Irrationally upset over a washing up liquid bottle…

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Ok, so I’ll preface this by saying I know how utterly ridiculous this is, but I need an outlet for my grief.

Years ago I purchased a Limited Edition Fairy liquid bottle, one of those tall, white ones with the baby on it, which I’ve happily and diligently decanted washing up liquid into ever since. It’s been sitting there on the windowsill of the last three houses I’ve lived in, and although it’s just a plastic bottle, it’s just brought me a little bit of joy. It’s silly, but it’s mine.

Until yesterday morning, when my well-meaning MIL saw it beside the new bottle (waiting to be decanted) and threw it into the recycling bin! I didn’t realise this until my “D”P casually mentioned this morning that he’s made a quirky little LAMPSHADE for a lamp we have in the garage, using that “old washing up liquid bottle”. A fucking LAMPSHADE. Out of my prized possession. It doesn’t even look good, because why on earth would it? It looks shit.

I’m irrationally heartbroken about the death of this bottle that’s just been sitting there for years, minding its own business, harming nobody. I know, I know, it’s just a fucking plastic bottle, but it was MY plastic bottle and he’s watched me decant the washing up liquid into it for years. He KNEW it was important to me. But because it’s just a plastic bottle, I’m going to have to bloody get over it, aren’t I. He’s already ordered a replacement, apparently, but it’s not the same, it’s not the same bottle. I’ve shed an embarrassing number of tears over it and as it’s still so raw, I feel like I’ll never forgive the twat for it.

Cheer me up a little, let me know I’m not alone and come share your stories of silly things that to everyone else seems trivial and ridiculous, but for you has been a source of heartache and woe…😢

Sorry but you need some perspective

I'm genuinely sorry to read this OP. I'd be furious and pretty sad if my limited edition old style Fairy bottle got trashed. I was pretty ranty at DH when he damaged and creased mine by scrunching it when it was low.

I have 2 boxes of Fairy snow washing powder from the 60's, unopened, i hide them in case anyone uses it. must get round to selling them at some point ! I wouldnt want anyone to intefer with them so you would be upset.

That's the whole point thought isn't it?! 🙄 Nobody has yet made the actual point that it may have appeared like 'only' an old plastic bottle to other people but it was YOURS and YOU had an attachment to it😏and whatever the reason for that is irrelevant!!😏What is relevant is that your MIL and DH, by ignoring this disrespected you and your feelings were totally disregarded when that item was so casually disposed of and, to make things even worse, destroyed for a silly purpose!!😏 You need to explain to your MIL and DH that although you are sad at the loss of the bottle you are more disappointed and upset that they didn't realise and appreciate the importance of the longevity of it being there and what it represented to you and that it wasn't just an old piece of plastic rubbish! 😡

Staggered by the sheer amount of people on this thread who allow their mothers, mils etc to riffle through their homes, have you people not grown a backbone yet?

I know I’m late to the thread and this is off topic, but i can’t stop thinking about whether you’re surrounded by bizarre household objects your DH has made out of random shite. How did he get from fairy liquid bottle to fuckin lampshade?!! What the hell else has he made?

It must be like constantly living with a massive toddler who proudly presents you with stuff like a toaster made out of a cornflake packet that you then have to pretend to use for months …

Sorry for your loss OP 💐

This thread reminded me of an object I really valued as a child. My mum threw it away and I was distraught. Yesterday - all these years later and inspired by this thread - I searched online to see if I could find anything similar and found the exact thing, which I have now bought, paying of course a great deal more than it was worth then. It is a surprisingly emotional experience. It is going to take a couple of weeks to arrive but I can’t wait to hold it in my hands.

I am sorry not to be able to tell you what it is but it would be outing.

Thanks for the thread op. I know there are some really important things going on in the world but I very much sympathise with what you want through and hope this thread has helped you to feel better.

I’m so sorry if you’re going through a hard time at the moment ❤️

You know that saying about when you point the finger at someone there a three fingers pointing back at you…?

Not to be an amateur psychologist but clearly there's some transference going on here that you are so upset about an inanimate object. Maybe you are really mourning the loss of something else or the loss of control of the household?

@MeinKraft , exactly! I want my own special stuff even more when something awful happens.

Can we see the lampshade please?

This post gives me the fear. Fairy anti leak technology is an invention up there with sliced bread - the very idea that anyone would choose to decant into one of those old messy, sticky lid bottles??! 🤯

@SloaneStreetVandal , the old style bottle is effectively an ornament in my kitchen. My 'in use' washing up liquid is in a different bottle.

I remember years ago saving Ribeena cartons so I could get a Ribeenaberry watch. My BF at the time, Mum came uninvited & cleaned the house & threw out all of the cartons! I cried when I found out what she'd done so I sympathize with you. It may only be a plastic bottle to others but it's special to you.

Sadly, so apparently do you...🙄

I also have one of these bottles and I also refill it every time. Your heartbreak is reasonable. Poor pet.

The lids from all new bottles actually fit the limited edition bottle SO, every time I decant, I also fit a brand new lid. No sticky lids, just bottles that stick around.