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I think my friend has been arrested? So worried

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Horrified14 · 14/06/2024 15:07

Yesterday the police came to my door asking about the whereabouts of my male friend.I rang my friend and he said 2 youths had turned up at his door calling him a peado and trying to break in and threatening him with violence. He said he ran out the back door and ran away. He sounded terrified and told me he has no idea why they were there and he hasn't done anything. He spoke to the police and said he wanted to speak to them because he was so scared. They told him they would pick him up in police car.This was yesterday afternoon and I've not heard from him since.I've been to his house and there was a police notice half sticking out of his letterbox saying they have taken away all his phones and laptop etc and some cannabis (he smokes for himself, not a dealer). I just rang police because I'm so worried about him. He not in his house. Curtains are drawn which is v unusual.I was panicking he might be lying dead in the house or been attacked.Police have said 'he is safe and well and we know where he is' but can't tell me more. This sounds like he is in custody doesn't it? I'm now thinking he must have done something very serious? Or they have found something? It sounds like he may be in custody from yesterday, overnight and all today?? This sounds very serious doesn't it?I'm trying to think of reasons why they would keep him in custody if it was all a misunderstanding? I cant think of any.

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FrancisSeaton · 14/06/2024 16:31

wtf would you take a letter from the letter of someone else and read it?
Do you have kids? Has he spent any time with them?

IdisagreeMrHochhauser · 14/06/2024 16:38

They will investigate the allegation if they consider it plausible. It doesn't make it true. Patience is your friend here. No-one here will know.

Jeezitneverends · 14/06/2024 16:39

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 14/06/2024 16:29

OP

Try not to worry as your partner has told you he is innocent. the police do have to follow up stuff like this.
Ask for the duty sergent/officer and tell them you are worried and I am sure the will enlighten you and I guess he will be released soon anyways.

You know him well and you trust him, so give them a callasn see what they say

She’ll be told nothing other than what she’s been told! Safe &well and police know where he is

Horrified14 · 14/06/2024 16:40

I dont have any kids. I am his only friend. He was frantic last time I spoke to him. The police came to my house. I thought he might be dead inside his house.
I think it was fine to read the note

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DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 14/06/2024 16:41

Jeezitneverends · 14/06/2024 16:39

She’ll be told nothing other than what she’s been told! Safe &well and police know where he is

Never hurts to try!!!

Jeezitneverends · 14/06/2024 16:43

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 14/06/2024 16:41

Never hurts to try!!!

It would hurt her ears if I got her call and she wouldn’t accept the answer. She. Has. No. Right. To. That. Information

aerkfjherf · 14/06/2024 16:43

Itsnotallaboutyoulikeyouthink · 14/06/2024 16:12

As you are if you buy anything - child labour is rife in your high street stores.

That doesn't make it ok in the cannabis industry.

There are thousands of trafficked children in the UK working as slaves growing cannabis

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 14/06/2024 16:44

Jeezitneverends · 14/06/2024 16:43

It would hurt her ears if I got her call and she wouldn’t accept the answer. She. Has. No. Right. To. That. Information

why are you being nasty

aerkfjherf · 14/06/2024 16:45

Horrified14 · 14/06/2024 16:40

I dont have any kids. I am his only friend. He was frantic last time I spoke to him. The police came to my house. I thought he might be dead inside his house.
I think it was fine to read the note

I don't think it was legal to read the note, but the bigger question is what did you do with it after you read it? Did you leave it out in public hanging out of the letterbox where any snooper could find it and read it or take it, and put it on social media, or anything?

CaptainMyCaptain · 14/06/2024 16:47

aerkfjherf · 14/06/2024 16:43

That doesn't make it ok in the cannabis industry.

There are thousands of trafficked children in the UK working as slaves growing cannabis

Not to mention the UK children used to sell and deliver it.

blacksax · 14/06/2024 16:52

'I am his only friend'

Really? That in itself tells a story.

Horrified14 · 14/06/2024 17:23

No. I posted it through the door so noone else could see it.

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BresciaBike · 14/06/2024 17:54

Horrified14 · 14/06/2024 16:40

I dont have any kids. I am his only friend. He was frantic last time I spoke to him. The police came to my house. I thought he might be dead inside his house.
I think it was fine to read the note

It wasn't fine. You breached his privacy. Everyone is aware of confidentiality rights these days.

BresciaBike · 14/06/2024 17:55

Also, police have said he's safe and have said they won't say any more so you're going to have to get on with your day.

DrCoconut · 14/06/2024 18:12

Paedophile hunting groups are scum, destroying families for their tawdry enjoyment and likes. I'm not condoning child abuse but there are ways and means of addressing it and acting the tough guy on a Facebook live stream is not one of them. It can't be taken back if the accused is subsequently cleared and it puts people (such as family members) at risk if the knuckle headed followers of these groups get an address or workplace to go to. There's no thought for "are kids" when some poor sod is being bullied at school because everyone has just watched their dad being called a nonce on social media. It's true though that you will not be entitled to any further information from the police, even family are told nothing.

CormorantStrikesBack · 14/06/2024 18:15

BresciaBike · 14/06/2024 17:54

It wasn't fine. You breached his privacy. Everyone is aware of confidentiality rights these days.

For all she knew it was a suicide note, saying don’t come in the house, call the police?? She was worried and trying to get clues as to where he was.

determinedtomakethiswork · 14/06/2024 18:16

How did the police know where you lived? How did they know about your connection to him?

Ladyj84 · 14/06/2024 18:21

To be blunt if there was no cause for concern they wouldn't have taken a thing! They don't take it on whims of other folk. The fact your the only friend says the kindof person this is, sorry

uncomfortablydumb53 · 14/06/2024 18:24

I can't imagine they would leave a note to say they have taken his tech
Did they break in looking for him?
I'm guessing they found your name in his phone when looking for evidence
It could be a malicious report, but all you can do is wait
It takes a while if they need to go through a hard drive

BagFullOfNoodles · 14/06/2024 18:26

I work in the justice system, I whole heartedly disagree with vigilante paedophile hunter type groups, they interfere with due process can jeopardise convictions and ultimately sometimes they get it wrong with horrific consequences.
Having said that I've also seen a hell of a lot of CPS bundles for convicted sex offenders that started with a vigilante group, so brace yourself OP.
The phrase you've been given means he is in custody, you will find out shortly what the next steps are if he's just released no further action, bailed, RUI'd, charged etc. it will rarely be charged at this stage if they want digital forensics of devices. If they've taken his devices there must be some plausibility to allegation that indicates they would need to examine them. That or previous similar allegations or convictions

beckybarefoot · 14/06/2024 18:27

Jeezitneverends · 14/06/2024 15:12

He’s in custody, that’s the phrase used

not always.. he may be in a MH unit, he may have asked that if ask about him they are told 'he is safe and we have no concerns for him'.

you have been told he is safe.. why worry yourself about everything else?

clearly there is more to his story, and one day he might tell you, or he might not

PrettySenior · 14/06/2024 18:36

How long have you known this "friend"? If he turns out to be a bad guy then walk away and don't get sucked into the drama. He may well be totally isolated apart from you for a very good reason.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 14/06/2024 18:38

He is either in custody, or...he is in a safe house.

Choochoo21 · 14/06/2024 18:39

You know he is safe.
Now you just have to wait and see the outcome.

KomodoOhno · 14/06/2024 18:41

Fgfgfg · 14/06/2024 15:11

Sorry op. If they've taken his phones and laptop they'll be looking for something.

OP I think you need to prepare yourself for the truth. Police do not confiscate on gossip or unfounded accusations.