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I don't want to go to DD graduation

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Easygoing24 · 15/06/2024 12:23

Dd is going from yeat 9 into year 10. And there's going to be a graduation. I have to sit there for 2 hrs just to watch her be given a bit of paper for 3 seconds . I will have to put my younger kids in breakfast club . Will have to leave home at 6.45. As I dont drive. Breakfast club 7.45 and then get to dd school for 8.30.

Feels like so much pissing about . No I don't have anyone who can help. No school mums, no one at all .

Yes I know I'm being a nasty bitch. I will 100% go. Because I won't let dd down .

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gotohellforheavenssake · 16/06/2024 14:32

I'm a teacher too, I miss plenty of things for my DD because of work, she understands. I don't judge those who genuinely can't make things. I do judge the apathetic attitude of parents on this thread who simply can't be bothered because they don't benefit from it or have to get out of bed a bit earlier and it involves 'faffing about'.

DappledThings · 16/06/2024 14:45

gotohellforheavenssake · 16/06/2024 14:32

I'm a teacher too, I miss plenty of things for my DD because of work, she understands. I don't judge those who genuinely can't make things. I do judge the apathetic attitude of parents on this thread who simply can't be bothered because they don't benefit from it or have to get out of bed a bit earlier and it involves 'faffing about'.

Has anyone said that? More that people will put themselves out even though they think it's pointless but are entitled to moan about it a bit too.

When my DC are at secondary if their school faffs about with this nonsense then DH and I will make sure all events are covered. But I reserve the right to be a bit annoyed about it at the same time. Hopefully they won't and it'll just be one leaving thing when they are actually moving on at the end of school.

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Easygoing24 · 16/06/2024 14:46

gotohellforheavenssake · 16/06/2024 14:32

I'm a teacher too, I miss plenty of things for my DD because of work, she understands. I don't judge those who genuinely can't make things. I do judge the apathetic attitude of parents on this thread who simply can't be bothered because they don't benefit from it or have to get out of bed a bit earlier and it involves 'faffing about'.

Thank you for the dig. As I have said several times I am going ... that does not mean I can't moan of about it.

I will now say how it is.

I have 2 children with special needs. On top of this I have other stressful things going on . I probably get about 4hrs sleep a night. I also wake up at least 3 times a night during that 4 hrs because I have so much going on.

I will have to get my 2 younger kids up around 6am. One of them has autism. And needs quite a bit of help still . He will be upset and stressed about going to breakfast club because he will find the change difficult.

As much as I have other very stressful stuff going on that i can narky cope with I will maje it to DD graduation. Which I have said all along .

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downtownlights · 16/06/2024 15:59

gotohellforheavenssake · 16/06/2024 14:32

I'm a teacher too, I miss plenty of things for my DD because of work, she understands. I don't judge those who genuinely can't make things. I do judge the apathetic attitude of parents on this thread who simply can't be bothered because they don't benefit from it or have to get out of bed a bit earlier and it involves 'faffing about'.

There are plenty of things that are worth going to, concerts, plays, sports, work sharing afternoons, etc. Graduating from one academic year to the next (unless it’s at certain milestones) is not one of them.

ZenNudist · 16/06/2024 17:16

I wouldn't go either

LlynTegid · 16/06/2024 17:22

I wish you had decided not to go. Even if your DD was your only child.

You would be doing her a kindness not to go, better to be disappointed about something trivial or ridiculous to help build a bit more resilience. Overhyping life's normal events is not a good thing.

LlynTegid · 16/06/2024 17:23

gotohellforheavenssake · 16/06/2024 14:32

I'm a teacher too, I miss plenty of things for my DD because of work, she understands. I don't judge those who genuinely can't make things. I do judge the apathetic attitude of parents on this thread who simply can't be bothered because they don't benefit from it or have to get out of bed a bit earlier and it involves 'faffing about'.

I hope you would respect someone who declined politely such a ridiculous event.

NewName24 · 16/06/2024 19:00

downtownlights · 16/06/2024 15:59

There are plenty of things that are worth going to, concerts, plays, sports, work sharing afternoons, etc. Graduating from one academic year to the next (unless it’s at certain milestones) is not one of them.

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This.

This x 1000 if it means a child with autism has to have their routine completely disrupted.

Littlelillies · 16/06/2024 20:00

There are plenty of things that are worth going to, concerts, plays, sports, work sharing afternoons, etc. Graduating from one academic year to the next* is not one of them*

There's literally nothing to celebrate.. Just completeling a school year is not an achievement!

Graduating from a University, having passed exams and written a dissertation is!

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