Child embarrassed by me

[purpleme12]

My child said she'd rather her daddy come to the high school open evenings not me
Because 'i don't look like other mummys because I I'm short and look like a teenage but I don't dress like a teenager'
And will people will stare at me

I think she was half serious! 😕

Anyone else's kid said anything like this?

I guess so 😂
I'm not sure I can pass for a teenager really anymore though 😂

It’s brutal but normal. My son has said he only wants me to go because of the way his dad looks. He looks ok to me. I’m sure he would rather neither of us went. You should still go though.

It’s not common though. Did your dp’s encourage it?
My dgs at 12 told me he’ll call me gran now not granny. 😂

People who are aghast that a child might use the word “Daddy” in their teens are seemingly unaware of a considerable portion of society.

This not withstanding, I fully concur that the OP’s quote (and the OP in general) are odd.

Rude, disrespectful, nip it in the bud or you will be sitting out her wedding in a car park .

The language is a bit odd for a contemporary high school child, yes.

My 15 year old son calls me mummy, or mother in front of his friends. We are not posh, we just both hate the word mum

Kids are always embarrassed by their parents at school. I think it may be the law. Give it no heed. Wait until she’s a teen and just existing is embarrassing for them. Then just as they go off to uni they start seeing you as a person. It’s worth the wait. Then they leave!

My older kids still use mummy/daddy at home but not anywhere else It’s really not unusual and not forced on them(I use mum/dad in conversation with them).

Anyway OP it’s normal. I used to be so embarrassed by my mum who is perfectly lovely and my own dc are sometimes embarrassed by me.

Ditto but in my 40s.
My 21 and 16 year olds call me mummy and their dad daddy. Even in front of friends. Their choice.

It's really not that abnormal.

How old is she @purpleme12 ? I can't see if you have said that anywhere.

Mummies and daddies could be what's embarrassing her? As is the wrong lunch bag, meeting at the school gate, goodbye waves/kisses

No

Why did you post this, Op?

It's not funny so I can't see the lightheadedness of it at all.

My ds used to say " do you have to wear that skirt". in year 6
In high school he got me to drop him off at end street as embarrassed by car.
I did hear some primary school girls whispering loudly about my Birkenstocks , they had cherries design on them.
I really didn't care, I still wear what I want.

This .

This.

I mean, for something to be light-hearted, it needs to be slightly amusing.

Not quite the same but my DS school had a careers day and asked if any of us parents wanted to come and give a talk. I asked DS if I could as I work for a well known organisation that I thought kids would be quite interested in hearing about. He just shook his head and said 'they'll think you're sad'. 😳

At age 17 my son walked across the school hall at parents evening to say 'what on earth are you wearing?' and laugh at my new coat. He's autistic but still it was a shitty thing to say.
Teens can be horrid. Their world rotates entirely around how they believe that the world sees them. It is how their brain is wired for a while but that period is so hard to live with.
She still loves you, so don't let her see how much she upset you, and carry on being there for her in spite of herself....but remind her of it when she's 23 and has grown back into empathy.

Embarrassing your teenagers by just being you is one of the joys of parenthood.

If they are going to high school open days I'm guessing that she's 10, rising 11 and in year 6?

My going in to year 8 child still calls me mummy when speaking to me and refers to me as mum to her friends. I definitely embarrass her at times- for example at the cinema she was begging me not to shush the talkative teens behind us! Took all my will power not to (am a teacher and it was almost unbearable for me!)

Ah ha, thank you.

@purpleme12 Don't get too blue about it. Kids say shitty things! They won't mean it.

@Allthehorsesintheworld It is amazing how quickly they appreciate things isn’t it even a car they don’t deem as a good model when they are faced with the alternative of walking 😁

I don't think there is an issue saying 'mummy'. I'd be more concerned that the rest of her language and ability to communicate what she is trying to say comes across as very immature. When I read your post initially I assumed your child was starting primary school.

Apart from her language (lack of language), she should know that its rude to talk about somebody's physical appearance but I suppose it depends........kids can speak freely to their parents. Are you very short? And maybe very skinny or very fat? because being short isn't generally enough to generate stares?