Do you consider yourself good looking?

[Sharrilanda]

I’m OK in real life, but not the least bit photogenic 😂

You?

Yep.

Nope. I'm ugly. Can't be helped.

Yes I do. You know when you're attractive really. & besides people say it. DP always tells me. It's still very rare that I like photos of myself though as Im not particularly photogenic. I look after myself, eat well and take care of my appearance but mostly its good family genes. So many women say theyre not attractive at all yet I can't recall ever having seen a woman who really is ugly. We dont have to be model standard to be beautiful do we? Why did you ask the question OP, out of interest?

😂

I think with all the people in their 20s getting fillers and Botox we all feel a bit of pressure in this regard. As a mother of a small child in my 30s I hear you. However i have heard of women saying they felt way more attractive in their 40s than they did in their 30s after getting through the rearing small children stage. I’m hoping that will be the case for me!

Not awful but I look better in photos.

In fact I’m going to be brave. Not bad looking so potentially good looking but it feels wrong to say it. It’s not very nice to compliment yourself is it?

No. I look like a mutated goblin shark / aye-aye hybrid that scared someone late at night and got hit in the face with a shovel.

I am not one of nature's beauties.

Yes but annoyingly only IRL, not at all photogenic! I guess that’s better than the other way around. I’m 40 and struggling with the realisation that I will lose my looks.

not anymore, I was never amazing looking but looked alright ish, but I’ve had to have and will need more operations on my face and I look fucked up now

Objectively yes, I know I'm good looking because since I was 15 I've been asked to do stuff and given opportunities purely because I was conventionally physically attractive. I inherited symmetrical features, nice eyes, good skin and cheek bones from my Mum, who inherited them from her Mum, so it's mainly genetic and nothing I can take any personal credit for. It just is what it is.

Always had lots of male attention which I've discouraged as I've only ever had eyes for my husband. I still scrub up very well and like to be well groomed but I'm quietly becoming invisible to the male gaze which doesn't bother me in the slightest. I know DH still finds me beautiful which is all that matters.

I'm ok, average , unremarkable, not photogenic. I was terribly self conscious for years and years but for now if I can go out in public and not scare small children that'll do. 😁

I am average looking. But I think and have been told that I have an excellent dressing sense. I dress to suit my size/figure, as I know that certain types of clothes simply don't suit me or look cheap. I put effort into dressing up, including accessories, lipstick colour, and that makes me feel good.

yes.

Yes 😁
I count my blessings I look pretty, pretty good for my mid 50s and by some fucking miracle I have no serious ailments (touch wood).

However, even though I look good for my age I rarely make any effort because I can't be bothered 😂

I'm average looking at best, I don't think I look too bad in the mirror but I caught a glimpse of myself on the security camera on the self checkout at asda earlier and was horrified so maybe I'm just delusional about how ugly I really am.

I was gorgeous in my teens and twenties but I hated being stared at and people making comments and shouting things in the street all the time, especially as I was extremely shy.
Now I'm in my fifties, I am an overweight, grumpy, greying mess. I would rather be thinner, purely for health reasons, but being invisible is incredibly freeing for me .

I think there is a difference to being attractive and being " beautiful".
Being attractive encompasses a lot of different things - your features, figure, how you carry yourself, how you smile , how you laugh. It is more than just how your body and face is. It is you. It is your personality as well.
Being beautiful conjures up some one who has perhaps perfect features and body. But that is it. It's like being a doll .It must become boring being with someone who is " beautiful" unless there are other things, other attributes to go with physical beauty. Like kindness, humour , wit. Just being " beautiful" in the purely physical sense of the word is not enough.

A lot of the time I do, then I see photographs which tell a very different story

I’ve heard that too and clingy to the hope that once we’re past the baby stage then things will get easier and I can spend a bit more time on me!

It took me a long time to understand that I am not unattractive, I am just not my type.

I am tall, slim, pale, wavy light brown hair and big black eyes. Big tits, slim legs. I get a lot of attention even in (very) late 30s. I was scouted for a model at school.
However, I think women who are short, curvy, with big but and hips, dark hair and cool green or blue eyes are just amazing.
My best friend looks like that and she is gorgeous. Imo much more feminine than me.
Thank god my DH prefers my look.

Wish someone told me this earlier as I spent ages feeling just stupid in my body and questioning motives for anyone who found me attractive.

I look better now that I'm older, frankly. I know what works and stick to the formula. No matter regarding nonsense from outside sources, iyswim

I’m not at all facially photogenic and i absolutely hate having my photo taken in fact I think I have maybe 5 photos of my face that I like
but I can get a decent selfie with patience and a few apps 😂

body wise I’m pretty good though

I have a nice in proportion figure with a very flat stomach and waist and decent firm boobs and I can wear most clothes and look good from dresses to leggings to sport stuff

I know what suits me and what works for me

my hair is fab always has been and I always get compliments about it
I don’t look my age or that I have a 30 year old son 😂
And in comparison to a lot of women my age I am looking pretty good
Don't smoke rarely drink

I do Have regular Botox manicures pedicure facials eyebrows each month so I spend a fair amount of money on myself

I don’t wear a lot of make up either just bronzing cream and lipstick

Well in my head I look like a top super duper model. Unfortunately all the mirrors around here are badly made, or the lightings wrong. Something is up anyway!

I'm in my 50s and don't look great now but I feel more sad for younger me. I was always told by my parents I wasn't pretty. Then I got bullied at school and of course bullies will always call you ugly even if your not. It then left me with no confidence so I made do with shit men who did nothing to boost my self esteem. I think then it just became a vicious circle in that I believed I was ugly and any evidence that supported that, such as a man making a mean comment to me or whatever made me believe it even more. I didn't bother to make an effort with my looks because what was the point?

Yet, I look back now on photos of me in my 20s and 30s and no I wasn't model beautiful or anything but there was nothing wrong with me. I wasn't ugly.

So now I don't look my best anymore but I've ceased caring. I'm probably still not over it all in truth. So I still have that feeling of if I make an effort and someone puts me down, I'll feel worse than if I didn't bother. So I don't.

I was pretty, not beautiful. Always photographed well. Had a a nice figure. Up until about 47. Then perimenopause hit…