How much rent should I charge daughter?

[Joloman74]

My daughter works full time. Her take home pay is £1600 a month. I have asked her to start paying me rent. I no longer get child benefit or tax credits for her so it's a struggle financially every month. I have asked her to pay £200 a month, which works out at £46 a week, £6 a day. This is what I told her. She has kicked off at me, saying I am taking the p##s and she doesn't know anyone who pays this much. She wants her boyfriend to move in why they look for a place, I told her this would be ok but he needs to pay£200 a month aswell. He earns double what she does. I've recieved a mouth full of insults from her and I've told her if she doesn't like it she can move out. Am I being unreasonable?. She is 17, 18 the beginning of november. Any advice would be much appreciated.

Don't let the boyfriend move in. She is disrespectful as is and you'll end up with it as 2 against 1 and be a stranger in your own house

For her it makes it too serious too fast, hard to extricate herself from the relationship moving forward.

I would break down 50% of all bills show it to her and charge her that it will still be massively less than if she were renting alone. Whether or not you use all of that money for the household or save some, or get a cleaner or whatever else you want to do is up to you.

I was earning £1200 a month and paying £250 to my parents when I lived at home - without a boyfriend moving in

£200 won't even get her a room for the month in a shared house

If she / he won't pay what you're asking then off she goes ... move into his parents house! In fact I wouldn't even be letting them boyfriend move in!

I'd say 20% of wage is reasonable so£320

Absolutely ridiculous that she is kicking off. I charged my daughter £150 a month when she was earning £2,500 and she knew it was very reasonable.
Maybe your daughter should look at the rent she'd be paying (never mind bills) if she moved out.
She should be happy to help with household costs and absolutely stoked about her disposable income per month.
Show her this thread.

£200 is too cheap! I’d do 20% of earnings and have told me DC that already to prep them

They are earning over £1000 a week between them, they can move out and rent somewhere.

People with children manage on less than that, your daughter needs a reality check.

Don't let her bf officially move in
No offense but she sounds immature and therefore the relationship is likely to end and it will be hard to legally kick him out

£50 a week is a bargain

Covers the diff in council tax - I assume you will lose the 25% when she is 18

My DDs pay £500 a month.

That is far too low. I paid approx £300 a month 20 odd years ago and was on about £900 a month. You need to be charging at least £500 a month, show her a breakdown of all bills and if she kicks a fuss she needs to rent and she'll soon realise

Asking for a contribution to the cost of running the house is fair. I would make it a given % of her earnings though to save re-negotiating all the time.
i would absolutely not let her move BF in, again I would be only allowing him to stay over a max number of nights a weeks.

We kept rent to a minimum of the DC’s saved hard, which both have done so far, they were saving half of their wages a month so rent was kept low, if they had been frivolous and not saved rent would have gone up and like other posters I would have saved it for them

No to boyfriend moving in for a start. £200 a month is very reasonable., Tell her to get her own place if she isn't happy.

Tell her to crack on and find her own place.

No offence but charging your own kids for rent sounds absolutely wild to me😂

Ask your DD to leave & I will move in for £250! I’ll even clean! £200 is an absolute bargain!

So she should live there for free & her mum be out of pocket?

So mum has lost tax credits and child benefit and is now supposed to be out of pocket by hundreds a month so her daughter can pocket 1600 disposable income? and give her attitude in return. Absolutely not. She should at least be covering what income OP has lost now she is an adult.
Once she turns 18 she also needs to cover the council tax increase because OP will no longer get the 25% reduction.

No offence but charging your own kids for rent sounds absolutely wild to me😂

It's hardly a new concept.

My mum told me about when her brother started work at 15 and handed money over to his mum. He died a few years ago at the age of 88.

DS is on 40k a year and I don’t charge him. This is because I can afford not to. He is
living at home saving money for a deposit on a flat with his girlfriend. He lives for free and I pay all food etc for him too. However, if I could not afford this, it would charge him absolutely.

Always one 😂

Not everyone can afford to support a grown adult, look outside the privileged bubble a bit. I'm single and I certainly will not be subsidising my DS as a grown working adult.

£400 all in is reasonable for someone with a net monthly payment of £1600. That's not even close to market rate for a houseshare.

Don't let her boyfriend move in because of the reasons astutely outlined by @Singleandproud : She is disrespectful as is and you'll end up with it as 2 against 1 and be a stranger in your own house. For her it makes it too serious too fast, hard to extricate herself from the relationship moving forward.

You think you've got problems now, you'll have more if he moves in.

I paid 20% which was about 220 pounds in c1997.

I will be expecting the same from my daughter.

Ditto!

In my mind, DC should want to contribute to the household. They're adults and should absolutely pay their way. When I started work 30+ years ago, I earned about £3,500 a year before tax and was paying mum £25 a week from the start. I was very proud of putting something into mum's monthly budget.