My personal trainer, my eyebrow lady, my weight trainer, my hairdresser are all abandoning me.

[LeftBereft]

Last year I started a thread because I had a mild panic that my personal trainer was about to up and leave the city we live in. Here's the thread. She didn't leave. Good news and all has been well since.

But now she is actually going. And leaving the fucking country this time. So deja vu. But worse. I'm absolutely gutted. But I'd kind of mentally prepared myself last year so I can just about handle it.

This was about a week ago that she told me she was leaving.

In the seven or so days since:
My eyebrow lady told me that she's moving away to be closer to her parents.

The chap that leads the small-group, women-only weightlifting sessions that I go to said he's taking an undetermined break to restructure his business.

My hairdresser text me to say she's having another baby so after my next appointment, she won't be around until late-2025 if she comes back at all.

The fuck?! What have I done to all these people?!

I've tried venting to DP, he doesn't get it. Can you let me vent and wallow a bit, MN?

I was kind of motivated to seriously start exploring a new PT. But then I lost all will when I also realised I'd need to find a new eyebrow lady, weightlifting instructor and hairdresser. Or I could not bother, just let myself absolutely go to seed. It's clearly what these abandoning bastards want 😭😭

I shall generously assume the heat is responsible for the complete absence of most posters’ awareness of self deprecating humour on this thread.

I hear ya @LeftBereft My lash lady had the audacity to go on maternity leave (early as well due to a slightly premature baby!) and I was GUTTED. She gave me my eyes back. Luckily I found another one locally who is amazing. Fingers crossed you find all the peoples you need.

This thread made me smile! Don't worry you will find new people to help with your lifestyle. I do sympathise, it's a lot of change at once.

It won't add eyebrows back in, so probably not? It's just for shaping them nicely. I would probably go for microblading in your case, although do a LOT of research and find someone very good who does natural-looking brows. Or just don't bother and fill them in... or not!

I also lived through the 90s but with brushy brows, so they grew back just fine! I never have to fill in my eyebrows or dye them, so there are benefits to a monobrow.

I honestly don't know how some people on this thread function in real life with the sense of humour bypass they've had. Can someone remind me again exactly when MNHQ decreed we must only ever post about Very Serious Issues?

I'm sorry for your loss OP, a decent eyelash lady is worth her weight in gold.

I travel 3 hours to my hairdresser, after I moved away (so entirely my fault). I cannot find anyone similar, and she's lovely. It's more like catching up with an old friend! So I get that,
I just cannot find a brow person, ever. I am terrified of even trying one. So if your brow person happens to be moving up North... haha

If it gives you any hope OP, when my lovely, reliable and trustworthy cat feeder of 10 years+ retired and I was forced to find someone else, the new cat feeder is even better than the old one.

I feel for you on the weight trainer. I started going to a women's only small group weights class about a year ago and I love it. I've kept getting out of bed at 5.40 am for a year, it must be good.
Also hairdresser. It took her a good few years to learn how to deal with my cockapoo mop.

I am still bitter about my waxing lady going. She was amazing. That was 10 years ago. Every time I am forced into some ridiculous denigrating pose or they re rip a section I silently curse her leaving.

Good god can you hear yourself, they’re not mutually exclusive you can do both

I get it OP, my lip lady is on a journey to find herself and I am devastated. She is the only person I have found who does natural looking lip and not duck pouts!

huge sympathy to you!

Few people could afford it all. That's significant financial privilege.

F me.
Your problems onto me, OP 😁👏

I have eyebrows that are not so much sisters as adopted cousins. I’ve had two people who could shape them competently and many who couldn’t resulting in overplucking and a bald spot.

I had an amazing hairdresser for 6 months and it’s worse knowing what’s possible. People who don’t understand obviously have much more compliant hair.

I also had a brilliant fitness instructor for a while, who I miss. But that one isn’t as big an issue.

Sympathy op.

I can only offer my most humble apologies.

Oh your poor lip lady. Where did she last see herself? Has she checked down the back of the sofa?

And your ability to afford ‘good local food’ with enough time to go walking in the sunshine aren’t signs of significant privilege? Get a grip, you sound absolutely ridiculous

Sunshine is free. Walking is free.
Eyebrows are £15 a month.

More than some can afford, yes, but not significantly financially privileged 😂

Deep breaths op. It's going to ok.

I'm on just above minimum wage and on my own with teens. I am privileged compared to many, yes. I was saying that money spent on health improves appearance more than money spent on appearance. Few can afford both.

the majority of people can go for a walk and get their eyebrows done.

Affording eyebrows, PT, fitness class, a hairdresser, then decent food on top of that would be financially privileged certainly.

What did you do during Covid lockdown??

Plus a diet solely of 'good fresh local food' in parts of the UK in January would probably result in scurvy. Which is quite bad for the brows, I understand.

There's a fuck tonne of vit C in cabbage

There's a decent amount of vitamin C in cabbage, although if memory serves, it's reduced by cooking (fat soluble vitamins are made more bioavailable by cooking, water soluble ones are more easily destroyed). If you're surviving through the winter on a diet of cabbage as your main vitamin c source, I can only think it's a good thing you're so fond of spending a lot time outside. 😐