I'm so mortified by what this woman said to me, I don't want to go back to the gym.

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I'm so embarrassed. I have lost 4 stone in the last year by eating more healthily and I started going to the gym about 6 months ago in a bit to become more toned and generally feel better. I'm now a size 12 and happy enough with that. I'm 57 and I haven't found it easy.

I really enjoy the gym now and go about 4/5 times a week, on my own, and do my own thing. I feel great. This evening as I was just about to start using the rowing machine, a woman (who is super fit and absolutely stunning) approached me and said 'I don't mean to be rude, but those leggings do nothing for you because you can see your cellulite through them, you might be better with joggers'. She then went back to her equally stunning friend and they seemed to have a good old giggle.

I'm so mortified. My leggings are normally Sweaty Betty ones, not 'up the bum' ones and I wear a long tee shirt too. I felt quite good when I went in tonight and now I'm back to feeling like an overweight old bag and I never want to set foot in there again. I will though, I've worked hard to feel healthier - I just understand why anyone would say something like that. I daresay she can see my cellulite, but why bring someone down like that?

I'd avoid speaking to her about it and just go straight to management. If she says something again just say thanks for the advice but I'm happy in what I have on. Sounds like she's one of those who thinks she's some sort of Gym goddess and would probably run to management and complain about you being mean to her.

The only type of person who would approach a stranger and say something like that is a desperately unhappy bitter soul. I know it’s easy to say ignore her, these comments really stick but honestly, you’re worth 100 of her! Wear those leggings with pride!

She’s probably jealous, Sweaty Betty leggings are expensive, maybe she wants some and can’t afford them. Anyway I bet they look great, they usually do and at size 12 you’re not overweight, so what if you can see a bit of cellulite, real women have cellulite, it’s very rare not to.

Do speak to the staff though, this wouldn’t be allowed in my gym.

I’ve not read all responses but I’d report her to the gym. It’s probably in the t&c’s not to be rude/comment on other members etc. She deserves to be banned, what a bitch.

Congrats you on your progress so far. That is great!

Please do not be put off by someone's ugly comments. With any luck her looks will fade, quickly! It really does so more about her than you. All she has to offer someone is her looks and that is it. Most of us have cellulite (along with other annoying things (double chin, odd shaped boobs, ugly feet, whatever). What of it?

She sounds dead and empty inside.

That woman is a childish bitch . You must return and face up to her , you must stand up to bullies . If you get chance let her know how much weight you've lost and the effort you've put in to improve your fitness adding at the end but you'll always be a bitch . All the mums on here support you please find some comfort in this army of strangers .

Keep going wear shorts- if she comes near you tell her to fuck off.

Looks clearly matter a lot to her! I wonder why she would feel the need to put someone else down? Because that is exactly what she did to you. That would make me even more determined to wear them or buy the up the bum ones tbh! Hold your head high. I may even mention bullying to the pt if you have one!

I agree with pp saying report to gym manager.

I’d also put her in her place myself with a few choice words before reporting her if she said anything again.

Not aggressive or sweary etc of course, but I’d just say something along the lines of she’s clearly a very unpleasant person puffed up with self-importance who seems to think a random stranger values her opinion and I’d advise her not to communicate with me again and to mind her own.

Wow what a horrible bitch! Ignore her and continue wearing what you want. Cellulite is normal everyone has it! She’s clearly an arsehole. Anyone who says things like that isn’t happy with themselves.

Now I've had some sleep I'm not so upset anymore, I'm angry. I'm going to go to the gym tonight (along with my cellulite!) as usual and I'm going to speak to staff

Well done OP. I think you’re doing the right thing! I’m glad you’ve found your anger. I agree about not wanting to argue with this woman so I don’t think you should necessarily seek her out to say something but I’d have something prepared ready to say just in case she approaches you again!

Mean girl grown up. I agree with those saying speak to management. What she did is totally unacceptable and should be addressed by the management.

Sorry you had this said to you the age old reply is usually good if she makes any other nasty remarks “ well I am doing something about my cellulite but unfortunately you are always going to be a bitch”
well done with your weight loss.

What a bitch. Some women can’t say anything nice. She’s probably watched your progress and can’t bring herself to congratulate you so she’s tried to bring you down. Absolutely speak to the gym staff. Never forget how empowering standing up for yourself can be…. I’m usually non confrontational but twice in the last year I’ve stood up for myself and it’s nerve wracking at the time but bloody hell it feels good afterwards!

This! How awful of her. I'm so sorry this happened to you. What an absolute cow!

This is a great example of why body shaming is very rarely truly about health concerns, despite the fact they almost always claim that is what it’s about. It’s mostly to do with making others feel bad and the other person getting a sick kick out of it and feeling superior as a result of lording their “superior” figure over another.

I follow some people on instagram who have lost several stone and have loose skin as a result, the comments from both men and women are disgusting. These people have lost the weight, got fit and they’re still getting slated by the “body positivity is unhealthy” crew.

Print this out, put it in an envelope and hand it to her next time you see her at the gym

This being this thread obvs!

Well done for your weight loss that is an amazing achievement. Definitely say something to the staff at the gym.

“I don’t mean to be rude” followed by the rudest comment ever. She did mean to be rude. Awful cow. Ignore her and well done on your weight loss! 💪

Clearly she's only beautiful on the outside.

Definitely report to staff there.

Be proud of your fantastic achievement.

Wear the Damn shorts!

Ignore she’s an insecure and unhappy woman for saying that

“Scrunchy bum leggings”! 😂 what a great description!

OP- my mouth literally fell open when I read your OP. What a class A bitch she is. Ignore her and hold your head up high. You’ve done amazingly well! 💪

Tell the management team at the gym, today.
Tell them this was harassment.
She will hopefully be spoken to and given a code of conduct warning.
Imagine if that was a strapping big muscular man at the gym who had walked over to you and said that - you'd have felt violated and he'd probably have been kicked out of his gym membership if you'd reported it straight away to the gym manager. Why should it be any different for this woman. Don't let her get away with it. Cause a big fuss when you speak to management about it today.
What an absolutely nasty piece of work she is.
Get your revenge OP.

Nasty piece of work.
At least I am working at improving myself, your personailty isnt able to be.
Meantion to the gym, she is threatend by you for some reason!