Are you close to your MIL?

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I'm a mum of 2 boys who are absolutely amazing. I really hope I can continue to be really close to their families if and when they grow up and meet someone.
Are you close to your MIL? I am close with mine although she lives far away so we don't see her as often as we'd like.

My MIL is an absolute angel. I'm very lucky. My friends often complain about theirs, but I in turn think that relationship is built both ways, and they simply can't be bothered.. My MIL is a great relaxed mother, never mollycoddled her boys and always gives room when needed. Equally she is very supportive!

How lovely xxx

Mine is a lovely woman but we have absolutely nothing in common. She is uneducated and has nothing to say about anything that isn't to do with cooking or housework. I much prefer the company of FIL, we chat about all sorts of things and have a great connection.

Thanks all. Great to hear really positive relationships in many cases

No. She’s a horrible woman who wants everything her way, or else. I’ve spent 40 years making sure we live as far from her as possible. Which makes me no better, but being far from her makes life easier.

I am far closer to MIL than I am to my own mum. She is much more like me in personality and has always been so helpful and supportive of us as a family in general. She is non-judgemental and positive and I genuinely love her like she is my own family.

Yes, she’s lovely and levelheaded and fab

That’s why you get on with her, she lives miles away 😂

I'm incredibly close to my MIL, she was an absolute rock when I had my babies (and FIL) even though I live minutes from my own parents who I have a fabulous relationship with. We even choose to holiday with them at least once a year. I think it works so well because she very rarely pushes her opinion. Instead she listens and she supports and I don't think I've ever felt judged by her.

I love my MiL I've been with DH since we were both 15, so she's known me for 22years. She took me wedding dress shopping when my own mother couldn't, was my birthing partner when I had my DS and supported me when my mother passed away. I'm incredibly fortunate my MiL is amazing

No. Not at all. And I have really tried. I start conversations about things she’s interested in. I ask her about stuff. She’s got no daughters so I even invited her wedding dress shopping (declined). But it has been 20 years now and she has no idea when my birthday is, what my surname is (I didn’t change it) or what I do for a living. She has never been to our home. And she has more faces than a clock tower. The only time she talks to me with any enthusiasm is when she thinks I’ve got something she can gossip about. But unless she pushes me too far, I’ll keep smiling because I don’t want to put DH in a position where he feels like he has to choose between us.

DH’s former step mum, however, was amazing. We were really close and she was a wonderful woman. I miss her very much.

No relationship to either parents on either side. I always seem to attract the crap :(

My MIL passed away when DH was young so I never met her but I have a better relationship with ny FIL & SIL than I do with my own family!

I was, but mine sadly died six years ago. My daughter was her only grandchild and it’s a sickener that she was only 3 when she died because she was a devoted granny. She came wedding dress shopping with me, mum and bridesmaids, came to my baby shower and I will be eternally grateful for the amazing pairs of pants she bought me post section because she had been through it herself and knew exactly what I needed! We saw my in laws once a fortnight on average and when I was on mat leave I would visit her on my own with DD. We would have visited her more often if it weren’t for my arsehole father in law (an alcoholic) and brother in law. My husband had to reduce contact with them for his own mental health and we were always on at her to leave him and would take her out without them. She had a sad last few years apart from that. 😔