Irrationally upset over a washing up liquid bottle…

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Ok, so I’ll preface this by saying I know how utterly ridiculous this is, but I need an outlet for my grief.

Years ago I purchased a Limited Edition Fairy liquid bottle, one of those tall, white ones with the baby on it, which I’ve happily and diligently decanted washing up liquid into ever since. It’s been sitting there on the windowsill of the last three houses I’ve lived in, and although it’s just a plastic bottle, it’s just brought me a little bit of joy. It’s silly, but it’s mine.

Until yesterday morning, when my well-meaning MIL saw it beside the new bottle (waiting to be decanted) and threw it into the recycling bin! I didn’t realise this until my “D”P casually mentioned this morning that he’s made a quirky little LAMPSHADE for a lamp we have in the garage, using that “old washing up liquid bottle”. A fucking LAMPSHADE. Out of my prized possession. It doesn’t even look good, because why on earth would it? It looks shit.

I’m irrationally heartbroken about the death of this bottle that’s just been sitting there for years, minding its own business, harming nobody. I know, I know, it’s just a fucking plastic bottle, but it was MY plastic bottle and he’s watched me decant the washing up liquid into it for years. He KNEW it was important to me. But because it’s just a plastic bottle, I’m going to have to bloody get over it, aren’t I. He’s already ordered a replacement, apparently, but it’s not the same, it’s not the same bottle. I’ve shed an embarrassing number of tears over it and as it’s still so raw, I feel like I’ll never forgive the twat for it.

Cheer me up a little, let me know I’m not alone and come share your stories of silly things that to everyone else seems trivial and ridiculous, but for you has been a source of heartache and woe…😢

An exes mum once pulled the under wire out of the best bra I've ever ever owned. I still think about it more than 15yrs on 😂

It's not the bottle. It's what the bottle represents. Unlike the bottle, those memories can't be lost.

I'm glad he's not a mummy's boy.

I'm divorcing h so don't care that much now but at the time I was gutted. He didn't seem that bothered..

My Son and my Brother both gifted me identical mugs for my Birthday last year. A couple of months later I noticed one of them was missing. When I asked my Husband about it he said he'd 'got rid of it' because I didn't need two of the same mug.

I was also irrationally (but maybe not irrationally) upset because both mugs were precious to me even though they were identical, as they were both gifts from people I love.

I don't think you're being irrational. Sometimes simple things like your Fairy bottle bring joy for no other reason than the fact that you like it. There's nothing wrong with feeling upset about it, I would feel upset too.

Have come to let you know that my DH designed that special edition bottle! 😁

Also, that I accidentally let ours out of sight at a campsite and someone stole it. I had to purchase another off eBay (at great expense) in order to save our marriage…

A few years ago I had a weird plant. I’d bought it at university and 90% of this plant was dead bar two lone sprigs at the top of it. I spent YEARS I’d Turing these two sprigs for two decades and somehow this zombie plant kept JUST ABOUT going.

I bought DH a drone for a birthday. He charged it and tried it out in the kitchen because LOGICAL.

Well, you know what happened. He fucking lost control of the fucking drone and it sliced off the top of this plant.

Wont lie, I not only cried, I decided not to go with DH and DSC to the park to play with drone because I was having a low level sob fest 🤪

So I feel you OP.

@Glorybea completely this!

we just finished having a cleaner because trying to find my things afterwards would drive me crazy. I spend more time cleaning but less time searching for my cheese grater/ DD’s football kit/ adaptors.

Reading this makes me think that it’s time that Fairy brought out another nice limited edition bottle for people to enjoy using and refilling!

Maybe they could do Baby Fairy wearing a Santa hat - there should be just enough time for them to sort it out and get it into stores for Christmas!

Very glad that you’ve been able to source a replacement - hoping that it feels right when you get it…

Glad a replacement is on the way. He needs to buy you this print as well:

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1547175425/dark-green-fairy-washing-up-liquid-print

I'm sorry what? He made a lampshade out of a washing up liquid bottle? Trying hard to visualise this 😂

Reported for being a nostalgia troll.

When there are bigger things going on though, it's the little things that help ground us and give us little bit of joy. Your feelings are perfectly valid.

I searched everywhere for a David Tennant pop vinyl of him being 10th doctor. My 7yo decided to steal it out my room and completely cover it in nail polish. I cried.

There are really (more important things). This is a bit irritating but honestly in the long term, people are important, things-not so much.

I honestly don’t know how many more times I can express that I understand this!

Oh gosh, I would have too! 😢

I'd also be upset.. can get attached to things that others wouldn't..

I LOVE this! Definitely going to order that, will look great in my kitchen. Thank you for the link ❤️

Fight fire with fire show him he’s just cut up something worth £150
then there won’t be just you pissed off in the house

NC with MIL and LTB

I can’t think of anything similar, having things stolen has upset me

Don't anyone diminish your feelings.

I have two soft toys that I have had since before I was seven. They are so precious to me I wouldn't let the children play with them and there is nothing else I wouldn't give them.

They matter. Not even going to explain why but for some of you, just leave it @lifestooshorttodickaboutwithaubergines knows.

Thank you, I’ve said from the off that I understand it’s not life and death, but people seem intent on trying to make me feel like I don’t see it. Would I run back into a burning house to save the Fairy liquid bottle? Absolutely not. But, it’s ok to be upset about things, if doesn’t have to be utterly devastating to warrant feeling sad, but this just meant something to me and I’m allowed to be upset. I hope you continue to cherish your precious soft toys for years and years to come 😊

Totally understand your emotional attachment…Agee with all the above and I would also maybe delve a bit deeper into your reaction and the powerful feelings this illicited. Disappointment in your husbands behaviour is up there but I can’t help feeling there’s something else going on. Be kind to yourself.

I feel your pain, I hope my tale will make you feel better. I had treated myself to some Agapanthus bulbs which I lovingly tended and nurtured. Took me about 3 years to eventually get them to flower (yes I know you can buy them from the garden centre but I couldn’t afford the cost at the time) so was feeling particularly chuffed with them when they flowered and they lasted all through summer. Cut to weather getting colder and I decided to put them in husbands greenhouse with permission for the winter (apparently his man shed, don’t ask). When Spring finally arrived went to get them out and put the pots back in the garden but couldn’t find them. Asked DH where they were, turns out he had decided the plants in the pots were dead and that he wanted to use the pots for himself. Found remains of agapanthus roots chopped up in compost bin. He said he thought they were dead, I tried to explain that some plants die back during the winter…..he wouldn’t have it and continued to insist he was right. Yes, dear reader, I cried over those plants. Still hurts me today. he did eventually apologise and bought me some new bulbs which are about to flower now, another two years on….every time I look at them now I can’t get that episode of my life out of my brain. Still rankles. 🤷‍♀️

Thank you. I'd be devastated if I lost them. I've already made a note for packing them as I'll be moving house this year. However, if I did lose them I'd talk myself down but I would be so sad and that's okay.

My DD has a soft toy and loved it so I bought another. We lost it. I couldn't find the exact replacement and the shop and manufacturer wouldn't help. Last year she lost the other. We were both so sad but she was sure it was in her room as she wouldn't take him out and thank goodness she was right. I've just about got over the fact the toy had to be posted when she left him at her friends about two years ago. It is what things represent. That's what makes them special.