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Have you ever been to a concert alone?

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LonelyRocker · 24/07/2024 19:56

I'm not a regular concert go-er. But, me, dh and a couple of friends had tickets to see Springsteen. I was looking forward to it. I'm a fan, not a massive fan I don't know all his stuff or anything, but have always liked him. The travel is a pain, but it would have been a good night out.

Long story short, through no fault of anyone, the friends can't now go, and our childcare has completely fallen through. There's no point getting in to it here, but suffice to say several events have coincided to properly scupper our plans. We put the tickets up for sale. And of <course> three out of four have sold. The price of the last one is dropped right down but it's unlikely a single ticket will be popular...

I'm really annoyed to have lost money and a night out, but it struck me today - maybe I should go alone. Then I quickly convinced myself I can't possibly do that. The travel, the weirdness of being in there alone, completely out of my comfort zone etc. But I know it's possible, and I would likely never see him concert again and I've never been to a stadium gig. I just can't muster the confidence to do it ☹️ Would you do it?

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Echobelly · 24/07/2024 20:44

Yeah, go.

I got tickets for a gig before Covid for a band I quite like but wasn't a megafan, I just wanted to go to more gigs.

It finally happened autumn last year and I was going to take oldest DC. The night before (I thought) DC at the last minute went out and voluteered for something and just after they left I saw a tweet from the band that said they were playing London TONIGHT. I'd somehow got it in my head it was the next evening.... DH had to stay in to look after DC, so I just went on my own. It was fun but would have been better with someone else. But I'm glad I went.

I believe this is Springsteen's last tour, so worth catching.

JohnnyYenSetHimselfOnFireAgain · 24/07/2024 20:50

I've been to several gigs alone and loved every one! Do it, you won't regret it.

purplecorkheart · 24/07/2024 20:53

Yes, I have gone alone to plenty of concerts and equally have gone to others with friends. I would never miss out on an artist I would love to see because I would have to be there on my own. Life is too short.

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PerfectTravelTote · 24/07/2024 20:57

Maybe you can still stay in the friends house rather than drive home afterwards.

MuggleMe · 24/07/2024 23:05

I snagged a last min ticket to take that last month but travel wasn't such a pickle. I'd go though if I were you. I just made friends with those around me.

Aerowispa · 24/07/2024 23:28

I actually asked the same question back in March here on this site. I wanted to go to my favourite boyband’s concert but no one else wanted to go and I could not force my husband to go with me as the ticket was so expensive!
Loads of people here told me that they’d been to concerts on their own so I took a plunge and off I went on my own for the first time in my life. And I had a fantastic time! I am quite shy but people around me started chatting to me and we sang and danced together. It was fun.
And the best thing was that as I walked towards my hotel which was only 5 minutes away from the venue, I saw a group of people hanging around the back stage entrance, waiting for the band members to come out… so I also joined them and waited for my favourite member and I took a selfie with him!! I could not have done it with friends or husband if I forced them to come with me.

it was such a fun going to a concert! So the OP, just go and have fun time!

PeachyKeane · 24/07/2024 23:31

I'm 54 and went to see Stevie nicks on my own a few weeks ago. No issues whatsoever. I noticed lots of solo attendees of both sexes in fact.

OnTheBoardwalk · 24/07/2024 23:33

Absolutely I’ve met good friends going to gigs on my own

join a fan page, ask people for parking and travel tips and go and have a good time. You'll regret it if you don’t

TonyeKnausgaard · 24/07/2024 23:36

Aerowispa · 24/07/2024 23:28

I actually asked the same question back in March here on this site. I wanted to go to my favourite boyband’s concert but no one else wanted to go and I could not force my husband to go with me as the ticket was so expensive!
Loads of people here told me that they’d been to concerts on their own so I took a plunge and off I went on my own for the first time in my life. And I had a fantastic time! I am quite shy but people around me started chatting to me and we sang and danced together. It was fun.
And the best thing was that as I walked towards my hotel which was only 5 minutes away from the venue, I saw a group of people hanging around the back stage entrance, waiting for the band members to come out… so I also joined them and waited for my favourite member and I took a selfie with him!! I could not have done it with friends or husband if I forced them to come with me.

it was such a fun going to a concert! So the OP, just go and have fun time!

I remember your thread! I'm so glad it went well. Sounds like a fun adventure.

GlitteringFeeling · 24/07/2024 23:36

I go to lots of gigs alone - friends just don’t have the same taste in music as me, and I realised it was silly to miss out because if that. I was a bit nervous for the first one or two I went to, but then realised I had no reason to be.

