How much rent should I charge daughter?

[Joloman74]

My daughter works full time. Her take home pay is £1600 a month. I have asked her to start paying me rent. I no longer get child benefit or tax credits for her so it's a struggle financially every month. I have asked her to pay £200 a month, which works out at £46 a week, £6 a day. This is what I told her. She has kicked off at me, saying I am taking the p##s and she doesn't know anyone who pays this much. She wants her boyfriend to move in why they look for a place, I told her this would be ok but he needs to pay£200 a month aswell. He earns double what she does. I've recieved a mouth full of insults from her and I've told her if she doesn't like it she can move out. Am I being unreasonable?. She is 17, 18 the beginning of november. Any advice would be much appreciated.

I wouldn't call it rent which would be far higher. I'd call it food money plus a small contribution to the energy bill. It's money you need to run the home and perhaps you could show her broadly your own income and expenditure to help her understand.

We charged all our dc £25pw as a nod to our own experience back in the 1980s. It was kind of a family joke that’s what we paid to our parents when we earned about £3k pa back in the day.

Our kids happy to go along with this, and we increased it by £5pw every time they got a wage rise.

Obviousky, this nowhere near covers their costs, and in your circumstances I think £200 was very generous of you.

Given your DD response, I would be considering increasing to £300!

I wouldn’t allow her bf to move in at all. However, I acknowledge your circumstances are totally different. Therefore, my thinking would be that he would not be eligible to any “family discount”, I would ask him for at least £500.

Point out to both of them that a single room in student halls is approx £700 with no food included.

good luck. I would be gutted if one of my dc treated me like that.

Whatever you charge your daughter, do not let the boyfriend move in!

I was charging Dd £50 per week and she was taking home a lot less than your Dd. She also bought some of her own food (she ate differently to us).

when a young person leaves education and starts work/apprentiship the expectation is that they contribute to the household.

I don’t need to charge my DS money for rent but I do because he needed to learn how a household runs.

Anyone criticising this Mother who has lost part of her income needs to just stop it. She is struggling.

I charge £65 per week for everything and his GF stays over every weekend often for 3 nights. It covers roughly what they eat. My DS is on a degree apprenticeship and earns 30k his GF earns 29k and they are both saving hard.

25% of take home pay as a minimum. If the boyfriend earns twice the salary they can afford to live together and pay all their own bills.

She earns a really good wage for her age. £200 is a bargain. Just tell her you can't afford to house and feed her now that she's not in ft education and you've lost CB.

I would not have the boyfriend either. At 17 this feels too young. Maybe agree she should move out. That’s an empty threat is it not? How much would that cost where you live? They just need to grow up a bit. This sounds like a teenage tantrum. I wouldn’t have called it rent. It’s a household contribution. I’d have a chat about the cost of running a house.

I love tough love. Well done you.

I was going to comment on the money. However, - how rude and offensive is your daughter? Has she always been like this?
She needs to move out. Imagine talking to your own mother like that.

DS is similar age and earns similar. I earn well but have 2 other dependant kids and the reality is that having DS (and sometimes his gf) living here means increased bills and food cost. I've told him it's £500 a month for the 2 of them. From that, £80 goes to the loss of the 25% council tax discount, about £100 on food/bills and the rest I am saving for them for a rent deposit eventually.

A room in a house share where we live, bills not included, would be £700-£800 so I don't feel bad about this at all. When I earned £1800 a month, I was spending £1000 of it on rent and bills. That's adult life. If your DD doesn't like the cushy deal you've offered, let her find out what the alternatives are!

They are working adults and should pay their way. Your daughter's attitude is terrible. My DS has recently moved back in and has offered us £500 a month. He gets a one bedroom annexe, meals if he is home, all bills and I do his washing if needed as he works full time and I am retired. He is also polite, tidy and really good company. I don't mind his friends staying over from time to time as it is nice to see them.

I have three at home 21-24. They all pay 320 a month and are happy with this. They earn between 27-42k.

I don’t call it rent! It’s their share of bills and food. A room rent around here is 800-1000.
I believe average grocery costs for an adult are 50-60pw so she’s basically covering that.

I will give them all 10k when they move out but they don’t know that. I have told them I am retiring and moving house when the youngest turns 27 and I retire. Until then they are welcome but have to contribute. They do all save 1000 a month.

£42,000 and £320 a month? What planet are you on. Of course they live at home! If DC are saving hard for a deposit, fair enough (maybe?) but you are being taken for a ride. You will pay them to leave? Do they have no self respect?