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I think my friend has been arrested? So worried

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Horrified14 · 14/06/2024 15:07

Yesterday the police came to my door asking about the whereabouts of my male friend.I rang my friend and he said 2 youths had turned up at his door calling him a peado and trying to break in and threatening him with violence. He said he ran out the back door and ran away. He sounded terrified and told me he has no idea why they were there and he hasn't done anything. He spoke to the police and said he wanted to speak to them because he was so scared. They told him they would pick him up in police car.This was yesterday afternoon and I've not heard from him since.I've been to his house and there was a police notice half sticking out of his letterbox saying they have taken away all his phones and laptop etc and some cannabis (he smokes for himself, not a dealer). I just rang police because I'm so worried about him. He not in his house. Curtains are drawn which is v unusual.I was panicking he might be lying dead in the house or been attacked.Police have said 'he is safe and well and we know where he is' but can't tell me more. This sounds like he is in custody doesn't it? I'm now thinking he must have done something very serious? Or they have found something? It sounds like he may be in custody from yesterday, overnight and all today?? This sounds very serious doesn't it?I'm trying to think of reasons why they would keep him in custody if it was all a misunderstanding? I cant think of any.

OP posts:
Quella · 14/06/2024 19:15

OP, when you say a note was in the letter box, do you mean a formal notice? Usually a section 50 or 51 Criminal Justice and Police Act notice which will details items lawfully siezed following a property search.
If that's the case, its likely a section 8 PACE warrant has been executed at his home. These are only used if there is specific evidence (or intelligence) to support the police obtaining such a warrant.
If it is the above, the police action has not been on a whim.
If you want non judgemental advice (well, usually!) ask for you post to be moved to the legal matters board.

countrysidelife2024 · 14/06/2024 19:21

Exactly as @quella said, Its not easy for police to get a warrant to seize anything. They would have to have evidence of whatever they suspect.

Happened to our neighbour, firstly items seized then he was convicted of over 10k Class A images and videos. Not saying this is definitely that but They must has reason for concern.

EdgeOfTheAbysssss · 14/06/2024 19:24

You did nothing wrong reading the note. You invaded his privacy but with good reason, you were worried for his welfare and had reason to be worried. I doubt he's going to be cross you read the note. It's not like he was trying to hide what's going on when you spoke to him on the phone. You're not bound by confidentiality laws because you're not involved with him in a professional capacity. The police have broken the confidentiality laws by leaving the note sticking out of the letterbox.

Not exactly evidence this, but I read a novel recently where the police had left this sort of note on the desk at home of the character they'd arrested, so maybe it is a thing they do?

If you want to help your friend I imagine toiletries and a change of clothes might be appreciated. You could ask the police if they're able to pass them onto him if you bring them in.

Horrified14 · 14/06/2024 19:28

Thanks everyone.

I'm a bit horrified by the general implication that because he has few friends thar automatically makes him a peado/weirdo.

Don't we often see posts on here from women with no friends?

I am bracing myself for something horrible but hoping it might not be.
I know I can't do anything now.

Thank you

OP posts:
Thevelvelletes · 14/06/2024 19:29

Horrified14 · 14/06/2024 16:21

There was a note on police paper. It was like an inventory of what had been taken..
It was in the letterbox but hadn't been pushed through properly so I pulled it back out and read it.

Try harder... you're talking pish..the coppers don't leave an inventory of what they've taken if you get busted.

Quella · 14/06/2024 19:37

@Thevelvelletes, police do have to leave a formal notice listing items seized following the execution of a warrant or a premises search conduced after arrest.
Usually left inside the premises to be fair and not left in the letter box.

BarcardiWithGadaffia · 14/06/2024 19:48

Thevelvelletes · 14/06/2024 19:29

Try harder... you're talking pish..the coppers don't leave an inventory of what they've taken if you get busted.

I know you think you're an oh so clever troll spotter but I thought the police did make a list, no idea if they leave it in the letter box though

FlamingoFloss · 14/06/2024 19:52

aerkfjherf · 14/06/2024 15:19

also, he smokes cannabis, so you know just from that he's cool with a little bit of child trafficking and modern slavery, so what more do you need to know?

Really? What an odd thing to say

aerkfjherf · 14/06/2024 19:59

FlamingoFloss · 14/06/2024 19:52

Really? What an odd thing to say

maybe you are not aware that there are thousands of children trafficked from Asia to uk to work as slaves in the cannabis industry, but these are well known facts. I have met freed slaves as a foster carer, some look like they are under 10, but obviously so malnourished, you can't really tell. And they often dont have any idea how a bed works.

