Supposedly ’posh’ things you think are common *trigger warning this is light hearted*

[ReadingWorm]

Obviously lighthearted and no need to explain your rational. But what are things that some people consider high end/ posh/ classy/ aspirational (I know they are not necessarily the same thing) that you don’t like/ think are tacky/ common / etc.

Again this is light hearted. We can complain but we must never explain!!!!!!

Here is my list.

Molton Brown hand wash
M&S food shop
American Style Fridges
Having a tan
Talking about exercising
Beauty Advent Calendars
Designer toasters and kettles
House of Fraser department stores
Posting photos from 1st class travel on instagram
Referring to your car by its brand name
Talking about your ‘forever home’
Shopping in Space NK
Visiting Disney World
Listening to Classic FM

I'm another one who's confused about Parkrun & junior parkrun.. It's a run in a park that's completely free.. What am I missing?!

Part of my “education” on arriving in London to work at a big multinational …
We had a colleague who was very posh, aristo - of course I had no idea his lineage but all the Brits knew.
What I saw was a rather dim, young man wearing ancient, threadbare, worn through at collar and cuffs dress shirts, clownish red or mustard trousers (too short with clownish socks) on casual days. Every day he was wearing worn-out things with holes. I clumsily asked other colleagues - you’d think he would be able to afford new clothes (VP with good salary), everything he wears has holes ?
I was quickly chided and told in hushed tones “He’s really posh, ancient family, country pile, aristocrats …. They’re all very tight with cash, the aristocrats - those shirts probably belong to his grandad Lord blah blah. “. Like I should be so impressed by that shirt & he had the right to wear worn out clothes like an old school hobo!!!

soooo - what’s posh? - your grandparents good quality, but worn out clothes are POSH, anything else isn’t!!

Having read through this thread I have finally realised how common I am.
On the bright side so are many fun people I
know so that works out well.

My list of things that people do or display thinking they are posh when they are not is as follows

1 Referring to the living area as lounge or sitting room.

2 Making a fuss of tasting the wine poured by a waiter from a screw top bottle that is clearly not corked.

3 Referring to the last meal of the day as tea,
dinner or supper.

4 Over dressing for the races when you don’t know one end of a horse from another.

5 Skiing in February and Cornwall in Summer.

6 Kissing people you barely know on the cheek

7 Talking about the director of a play not just the actors.

8 Having a grand piano in the house when no one
plays.

Erm… Vienetta?!?

Now I’m perplexed! What the heck should I call the last meal of the day if it’s not tea or dinner?

ditto sitting room / lounge - it’s not that I think I’m posh, it’s that it’s the name of the room!

Agree about the wine thing though!

Head over to Wayfair or similar 😳

I dated a man who took me out to supper - I was expecting cheese and crackers and cocoa 😂

Double barrelled surnames.

True, it's just a sign that their parents were "living in sin".

JOKE!!! LIGHTHEARTED!!! Please don't come after me.

Hahaha, it's true! I've always had two surnames and at school people teased me for being posh but it's actually because my parents weren't married, the pregnancy wasn't planned, and my mum had the presence of mind to give me her own surname as well as my dad's. They split up when I was younger.

So my name isn't posh at all.

@myfavouritemutant I was about to ask the same

Your reply really made me laugh. My friend’s father when he and my friend’s mother divorced lost all the furniture and soft furnishings in his home in their divorce. His redecoration to say the least was ‘interesting’. He bought 90’s inflatable bubble frames like the ones you describe and fake animal fur frames, to display pictures of random people cut out of magazines which he proudly display in his sitting room in his family seat.

Is it too common to say he’s now living his ‘best life’ in his ‘forever home’ ? 🤣🤣🤣

Thinking it’s weird to [expect guests to] take shoes off indoors isn’t a class thing, it’s a boomer take

Caring what anyone else thinks about you

I'm nowhere near the Baby boomer age group & I'd never expect dinner guests who are all dressed up to remove their shoes. It's not only slovenly it takes away from the feeling your doing something special & not lounging about in the house with your feet up.

Agreed. I’m 40.

I'm of this age group and none of my peers, and that's lot of people, do this.

Ha ha my in laws seriously describe themselves as ' middle class ' and look down their nose atme because I'm off a council estate. To boot they have:
A shitty basic range rover
Personalised plates for said range rover
Pluspoints for being white 😂
Holidays in Maldives ( all inclusive)
Media wall🤮
White shiny kitchen
Shit tattoos
Louis shitton bags
They're common as fuck but seriously think they're the dog's, silly twats, they think money equates posh.

Yeah the worn out clothes thing always perplexed me. Their ancestors who were presumably the ones who were really posh wore only the best clothes and only in a good condition. They would never have worn them in a worn out state. They would have passed them on to their ground keeper

I hope we find out what the last meal of the day is supposed to be called. Maybe that pp went to a posh boarding school and the last meal of the day is a midnight feast. (Or I just read too many Mallory Towers books as a child).

I'm going to put money on "supper".

Least I know supper has featured in previous threads in which the labelling of meals at different types of day has been debated.

Tea, dinner or supper; it's a classic cause of civil war.

@BunnyLake , I call it supper, but it's a lightish meal. It's not cocoa and biscuits or cheese and crackers and it's not a meat and two veg dinner.

If I had an invitation to a kitchen supper, I'd expect something like a cottage pie around an informal table.

Dinner is a meat and 2 veg type meal at midday or a formal evening meal.

@AnImaginaryCat , I don't understand the snobbery about supper. I think I use the standard definition but MNers seem unable to grasp that it's OK to use the word that best describes your meals.

Cocoa and biscuits before bed isn't a meal, and why the sugar overload before sleep?

That pp said tea, dinner and supper were all wrongly considered posh so I’m still baffled.

Similar thing. Friend was calling round early evening with her kids. I said, “Come for your tea then”. I’d made a massive fish pie so there was plenty to go round, but didn’t mention what I’d made.

She turned up with cupcakes and was shocked I was dishing up what she called ‘dinner’ or ‘supper’.

We have a proper wood fired pizza oven. Not cos we're posh but cos we love making pizza and being in the garden.

I also have a few Radley bags, but purely because I like the dog on it.

We would never be described as posh. We actually often laugh about being the least posh people in our area (also not true, our attached neighbours are definitely less posh than us).

I actually hate the idea of "posh". My family on both sides are very very working class. My mum and dad both worked really hard to make sure that as a family we were "comfortable". DH and I both have the same thoughts on things, such as buy cheap buy twice. So we save and buy good quality stuff so we don't have to replace it in a years time.

One of my uncles, with a proper chip on his shoulder, refers to my mum (his sister) and me as "flash", because we have quality things. He also says we're posh, snobby, and all sorts of other things. Purely because he has made different decisions to us, which is fine, but in his mind means he's "less than". He projects that as us believing we're better, rather than him feeling insecure.

Bit if a ramble, but that's why I hate "posh". Because it implies superiority, rather than just making different choices.