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"We were on a break"

55 replies

LeaveTheClocksAlone · 24/05/2024 20:06

Opinions please. Did Ross cheat on Rachel?

YES: They were just taking time to think things over and were still exclusive

NO: She had dumped him and he was a free man

No grey areas. Either yes... or no...

OP posts:
LauraSaidIShouldBeNicer · 24/05/2024 20:07

Yes!!! They were definitely Not on a break.... Am watching friends right now 😂

ILikePistachios · 24/05/2024 20:08

I'm with Ross on this, they were on a break, a break from the relationship, he was fine to date/sleep with anyone else

Wishimaywishimight · 24/05/2024 20:09

I'm totally with Ross. She used the actual words "a break from us".

Soubriquet · 24/05/2024 20:19

A think it was a bit of both cos you can imagine just how much of a fuss Ross would have kicked up if Rachel had slept with someone whilst on a break

frugalkitty · 24/05/2024 20:21

They were on a break, just, but he was out of order sleeping with someone else!

HÆLTHEPAIN · 24/05/2024 20:45

Definitely on a break. But he was a shit for sleeping with someone else so fast. And yes, if it was the other way round Ross would have been unbearable.

WhamBamThankU · 24/05/2024 20:51

Yes, he cheated. People say things during a heated argument. That doesn't mean you go out and shag someone else.

RedHelenB · 24/05/2024 20:55

No

StuffLoriThangs · 24/05/2024 20:55

Yes. Ross cheated on Rachel

RedHelenB · 24/05/2024 20:56

RedHelenB · 24/05/2024 20:55

No

But sleeping with so vibe else so soon shows how little he really thought of his relationship with Rachel.

LieutOliviaBenson · 24/05/2024 20:56

Yes! He cheated.

RomanRoysSearchHistory · 24/05/2024 20:58

No. She dumped him and they were both free to do whatever/whoever they pleased.

OneMoreHobnobPlease · 24/05/2024 20:58

NO

She actually said she wanted a "break from us"

However, personally, I wouldn't have gone on to sleep with someone so soon.

CountingCrones · 24/05/2024 21:03

Being on a break and shagging someone else aren't the same thing.

Having a bit of time apart while you get your head straight doesn't mean you go straight out and bang anyone who's willing. Ross was a git.

LeaveTheClocksAlone · 24/05/2024 23:24

CountingCrones · 24/05/2024 21:03

Being on a break and shagging someone else aren't the same thing.

Having a bit of time apart while you get your head straight doesn't mean you go straight out and bang anyone who's willing. Ross was a git.

This!! Thinking doesn't mean shagging

OP posts:
SabreIsMyFave · 24/05/2024 23:28

He was definitely in the wrong. After about a year together, they had a fight, and Ross shagged someone else within a couple of hours. Me and DH have had rows and arguments in the past, and have told each other to fuck off to the far side of fuck. We didn't go and fuck someone a couple of hours after an argument.

'Oh I thought you were shagging that other bloke' was a shit excuse. Rachel was waaaay to good for Ross.

OligoN · 24/05/2024 23:32

WhamBamThankU · 24/05/2024 20:51

Yes, he cheated. People say things during a heated argument. That doesn't mean you go out and shag someone else.

Actually, it means you learn to not ‘say things’ aka talk shit. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Simple.

They were on a break and he was entitled to. She absolutely wanted it both ways.

TheFireflies · 24/05/2024 23:33

No, they’d split up and I can see the shag being a knee-jerk reaction to being rejected. That said, Rachel had dumped him for a bloody good reason and should never have taken him back, he was a cock. The problem was his behaviour before they split up, not after.

OligoN · 24/05/2024 23:34

… although Ross was whiny possessive and a bit controlling.

CatamaranViper · 24/05/2024 23:41

To me a break means a pause, not a break up. Taking a lunch break at work, ad breaks in tv shows etc.

It's a pause, not an end.

He cheated and was always the worst character

CelesteCunningham · 24/05/2024 23:42

Even though she said she wanted "a break from us" they didn't really finish the fight.

Arguing over whether or not he was a free agent is just semantics - he showed both her and their relationship zero respect, following a complete lack of trust for no reason other than a friendly male colleague.

Ross was scum and Rachel should've run for the hills.

CatamaranViper · 24/05/2024 23:42

It basically went smother smother smother smother from him, she reached boiling point and asked for it to stop, he punished her by shagging someone else

SkiingIsHeaven · 24/05/2024 23:45

Holy fucknuggets! Who cares?

I thought this was a real life thing.

You do know that friends isn't real?

Vitriolinsanity · 24/05/2024 23:57

Yes.

But this is why cats never shut on their own doorsteps.

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 24/05/2024 23:58

No. He didn't cheat but he was being a prick about her colleague and absolutely shouldn't have shagged someone else. She was right to be furious..however she was not right to lord it over him after they got back together. I was glad he ended it with her eventually because she was being petty and constantly trying to make him grovel. They needed to accept they had different interpretations of what happened not constantly bicker over it. I hated that possessive side of him but she was the same, remember her sabotaging his relationship with Julie.