New low in dating

[Mangococktail]

Met a guy for a drink at 5.30pm yesterday.

After an hour he says he's meeting his mate in another bar for a drink

No probs, I say

He then tells me he will text me when he's back and we can have sex

I laugh and say I will be asleep

Woke up to see hehas indeed texted at 3.15am asking me to go round tohis!!

I'm quite amused by it all but really would this work for any woman???? Such an obvious way to say my mate is more fun to be with but I can't shag him so you just wait up for 8 hours and we can shag

Good grief

The absolute gall 🤮

An all time low

Last night he texted at 10.45pm with the same offer.

Glad to see I'm moving up his priority list 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Tell him to go shag his mate

🤣🤣

The sheer incompetence of it is mind boggling. I've met players but this isn't even game. It's just ineptitude of the highest level. I can't even think how this is meant to be effective!

Have you not text back

We have met for one hour once for a drink that does not make me your dial a hooker. It's a no from me.

Why are you amused

he has absolutely no respect for you

block him and don’t give him any of your time

The thing is, he just doesn't care what you think about it. He doesn't have to spend time with you, and he has created a situation where he, a virtual stranger, can ask you for sex without you getting angry about it.

Block him.

Yes I expect some women do go along with it, block him and move on- gross!

I can hardly believe he was being serious?! 3:45am? Even actual genuine booty calls that you've consented to wouldn't ring you that fucking late?! Like even if you were up for casual sex why the fuck would you still be awake at that time and willing to travel? The mind utterly boggles. What a cretin.

I replied back next morning with Yeah I was asleep. Hope you had a good night.

I guess I'm amused because it's just so pathetic and he's not getting anywhere with me but it makes me really sad and angry if this was what is happening to younger women. I've had enough decent men in my life than I don't even need to think if this is a good idea...butnif this sort of behaviour is common then I feel for young women.

He also before leaving came out with the classic line "you're pissed off now cos you wanted to spend the whole night with me".

There is no way blokes are doing this without some kind of online encouragement..a brother, mate anyone irl would surely advise this is just totally ineffective.

Stop being amused and start getting angry at the way he's treating you with no respect, like a prostitute.

Laughing at remarks like that just makes them think it's ok to say things like that. Allows the misogyny to continue. Allows his view of women as holes to shag to continue.

A hard stare and a "and why would you even think that is appropriate" type reply is what is needed.

Why did you reply to nicely to him? Tell him to fuck off!

I don't think anything I do or say is going to change a 35 year old bloke like that. I can't manufacture feeling angry about something I just think is pathetic.

He's responsible for himself. I'm not.

Well, I’m glad you found it funny. I, on the other hand, would have blocked him as soon as he said he would call me back and we can have sex. Why are you entertaining this imbecile?

IME he'll have 4 or 5 on the go and waits for one to take the bait.

It's awful out there isn't it.

Suggest he books into a hotel and texts you which room etc.. Then block him. He can ponder his disgusting behaviour whilst costing him the bill??

The ones that text in the middle of the night

U up

Or

Wuu2

Like teenagers 😂

So glad I'm out the dating game now not that DP is the epitome of romance glares at his lazy bum on the couch

Genius but doubt he'd think it worth the effort or cost...obviously in his head the fact he bought me a pint (didn't offer..both glasses were empty and he said he was getting himself one and I asked if he'd get for one me) means he has given me the evening of my dreams!

Yeah I said to my friend bet he was trying to pull a 'hotter girl out with his mate then when he couldn't texted me.

Friend pointed out that given the exceedingly late time he texted he could well have gone back to some girl's house for a shag then returned to his and texted me 🙅

Woah! Sweetheart please date better men.

Always worth a 5 min phone call before meeting in real life (because I don't want to put make up on and choose an outfit then regret turning up at all within 30 seconds)
And agree w PP that laughing it off in reply text doesn't help the next woman. telling him to fuck off might help, though i find not replying at all probably the most effective

Hank you xxI'd actually spent three hours chatting to him face to face before this meet up!!

He had obviously extended his entire charm in that three hours.

I live in poor quality housing alone in a very rural area. I'm not doing anything to provoke a man who has already shown me his low opinion of women. Sorry. I handle things putting myself first nor have I ever found that telling a dickhead he is a dickhead stops him being a dickhead. It's more likely to make them angry. Hence.

I dont understand the point of being angry? He offered, you declined, whats the big deal?

Who or what is raising men to turn out like this?