Irrationally upset over a washing up liquid bottle…

[lifestooshorttodickaboutwithaubergines]

Ok, so I’ll preface this by saying I know how utterly ridiculous this is, but I need an outlet for my grief.

Years ago I purchased a Limited Edition Fairy liquid bottle, one of those tall, white ones with the baby on it, which I’ve happily and diligently decanted washing up liquid into ever since. It’s been sitting there on the windowsill of the last three houses I’ve lived in, and although it’s just a plastic bottle, it’s just brought me a little bit of joy. It’s silly, but it’s mine.

Until yesterday morning, when my well-meaning MIL saw it beside the new bottle (waiting to be decanted) and threw it into the recycling bin! I didn’t realise this until my “D”P casually mentioned this morning that he’s made a quirky little LAMPSHADE for a lamp we have in the garage, using that “old washing up liquid bottle”. A fucking LAMPSHADE. Out of my prized possession. It doesn’t even look good, because why on earth would it? It looks shit.

I’m irrationally heartbroken about the death of this bottle that’s just been sitting there for years, minding its own business, harming nobody. I know, I know, it’s just a fucking plastic bottle, but it was MY plastic bottle and he’s watched me decant the washing up liquid into it for years. He KNEW it was important to me. But because it’s just a plastic bottle, I’m going to have to bloody get over it, aren’t I. He’s already ordered a replacement, apparently, but it’s not the same, it’s not the same bottle. I’ve shed an embarrassing number of tears over it and as it’s still so raw, I feel like I’ll never forgive the twat for it.

Cheer me up a little, let me know I’m not alone and come share your stories of silly things that to everyone else seems trivial and ridiculous, but for you has been a source of heartache and woe…😢

Here we go a bit of mil bashing, read the thread, mil kindly cleans the kitchen each week.

This.

He could buy another. I appreciate it’s not the one you were so attached to though.
https://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/335413031844?itmmeta=01HZW05SWF1A70T60SNZ43BFA1&hash=item4e182cb3a4:g:6YAAAOSwwx1mVO8w&itmprp=enc%3AAQAJAAAA8Fgj8R%2FxTZoGGik1Mce%2FrQAh%2BVnknfv%2BMm6MBSfzJC2iJ9qlQKzJua8tQF9o1K9QYX2SHW8R75K2BwSV6yvrtL%2Fd9jRCFGlOso7z62cBFsnIvllqXRPB0w8IHJembesO8V5ocznE33ebqLUEevec9040lRgHrAQ36UTXUVY24Fc5woPUJ1hiXEciGqgqwB0yHRjzVGpUFVEIK5fPyLQBdZRPwzwx1j3kzBqpEE3JQQXjYgVbP83J8AV4UrHz%2F%2B0A1gPbFqxXrHH5Sx%2B35hEPmfcZuUbOXaNbH%2FK8JM5bzhP34K8dvEazppRBtabUxudPZg%3D%3D%7Ctkp%3ABFBMrJ6XgP9j

There are several available on ebay, @lifestooshorttodickaboutwithaubergines.

I do feel your pain - my dh 5ths out a bag full of soft toys that included my childhood teddy, that I’d had since I was a baby - I cried about it for weeks, off and on.

Oh OP. I understand. I’ve got the same bottle - and I’d be so sad to see it gone!

I have a triangular shaped washing up bottle in my caravan that I decant into. Bought it in France years ago. I'd be gutted if anything happened to it!

@lifestooshorttodickaboutwithaubergines Absolutely understand.
Our Science teacher at school had an old blue mug with “ Strychnine “ written on it in gold.
A pupil knocked it off his desk by mistake- and I thought the Teacher was going to cry.
He said “ I had that since being a student..”

He said a replacement just wouldn’t be the same.

I remember those old tall white squeezy bottles with the marching baby.. 🥰

I have to go through the house gathering stuff to recycle before the cleaner comes. And after she's been, I go through the bins to check what she's thrown away! Despite living in the same borough, she puts all our things in the wrong bins 😭

Are you sure he didn't secretly hate it and therefore use it as an excuse to butcher it?