Anyone supporting the cannabis industry is supporting chid slavery. This man probably knows that, most people do. But apparently this is OK with him, so that doesn't say much for his morals, does it

StrawberryThief1930 · 14/06/2024 20:34

Thevelvelletes · 14/06/2024 19:29

Try harder... you're talking pish..the coppers don't leave an inventory of what they've taken if you get busted.

they do leave an inventory of items taken. like a receipt.

Frasers · 14/06/2024 20:40

aerkfjherf · 14/06/2024 19:59

maybe you are not aware that there are thousands of children trafficked from Asia to uk to work as slaves in the cannabis industry, but these are well known facts. I have met freed slaves as a foster carer, some look like they are under 10, but obviously so malnourished, you can't really tell. And they often dont have any idea how a bed works.

Anyone supporting the cannabis industry is supporting chid slavery. This man probably knows that, most people do. But apparently this is OK with him, so that doesn't say much for his morals, does it

Well I’m no fan of dope, but even I know a lot of folk home grow, in the uk, for personal supply , from seeds from others like minded. What a silly way to derail the thread.

WitchyBits · 14/06/2024 20:41

@Thevelvelletes

My son is a convicted offender, I promise you they absolutely DO take an inventory of items they have seized. I know that as they raided my house at 8am in the morning and I still have the paper work from years ago.

ttcat37 · 14/06/2024 20:58

Thevelvelletes · 14/06/2024 19:29

Try harder... you're talking pish..the coppers don't leave an inventory of what they've taken if you get busted.

Of course they do. It’s effectively a receipt.

AthenaBasil · 14/06/2024 21:10

*I'm a bit horrified by the general implication that because he has few friends thar automatically makes him a peado/weirdo.

Don't we often see posts on here from women with no friends?*

Totally agree. Being shy or socially awkward doesn’t make you more likely to be a paedo. Does it? Quite often having a good network of friends and being confident can be a good cover and can intimidate victims from coming forward as they think they won’t be believed as the abuser will have such support.

aerkfjherf · 14/06/2024 21:13

Frasers · 14/06/2024 20:40

Well I’m no fan of dope, but even I know a lot of folk home grow, in the uk, for personal supply , from seeds from others like minded. What a silly way to derail the thread.

It is not a derailment of the thread, the OP is talking about the potential character of her friend, and I am pointing out, that she knows he smokes cannabis, therefore whatever else he has done, she knows he colludes with and supports child trafficking and slavery

TheTartfulLodger · 14/06/2024 21:23

aerkfjherf · 14/06/2024 21:13

It is not a derailment of the thread, the OP is talking about the potential character of her friend, and I am pointing out, that she knows he smokes cannabis, therefore whatever else he has done, she knows he colludes with and supports child trafficking and slavery

Unless you know for a fact that OPs friend only ever buys his cannabis specifically from organised cannabis factories linked directly to child trafficking and slavery, then you absolutely are derailing the thread.

OhHelloMiss · 14/06/2024 21:25

Blatant thread derailment

Start your own thread if you want to discuss child trafficking or whatever

Frasers · 14/06/2024 21:26

aerkfjherf · 14/06/2024 21:13

It is not a derailment of the thread, the OP is talking about the potential character of her friend, and I am pointing out, that she knows he smokes cannabis, therefore whatever else he has done, she knows he colludes with and supports child trafficking and slavery

Please just stop now.

aerkfjherf · 14/06/2024 21:42

it is not a derailment, the OP said her friend smokes cannabis, I didn't raise the topic, she did

Frasers · 14/06/2024 21:42

aerkfjherf · 14/06/2024 21:42

it is not a derailment, the OP said her friend smokes cannabis, I didn't raise the topic, she did

Confused
TheTartfulLodger · 14/06/2024 22:04

aerkfjherf · 14/06/2024 21:42

it is not a derailment, the OP said her friend smokes cannabis, I didn't raise the topic, she did

Yes it is. I've already explained why.

StMarieforme · 14/06/2024 22:11

blacksax · 14/06/2024 16:52

'I am his only friend'

Really? That in itself tells a story.

My daughter has severe mental health problems, and currently no friends. Judgemental people like you have made her worse over the years.

KikiShaLeeBopDeBopBop · 14/06/2024 22:18

I really don't like the idea that someone must be guilty to be arrested. Innocent people get arrested for crimes too and that's why we trials., so you don't need to make your mind up one way another as to his guilt just yet op.

abouttoturn50 · 14/06/2024 22:20

Sounds like he was setting up a back story as to why the police were looking for him and why he might be seen being taken in a police car? 🤔

Police don't arrest or obtain warrants based on one single report, they'd have either received significant evidence or been monitoring him.

AlohaRose · 14/06/2024 22:37

If the police removed items from his flat, then they were inside the premises, so why on earth would they not leave the inventory inside, rather than leave the building and then stick it back through the letterbox? Makes no sense.