Do you consider yourself good looking?

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I’m OK in real life, but not the least bit photogenic 😂

You?

@Magpie50 it's awful when you look back at school isn't It. When I was in my final year, we had a very American style year book and I won 'most likely to end up in jail'. Probably because I was a bit more of an extrovert and came from a dysfunctional family and seemed to seek out bad relationships. I was incredibly insecure and had the weight of the world on my shoulders at 18. I still don't know how I go through those horrific years. I don't think life will ever be that chaotic again. Through no fault of my own...

At primary school on a geography school trip I won 'best dressed' for turning up to a field trip with an Afghan coat, however, this is what happens when mum is an alcoholic and Dad is a controlling absent lunatic. No one to looo after you or buy you an anorak. As an 11 year old I was probably blissfully unaware how much I stood out until the laughing teachers awarded me for it.

Since I started looking after myself and dressing better, taking care of my nails and hair, I feel 100% better than I did a couple of years ago.

It's reflected in my level of confidence and that's what it's all about.

I think it’s lovely that women look at themselves and feel attractive. So many of us don’t and are so self critical. We should all be kinder to ourselves.

I look like a serial killer without make up.

I’m one of those people who has got a lot better looking as I’ve got older. I was just average as a child, but when I bump into old school friends, they often do a double take as I am probably on the slightly more attractive than normal end of the spectrum now. I also aged well in that I look about 10 years younger than I am.

I don’t wear much make-up either, other than mascara.

I was model - like in my 20s, before dcs. I got a lot of attention being tall , slim, blonde hair, brown eyes, tanned.
Now I feel if I managed to lose about a stone in weight I would be more attractive. Although I went abroad a few months ago with a friend and we were heckled at and harassed every night when dressed up so that boosted our confidence even if they just wanted us into their bars & restaurants!

I think there is a world of difference to looking at yourself in the mirror and being confident that what you are wearing and your hair and make up looks good to you and looking in the mirror and actually saying Oh aren't I attractive? I.e the difference to being quieltly confident versus actually expecting people just to look at you and admire you because you are so good looking.
The op asks if people consider themselves good looking. What people think is good looking is so subjective. Possibly someone with duck lips, enhanced backside and false breasts looks in the mirror and considers themselves to be good looking. Other people looking at them think they look like a ridiculous caricature. So to look in the mirror and think Oh I'm so attractive doesn't really take into account that you might think you are attractive but other people definitely won't.

I'm very happy with the way I look and wouldn't want to look differently.

But I'm not "good looking" in terms of society's traditional standards of beauty.

So it depends what you mean when you say "good looking". If you mean skinny, blonde, lip filler, fake tan and 5'10" then no!

Sure, but the OP asks ‘do you consider yourself good looking?’

She is asking for people’s opinions on their own appearance. Obviously that will be subjective.

If we were all somehow compelled to post a candid photo alongside our posts, it’s likely that some people who’ve declared themselves ‘hideous’ or ‘potato-like’ are actually quite nice-looking, and that some who rate their own appearance highly don’t appear to have this borne out by the photo, or their ‘look’ is not to everyone’s taste.

Yes

Not really. I have brown hair and brown eyes though so my colouring is good. My bone structure is also quite good. No wrinkles or grey hair for mid 40s.

But I make so little effort 🤣

I hate the way I look but I love my clothes and make a lot of them myself. That’s helped my self esteem a bit. I’ve also worked hard at convincing myself that looks aren’t the be all and end all. It is a significant disadvantage to be ugly though I don’t think it’s helpful to deny that to myself. Basically I try to cut myself some slack!

I was when I was younger but couldn't see it . I'm ok with make up but prefer to be invisible

I've always been content with my looks. I'm evenly proportioned, good hair, good skin. I don't feel a need for high maintainence beauty routines and look after myself with a decent diet, exercise and suncream and am not bothered about hair styling, make-up and cosmetic treatments.

I don't meet the fashion/ beauty industry standards of beauty, and I don't care. I'm happy with myself.

Some "beautiful" women have a sculptural kind of attractiveness but that's about it. Some women who aren't conventionally beautiful or attractive can have something else that glows through, a twinkle in the eye or just a warmth of personality that flows through.

It's good to feel comfortable in your own skin and it's a shame that so many don't because of bitchy comments and narrow standards of what "beauty" is.

I thought the OPs point in asking the question was about people often not looking as good in photos as they think they do in real life. And I think she has a valid point that photos often are unflattering.
However I just find it totally repugnant and alien to me to hear how some pp have answered in a literal way that shows what a high opinion of they have of themselves. I suppose this is the natural consequence of a society where physical attributes are seen to trump all other qualities such as kindness, decency, intellect and honesty, etc.
The posts generally fall on either: the self depreciating side or the vain side. If you ask questions like the OP has it is very revealing about what people are like.
Personally I think vanity is unappealing.

The question was "Do you consider yourself attractive?".
Not one person has stated they expect other people to look at them and admire them so I'm not sure where you got that from!
However, the fact is, if other people do find you attractive then you know about it! It's not about expecting other people to admire you - they either do or they don't and if they do, you'll have noticed! Also, plenty of people have answered saying they like the way they look but are not conventionally attractive.

This is exactly how I feel too.

But, as I've got older and fatter, at the same time I've also got better in finding clothes and styles to suit me.
Wrap or faux wrap dresses are great for this!
I use a tiny bit of make up but it makes a massive difference, no foundation just eyebrow pencil to define shape and mascara.
I feel more confident and accept the way I am...Until I see a photo someone has taken🤦‍♀️

Well you see I have this problem with equating being good looking with being attractive.
As I stated previously you don't have to be " good looking" to be attractive. Attractive is based on so many qualities other than just physical looks. You can be really attractive because of the sum total of your qualities with out being conventionally " good looking".
So to consider yourself " good looking" is a different thing from being attractive.

I think I was when I was younger, and wasted it thinking I was ugly

Yes, but only with make up. Blue eyes and decent cheekbones help.

Yes I think so, not just because of aesthetics but also who I am

I don't think there should be so much focus on the way we look

Yes I agree with that, although I'd say the word attractive is often used to mean good looking.
One of the most attractive people I know is not at all conventionally good looking. She about 6 foot 4 inches tall, overweight, short spiky hair but my God, she's so attractive. Hey eyes seem to twinkle, she had an infectious smile, she makes everyone laugh. Just thinking of her makes me feel happy! She's attractive in the sense she attracts everyone to her. People are just drawn to her. She'd never be a model but she seems glow from the inside.

Nope! Though not too bad in the mirror, but terrible In photos. My nose is on the larger side and it ruins my face in photos.

That said, looking at photos of younger me, I was more attractive than I believed at the time. I'm in 40s now and not so bothered anymore.

I think I'm good looking.
Photos sometimes disagree with me 😁

Definitely wouldn't say attractive, but equally don't think I'm unattractive - still cringe most of the time when I see a photo someone else has taken of me. I sometimes think they're being mean, why would they send a photo where I look like THAT?! But perhaps the photos aren't as bad as I think, no one's as critical of ourselves as we are, are they?!

After two children I'm wobblier etc than before, but actually, I mostly feel far more at peace with myself than I've ever felt before. (Photos excluded apparently!)