Child embarrassed by me

[purpleme12]

My child said she'd rather her daddy come to the high school open evenings not me
Because 'i don't look like other mummys because I I'm short and look like a teenage but I don't dress like a teenager'
And will people will stare at me

I think she was half serious! 😕

Anyone else's kid said anything like this?

Is this the same child who wants to go to her dad’s every time you tell her to do something she doesn’t agree with/don’t let her do exactly what she wants - from your other post today?

Sounds like she could do with some boundaries, she appears to be quite rude and calling the shots.

My dc are 21 and they call us Mammy and Daddy.

They grew up in another country where people didn't say Mum and Dad so they never transitioned but we moved to the Uk (where we are from) when they were teenagers.

I think they say 'my mum' when they are with their friends but it's not really come up. Neither of them have been bullied for it.

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In Ireland some husbands and wives call each other 'Mammy' and 'Daddy' too.

It is unforgivably cringeworthy.

My dad thinks the best part of parenting, is when you are an embarrassment to your kids, instead of the other way round!

My dad did used to say 'it's my job to embarrass you' actually

I'd forgotten that 😂

He's still say it now if he was here

He sounds fab, but mortifying. What great memories to have!

Is she going into year 6? You’ve worded what she said like she’s about 5 years old. She sounds really rude to say that to you if she’s actually 10 years old. It’s quite hurtful of her to tell her mum that everyone will stare at her because she looks different and so she wants her dad to come instead. My 8 year old daughter wouldn’t say that because she knows it would be upsetting, even if it was a joke.

Children that age get embarrassed by a lot of things. I don't think it's particularly rude. It sounds to me as though she isn't very confident.

I remember feeling embarrassed by my mum because she looked a lot older than my friends parents, a school friend once mistook her for my Grandma. I loved her to pieces but I never wanted her to go to parents evenings or school events.
I was a very shy child lacking in self confidence and wanted to be like everyone else. I haven't really got over wanting approval from other people as no one helped me through that feeling.
OP I would try and help her to understand that everyone is different and everyone should be valued for who they are. Outward appearances are not everything and she should be happy being herself just as you are.

Yes she isn't very confident sometimes.

I try to instill in her to be confident with who she is and things like that but obviously it's hard if they don't have that inner confidence

Similar situation here. My kids are in their 20s and still call me mummy!

People think you are humble bragging by saying you look like a teenager OP. That is why they are getting snarky about how your child talks. You should post a photo of yourself for us to see how old we are - then everyone can tell you you look like a 60 year old that smokes (even if you look 20)!

Haha 40s here and still do!

Im in Ireland. I have friends with dogs we meet when walking. The humans are Patch's daddy and Suki's mammy...as in Sukis mammy is in hospital with her hip.
My friend is a rep with an estate car. He also has an ancient convertible. He loves picking his dd up from school with Status Quo blaring. She's less than delighted.

Why is it that some people on Mumsnet literally can not grasp that there is life outside of England and that shock horror, the people who live in these strange non English lands don't always use the same expressions and words that they do??

In NI, for example it is completely normal to call your parents Mummy and Daddy for your whole life. Similarly in Ireland a lot of people (including adults) say Mammy and Daddy and even Granny too!! Honestly the people suggesting that there is something wrong with the OP's daughter need to get themselves checked over.

OP- teens get embarrassed by their parents just breathing. Just tell her that you'll be going to school because you are her mother and it's your job and you'll do your best to keep the cringe factor to a minimum.

The annual Santa v Father Christmas bun fight will be coming soon. Once the horror at Halloween being an American import subsides!

Probably 😂

Ditto in my 50s!

I found my mother embarrassing, not so much how she looked (and she was just under 4'11"), but if she opened her mouth and said anything. Poor woman.(mind you she was seriously embarrassing at times :-)).

Children often go through these phases, it will pass.