I don't want to go to DD graduation

[Easygoing24]

Dd is going from yeat 9 into year 10. And there's going to be a graduation. I have to sit there for 2 hrs just to watch her be given a bit of paper for 3 seconds . I will have to put my younger kids in breakfast club . Will have to leave home at 6.45. As I dont drive. Breakfast club 7.45 and then get to dd school for 8.30.

Feels like so much pissing about . No I don't have anyone who can help. No school mums, no one at all .

Yes I know I'm being a nasty bitch. I will 100% go. Because I won't let dd down .

I do think her enthusiasm is quite sweet though. At 14 I and my peers would have found a ceremony with our parents watching really cringe.

No I won't do that . She's very unlikely to gey a degree she us bot great academically. Si I won't out that on her . But I do think it's silly though.

That's why I have to go 😭

I'll put money on this to be to try and combat student lethargy and making the GCSE years 'special' and to stand out between KS3 and KS4. They should have kept KS3 SAT at the end of year 9, it's such a nothing year now.

You won't be the only parent not going, tell her you love her and are proud of X, Y, Z for the last 3 years and that's that and perhaps buy her a couple of GCSE revision materials and fresh stationery if this move must be honoured.

Bugger that! There are only so many events working parents can to go and will need to prioritise. What nonsense!

Wtaf. That's bonkers

What a load of wank

Graduations only make sense if there is a chance to "fail". Everyone moves from year 9 to 10, so you don't really "graduate"?!

Yes you can say the time of day and other commitments mean you can't go. You have other children.

You can also say how proud you are of how hard she has worked this year and take her out for a pizza or whatever one on one at some point to celebrate if possible. At 14 with younger siblings that one on one time with you will be much more valuable than a graduation ceremony and you can do it at a convenient time.

Ok so I read the title and thought YABVU, assuming a degree graduation.

Then thought it might be a pre-school graduation.

Y9 to Y10? Fuck that for a laugh.

It is not a graduation.

She hasn't had to pass exams in order to qualify for the next level. It's an end-of year assembly, that's all.

From key stage 3 to key stage 4. They never user to do it . Its new. I don't get it either.

Absolutely ridiculous. I already find the fuss over leaving Year 11 a bit much tbh (especially in a school like mine where most students stay for 6th form).

Unless they get letters after their name as a result, I wouldn't attend any of my children's "graduations".

When I read about this kind of madness I'm so glad my children are grown up.

Seriously explain to her why you actually cut go and that y9to y10 really is no different to y8 to y9 except at her bonkers school.

Please don't go, tell your DD it's not about her but the nonsense of such a ceremony. Let the school know politely that you won't be going. Point out the cost were you to go, even though that should be a secondary reason.

Ask them how they square such nonsense with their Equality Act duties.

I found the preschool graduation a bit of fun, but that is bonkers.

Just throw money at the problem, tell her you very proud but can't attend, buy her something she wants or take her out shopping when you can. My daughter would have been easily bribed in the teenage years with this.

My dd is now a young adult and in all her time at school they never had 'graduations', they had leavers' assemblies, and I only remember going to a couple of those. She has had only one graduation. In Canterbury Cathedral, when she got to stand about for hours in a gown with a mortar board on her head. We were all bored silly for most of that as well.

I’ve never heard of a year 9 graduation but…

Aren’t nursery and primary school “graduations” just another name for leaver’s assemblies? We had a leaver’s party and assembly at nursery and primary school 50 years ago! Ditto post GCSE and A-level. It’s hardly a new thing.

Same here!

I don't think that you would be letting her down by not going tbh.

I'm not sure I'd be making two younger ones get up early & have to go to breakfast club.

Y'all are a bunch of Debbie Downers on this thread. I think it's charming, especially since your DD is looking forward to it, OP.

My ds is going into year 10 in sept. He would be mortified if they did a graduation ceremony! No way would I attend!

Agree, baby showers, child naming ceremony, proms, now this!