"It's in the recycling I can pretend I 'rescued' it"

There's two issues-
It's the bottle yes, but also-

it's the fact the people around you don't take you into account.
The assumption that you don't have a reason for things.
I had decanted some seeds into an egg cup and given the rest away. DH knocked the egg cup over and swept away all the 'crumbs' that spilled out. As if I'd have a random cup of crumbs for no reason at all.

Same with people throwing things away after a bereavement- just the assumption that other people won't value what's there.

It's always the same people who rush in to get it done before anyone else has time to wrap their head around things, too.

That’s brutal!
poor Ted. Poor you :(

Have you heard the superb Radio 4 play “ Theo” voiced by Martin Jarvis about an old Teddy?

I cried!

A brilliant play.

I have a small Buxton water bottle that I've had for eight years.

It has huge significance and I'd be gutted if someone threw it out. Fortunately (a) it's well hidden and (b) I'm a shit host so it's rare that anyone visits.

I get you, OP 🤗

Didn't the Nazis make lampshades out of human skin?

I'd be keeping a close eye on "d"h if I were you OP.

They did.
I watched a documentary on the Camps and they had contemporary footage of a stall set out with objects made from the skin and hair of fellow human beings.

A Lampshade was there- absolutely revolting.

It was shown to the local population to show brutality of what was going on on those death camps.

But a Fairy Liquid bottle doesn’t compare in depravity to what Nazis did.

Slippery (soapy) slope though eh.

Anyway, are we going to see a picture of this nazi fairy lampshade?

YNBU. But..

he’s watched me decant the washing up liquid into it for years

perhaps it’s his time now.

This OP.
I agree it is the sentimental value. They must replace it.

https://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/126511221115?itmmeta=01HZW82DC08RCCW5XE6MRQ6N5Y&hash=item1d74a8097b:g:vqsAAOSwLAtmT4kF

Treat yourself OP

I know exactly where you're coming from! When we bought our house there was half a bottle of washing up liquid in the cupboard under the sink. For the last four years, I have been decanting washing up liquid into this bottle because...well, I don't know why!! But I cannot, and will not throw it away. The house belonged to a lady who went back to her home country to live when she became unwell, so I think I sort of keep it out of some sort of weird loyalty to her (even though I've never met her) but she wasn't even living here when we bought the house, it had been rented out after she left, so it might not have even been her washing up liquid! My husband thinks I'm batshit, and if it gets moved so it's not by the sink I get really anxious that it's been thrown away! I feel your pain! xx

@lifestooshorttodickaboutwithaubergines maybe just me, but I think that he knew exactly what he was doing!!! i would be livid! what was your even tidying up your kitchen? pretty sure that even she had noticed the white wu bottle on the windowsill for the last few years and realised!!

Honestly I'd rather it had been left binned than made into a lampshade.

I'd be pissed off that he said nothing about it.

Sympathies, OP!

I was very upset with dh when (after I’d said ‘Do NOT put it in the dishwasher!’ he put a very old wooden spoon in the dishwasher - and wrecked it. I was sentimental about it - I’d saved it from my DM’s house when we had to clear it. She’d had it for so long, it was worn right down on one side.

I can't fathom how it's possible to make a lampshade out of a bottle of washing up liquid. I also don't know why anyone would want to. 😕

A lampshade?

A rocket ship would have been forgivable but a lampshade ? What’s wrong with him?

My parents cleaned my car by peeling off all the vignettes I'd accumulated on a road trip to Hungary (five students in a small car).
(In some European countries you pay to drive on the motorway by sticking a toll sticker on the windscreen- now it's mostly online but when I did my road trip it was most of central and Eastern Europe). SAD SAD SAD I know, but I was really disappointed my collection was ripped off the windscreen in the name of tidying.