For me it’s one of the best places to be solo as you can just meld into the crowd if you want or it’s easy to strike up a conversation as you’re all there with something in common to talk about! Sometimes I arrive literally right before the main act come on.

I actually met my boyfriend at a gig I went to alone - he was also solo and we just got talking in between the support act and main band.

TinDogTavern · 24/07/2024 23:38

If you can afford it, go all in and get a London Travelodge that you can get back to reasonably easily by public transport. Springsteen is glorious live and he's at the top of his game. Please go. You'll love it.

Divebar2021 · 24/07/2024 23:48

I went to a gig on my own for the first time a couple of months ago - it was during half term and every single person I knew was away ( it seemed). It was at the Royal Albert Hall - it was great. Every single person there ignored me pretty much which was fine by me. Like lots of London venues they had a curfew so I knew I wouldn’t be stranded by it over running.

stayathomer · 24/07/2024 23:55

First time ever last year and it was my best gig because I just sang and danced along without having to turn around and see if the person I was with was enjoying it too!!!

Tunnelsong · 25/07/2024 00:12

Yes. A Robbie Williams concert about 20 years ago following a fall out with a friend (we were due to go together). It also involved getting a coach a substantial distance on my own.

The buzz I got from going alone was great - made me feel free and invincible. I talked to so many people around me, and know that with a friend I wouldn’t have done that. Even all this time later I’m proper proud that I did that.

ilovepixie · 25/07/2024 00:23

I used to go to concerts alone all the time. And I'd go alone again if no one wanted to come with me. I saw the Pet Shop Boys a couple of months ago in concert and the girl beside me was by herself and she had an amazing time.

twilightcafe · 25/07/2024 00:25

You'll kick yourself if you don't go!

ilovesooty · 25/07/2024 00:29

Yes, a good many times, both in this country and once I travelled to Amsterdam.

wohmum · 25/07/2024 00:29

Yes, go! It’ll be great. For driving you can park at Hillingdon station and get the met line to Wembley. The car park is right at the station and easy access off the a40.

or park at Stanmore on the jubilee line if you are more north. I wouldn’t drive straight there - it will be a nightmare finding a space and then leaving

I’m going thursday with a friend - dm
me if you want a chat / to meet up ?

he’s due on at 7.15 ish, and it will finish by 10.30, but it will take a while for everyone to get up to the tube .
According to ‘ set list’ there will be 2 encores, so if you wanted to avoid the crush you could leave before the 2nd one

NeverMindTheBackProblems · 25/07/2024 00:30

Do it. I've been to loads of gigs by myself. Once the concert starts you won't even think about being by yourself.

HighHeelsOnCobblestones · 25/07/2024 00:35

Do it. No problem to leave Wembley early if you need to catch the train. I've had to do that twice and wasn't the only one either time.

Tarkan · 25/07/2024 00:35

Go for it! I did the same just a couple of weeks ago because DH was working. Took myself out for the day with a bus to the city, lunch and drinks by myself, a drink in another pub then the gig. I was able to get right up front (standing only gig) into a space that only really worked for one person so wouldn't have been able to stand there if I hadn't been alone.

I had a brilliant time at the gig, met the band outside afterwards then took myself off to the same pubs on my way back to the bus station.

I was absolutely buzzing afterwards to the point I actually didn't notice a fire that was raging just a street along from the bus station. Blush It didn't affect my bus though so that's maybe one reason why. I'd smelled the smoke in the second pub but just thought they'd messed up someone's garlic bread. BlushGrin

Disturbia81 · 25/07/2024 00:38

Been to loads, you lose yourself in the music more instead of trying to chat over the noise and comment to each other

SnowFrogJelly · 25/07/2024 00:45

Yes.. GO

PinkArt · 25/07/2024 00:49

Firstly, you are not in your old age! You're 42!!! I'm a couple of years older and would say we've just shifted into middle age. Stop boxing yourself off as 'old' when you are in your prime.
I haven't been to a concert alone before, but have to the theatre and exhibitions loads. In his instance I'd absolutely go alone. It would be such a shame to miss the experience. If you do feel weird or uncomfortable or hate it, you can always just leave.

Hgfcddrtbhhjkjggfddf · 25/07/2024 01:07

I'm going to a festival on my own this weekend. I'm really looking forward to it. I love going with friends but most don't like the same music as me. I like doing exactly what I want.

I have a great husband, great adult kids and I have lovely friend's but I like myself too. It's really healthy to be able to enjoy your own company.