How can I stop being depressed about the weather?

[Stardan]

Yes yes I know another weather thread. And yes, I realise this sounds insane but I can't handle the weather in this country anymore. I'm an immigrant, have lived here for over a decade but it's increasingly getting to me. Always struggled with the winters but now it's affecting me year round. The grey and rain doesn't seem to end. Please don't tell me that it's better than 40 degrees and boiling hot. I'm not asking for that either! Just dry and a blue sky, that's all I want. Doesn't have to be warm. It is making me depressed and knowing I have to live like this for the rest of my life (or at least until the kids are grown up) is sending me into panic. There are times where I think through scenarios of what would be worse, leaving the country without my husband and children or killing myself. I check the weather back home or see pictures of my family in the garden and burst into tears.

I have tried the lamp, vitamin D supplements, antidepressants, a gratitude journal to value what I do have. Nothing works and every year it is getting worse. Has anyone found a solution? Learned to live with it? I'm looking out the window right now and it's making me feel so sick and hopeless.

I am a seething mass of vile resentment at those who have sunshine. It pours out of every pore all the time. NOTHING will stop this creeping fury except for sunshine. I have accepted this.

I am the complete opposite - I sympathise with how you are feeling as that is EXACTLY how I would feel in a hot country.

Be thankful you don't live in Norway or Sweden 😃 and perhaps northern Scotland.

Well you'll have to move, put up or shut up really

I completely understand how you feel. Others won't of course. It's dire. Can you not move home? Where is your home country?

This past week has floored me. We are in June FFS.

“There are times where I think through scenarios of what would be worse, leaving the country without my husband and children or killing myself.” Kindly, that’s a bit dramatic! I mean the weather absolutely IS crap. But killing yourself? If you really feel that way I think you need to consider moving back or seeing your GP!

It will be better for you if you can stop focusing on it so much.
Is the weather stopping you doing things? Maybe there are ways you can adapt what you do, what you wear or something, so the weather isn't so much of a factor.

I gave in and had the heating on for a few hours today. I’m finally cosy and I’m not moving again till bedtime.

It’s the relentless grey that gets to me, I don’t mind dark stormy skies, but that flat grey ‘nothing’ type of weather we get a lot of in this country really does depress me.

Since DC I barely notice the weather. I suppose he makes the light of my life.

The weather stops us just sitting in the garden, and feeling the warmth all over our bodies. It stops us getting the energy and positivity that the sun gives.

I love the sun so much. I'd give anything to live in a warm climate.

I don't think OP is being dramatic at all. No wonder there are so many unhappy people in the UK.

Are you in a position to book a holiday? Of course if you book a European holiday over summer you will have the oppose problem of it being super hot!

We've got something booked for October abroad so every time I sort thinking about our crap weather I remind myself I have something to look forward to

Yes but there is literally zero point complaining about it. There’s precisely nothing you can do about it. So it really is a case of moving abroad or leaning into it

Should you move back home if you feel this way?

If it makes you feel better, I'm going to a 5 day festival on Wednesday. It was 28 degrees last year... I don't think this year is going to quite hit anywhere near 20 😅

My DC must be a bit shit because I still notice the weather even with them around 🤷‍♀️

People are absolutely entitled to complain about this shitting weather. We know it doesn’t change things, the next day will be just as lousy as the one before but, just as the English don’t actually enjoy queueing, we don’t just want to put on yet another brave face about the weather.

It’s been utterly vile for a great many, since last June (when we were granted just two weeks of summer), added to which the energy prices soared and here we are, putting the heating on and wearing thermals in fucking June.

So you’re a shit mother, you’ve got shit kids and the weather’s shit. But stop complaining!

😁

OP can you go back home for a visit? It’s been cool across most of Europe this spring and summer. La Niña has returned so that’s why.

it’s just hotting up in southern Europe now and towards the end of next week.

Last few summers gave been shit in this country.

Id take the kids back to your family for the summer and get some guaranteed sun!!

I also always have a sunshine holiday booked in for October at half term so if it’s been a shit summer again then we have that to look forward to.

it is very very hard though I so agree.

We had a lovely Saturday about a week ago and I was pottering in the garden all day and I felt so happy. For some of us it’s a huge mood boost.

I also can’t wait to leave at some point even though I’m British

The weather is a bit pants, for sure.

But it's unhealthy for anyone to feel like their life isn't worth living because of the weather. Could it be you're homesick anyway and this is something that symbolizes it?

Either way - you made your bed, as it were. Either try and find joy in things other than the weather, or move somewhere hotter (and be careful what you wish for!!)

When you put it like that, I realise I should count my blessings!

I honestly think reading the news and being interested in history gives such a massive perspective on how lucky we are to live here in the UK at this time.

I do sympathise. I'm generally fine with the British weather. It doesn't affect my mood too much - but even I've found the last 8 months or so pretty miserable! I'm desperate for a long period of sunny weather.
However, I do get tired of people complaining about it all the time!! This is a me problem. Obviously people can complain about it as much as they want. But the complaining depresses me as much as the weather. I hear a lot of complaints as my DH is from Southern Europe and moans incessantly throughout the winter! Don't get me wrong, I do sympathise but the endless moaning is too much.
I have to say I have spent months in his country throughout the summer and it's way too hot for me. For a two week holiday it's great. It's a novelty to have unbroken sunshine and heat. But when I've been for a month or longer I hate it. I hate being so dazzled by the sun, even when I'm wearing sunglasses I'm squinting. I hate not being to sleep because I'm so hot and sticky. I hate not being able to go out for a really long walk (my passion) because it's 38 degrees! I can't stand sitting on the beach all day or staying indoors because it's too hot to go out.
So yes British weather is undeniably crap but I actually prefer it to some hotter climates.

Yeah it's not great.

Things I have done - watch the forecast like a hawk so that if there is some blue sky I'm outside to enjoy it

Sit in cafes when it's windy and pretend it's warm

I may yet have to book an abroad holiday.

I do not live in the UK and where I am is sunny and warm most days this time of year. Maybe I am romanticizing but I envy all of you. I am fair skinned and my eyes are quite sensitive to the sun. I feel like I can’t leave the house without a big hat and long sleeves and sunscreen. And when I’m driving the sun hurts my eyes, even with sunglasses. I love cloudy, cool days. Maybe persistent rain would get annoying but overall I’d trade if I could!