I'll try and be succinct.
Ben with partner 8 years. Rent a house, have. A 5 year old DC together.
He earns £100 an hour, works 10hours a week. Has hundreds of thousands in savings and will inherit around a million.
I work in NHS as a nurse, earning around £35k a year. Very minimal savings and no inheritance.
Partner wants me to increase my hours at work to full time but won't work more than 10 hours a week. Fair enough in a way as he earns enough. He does pay more towards bills than me but wants us to pay 50/50.
For me to do that I'd have absolutely nothing left a month and he'd have thousands over.
The only reason I wasn't working full time as I had our son and he'd rather I looked after him. Also, he said it made more sense for him to work 1 hour extra a week as he earns more in 1.5 hour than I'd earn in an 8 hour day.
However whenever I ask him to help around the house. He starts shouting at me to work more. However logistically it's hard as every other week he buggers off out Thursday and Friday, so I've no childcare. I also can't work late another work day as it's his Xbox evening. The other night I work until 7.30pm and I do an evening course.
The issue is in working almost full time whilst going a course (which means extra hours on coursework). I do absolutely everything in the house and am constantly picking up after him.
He takes our child to school but only because I leave early for work. I could potentially do both but he'd just stay in bed. He literally takes our son to school. Goes back to bed until 1pm when he does 2 hours work, then plays on phone or Xbox.
I come home from work and if I have a gap, I'm washing and ironing during work whilst he's in bed, then doing school run, shopping etc. He hates getting shopping, will only do it if I ask but then gets mad. Despite the fact I'm running around all day and working whilst he's home doing nothing! He's up every night until 2am then complains in the morning if our child is up before 8am because he's tired. I've tried explaining that it's not surprising because he goes to bed so late but apparently that's nothing to do with it. He works out if he goes to bed at 2am and wakes at 8 he'll get 6 hours sleep. However he apparently doesn't sleep well (which he knows. Yet continues late bedtimes).
I'm happy to work more but it's causing me huge resentment because I'm struggling to fit everything in.