Child embarrassed by me

[purpleme12]

My child said she'd rather her daddy come to the high school open evenings not me
Because 'i don't look like other mummys because I I'm short and look like a teenage but I don't dress like a teenager'
And will people will stare at me

I think she was half serious! 😕

Anyone else's kid said anything like this?

That's quite offensive. I'm 5 foot (the average size of an 11 year old apparently). My ds is just entering year 7. He has never said anything about my height. He's taller than me. If he did I would be having a serious conversation on how being judgemental towards people is very unkind and rude.

Thanks but she actually didn't mean it offensively and she didn't want to say it. I knew what she was thinking - intuition - so I asked her to say the truth.
Then I said about all mummies looking different and I don't think everyone goes around staring at me! 😂

Is she going into high school? And she talks like that? She sounds very baby like. Um… you need to do something before she goes to high school.

Ok thanks

One of mine used to insist I drop them down the road from the school ( and don’t wave to me) as my car was considered a rubbish make. Strangely when I suggested they might prefer to walk the 5 miles to school my car was suddenly acceptable. It’s teenagers, always have been embarrassed by their parents, always will be.

Does she talk like that, is that what she said, word for word?

@purpleme12
My love all children get embarrassed by their parents at some point.
Be it short ,tall,tubby it can literally be anything that sets them off, they way we laugh or the way our hair is!
It's a rite of passage and perfectly normal.
Just try and remember the toddler years when they loved you the most in the whole world.
It's just a phase

This isn't really a thread about how she talks. I'm happy there no problems with how she talks so I don't really feel the need to go into that. But thanks

My DD often asks me why I don’t have red lips & long (false) pointy nails like <reels off all the glam mums> so I nip it in the bud straight away & tell her how stylish & unique I am & how I really like my style & just keep repeating it every time she mentions all those that are better than me🤣

That's bloody rude, I'd be having words.

If she is saying that, in the way you’ve written it, then there is a slight issue with the way she talks.

I’ve got kids in high school and I had a kid who was really bullied… this sort of thing, it puts a target on her. It really is something to consider, if you’re babying her and not trying to correct her language to be more mature.

Thanks but I'm happy with how I responded and her intentions

Ok thanks there's no issue with how she talks

(and I don't baby her either)

So why post? You don’t have any problem with what she said, how she said it, how you responded or how you’ll handle this kinds of thing going forward. Fine… but why post? You’re not interested in listening to anyone.

Is it how you talk then, did you babify it? People are genuinely curious.

Ok so what do you want then?

Well I guess it was a light hearted post really. To cha

I didn't post for advice if that's what you mean.
My post never asked for advice

#chat

Um. How short are you? Why would people stare?

You might not see a problem with how she speaks but if she goes to high school talking like that and saying mummy and daddy she will be a target for bullies. If she speaks exactly as you wrote id have put her at 5 or 6.

@Ivehearditbothways

Sorry didn't mean to tag

I think it's pretty normal to call your mum 'mummy' but when you're with your friends refer to her as 'mum' don't you?

An actual kid going into high school would have commented on your fashion or something a bit more specific. It’s still rude but they’re teenagers and you just have to teach them about not being rude. For her to say that you don’t look like other mummies because you’re short and she wants daddy there… that’s not the comment a teen/pre teen is going to make.