Didn’t read the full thread, but as someone who work for the wealthy and often end up on their yacht or their private jets, I believe my life matters as much as the one of anyone else. As a nanny (and human being) I would attempt to save the kids first and foremost as best as I could even if it meant losing my life, BUT I wouldn’t drown to save my bosses. I love them but I also know they wouldn’t risk their lives to save mine. I would get myself (and the kids) to safety and THEN look for help for them, if possible. I would expect them to do the same in reverse.
In fact you wouldn’t expect the amount of time our lives are put at risk/ in danger working for some of the wealthy. How many times I have ended up in cars (with kids on board) going WAY above the speeding limits, in a way that it would be impossible to survive any kind of crash. The fact that private jets tend to crash more than commercial airplanes (I therefore don’t like flying private), or that those families are more likely to be target of crimes. And yet you know that the security teams have clear instructions to focus on the kids and “principals” only in case something bad was to happen.
So I am under no illusion that wealthy people take the safety of their staff seriously or as something paramount as most simply don’t, and others even go further and have a complete disregard for staff safety and well-being with some of the things they request. So as a member of staff I would put my safety into my own hands and wouldn’t try to save other adults until I knew I could survive myself and even be of help. (In the case of a sinking yacht I would barely be fit to save myself tbh.)
A lot of us already work 24 hours shifts for them for weeks or months on end, with no or very little breaks, so I think many of us sacrifice enough of our lives as it is. To be expected to die for our boss, just because a tragedy is happening in our workplace isn’t reasonable to me.
I think people wouldn’t expect a secretary to put her life at risk to save her boss if the building was on fire. So I think that yes, if there is ever a chance to save someone without putting one safety at risk then it should always be done, but beyond that, I don’t even think the crew should ever have to justify why they didn’t save anyone but themselves in a situation that was likely extremely fast, traumatic and with no proper reaction time to take action.