'
However I was in a different position to you.
I don't think you are being unfair.
I would be telling her if she can do better than less than 50 quid a week she has got until the 14th October to sort herself out and out she goes, and you'll lend her a couple of suitcases and help her pack.
I wouldn't normally advocate tough love but if some said i was taking the piss I would rise to the challenge and dare her to find better.
As a side, there's no way I'd let boyfriend come along. I'd tell her to move in with him and his mum and see how long the free ride lasts!

After her cheek I’d be raising it to £400 a month. Absolutely do not allow the boyfriend to move in either. If she doesn’t like it she can move out, she’s an entitled little madam and I wouldn’t have tolerated her speaking to me like that.

Does that include her food etc?

Daughter - charge double.
Is the boyfriend a similar age? Wouldn't let him move in anyway and especially not on £50 a week while he is taking home £800 a week.

It really depends on how much you need the money. Sounds like you do need the money in which case you should charge her a fair share of the bills and food. If you don't need the money charge her less if you want.