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Shit morning..

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Whataday241 · 21/05/2024 10:02

Dd is on holiday so.im looking after both GS. Plus have my kids as well
We all get sorted for school normal morning all fine.

We decided to pop to the shop on the way to school to grab breakfast.. from then on kids are not taking their stuff when I tell them to lights are on nobody home type thing. All 3 of them just staring into space.

Get on the 1st bus baby gs chuck's up all over me . I get of the bus. Then my ds is chucking up because he saw baby gs chuck up. I go to tesco buy a top. Clean myself and gs up. Change into new top. Then I'm waiting for my next bus. Older gs falls over cuts his lip . So he's screaming . Sort him out get on bus. Older gs then drops his lunch on the floor. 5 mins on the bus and baby gs chucks up on me again. We got of the bus and have come home. I had enough.

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BigGlassHouseWithAView · 21/05/2024 11:06

Yes, they should be at school but it’s one day, it doesn’t need to be a big deal.

Hope the day improves OP.

PTSDBarbiegirl · 21/05/2024 11:27

paprikaforever · 21/05/2024 10:33

the child vomited as a reaction to the baby vomit
i have done the same too

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'King hell. Someone comes on seeking solidarity and gets this shitfest. Think back to your last shit morning. And what do you think caused the baby to vomit. You honestly think they all don't have it by now.....

foghead · 21/05/2024 11:49

I hope you get to relax for the rest of the day. I agree that one day off school is not going to harm them at all but if you're feeling bad about it, put a documentary on for them and get them to read to you.
Maybe do some maths off bbcbitesize.

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Whataday241 · 21/05/2024 11:50

PTSDBarbiegirl · 21/05/2024 11:27

'King hell. Someone comes on seeking solidarity and gets this shitfest. Think back to your last shit morning. And what do you think caused the baby to vomit. You honestly think they all don't have it by now.....

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Oh well. It was fate telling me to stay home 🤣. So I have all back to school tomorrow.

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Whataday241 · 21/05/2024 11:55

foghead · 21/05/2024 11:49

I hope you get to relax for the rest of the day. I agree that one day off school is not going to harm them at all but if you're feeling bad about it, put a documentary on for them and get them to read to you.
Maybe do some maths off bbcbitesize.

I don't feel bad 🤣. We are just chilling and pottering about. Gs has perked up a bit.

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Silverfoxlady · 21/05/2024 13:19

So many judgy comments on here!

I was a mum with four children six and under, and I can tell you I had some really bad days like that too. Looking back I don’t think I handled the stress of it all very well and I had to go on to antidepressants for six months. The worst was taking them to the supermarket, thinking I could cope when I just ended up chasing them around and trying to get my youngest to stop crying. We went online shopping after that.

In my opinion are doing this the healthy way, if you are feeling overwhelmed it is fine to take a day out. One day is not going to hurt anyone, and if you would have carried on day after day like this I can tell you that your own mental health may struggle, especially with four children depending on you. It is hard enough to have mum guilt as well as frustration / anger / sadness at the whole situation, and taking time out to take a breath is the best option.

Is there anyone out there that can help you? A partner / family member that can give you a little break? My partner worked full time and my family live an hour and a half away, so I didn’t get any help either. I am hoping you may have someone to take the load off, even if it is just one day off to decompress.

Good luck OP, I hope it all gets better soon.

NotbloodyGivingupYet · 21/05/2024 13:21

OP I'm gobsmacked at the "you should have/ I would have" brigade.
Well actually, I'm not, they seem to hunt in packs.
(I bet you're glad you mentioned the croissants!)
You're a bloody hero for carrying on after the first sick incident, that plus a cut face would have done it for me. The second time - nah, it's time to go home.
Hope your day is getting better.

Silverfoxlady · 21/05/2024 13:24

Sorry - didn’t realise it was grandma that was posting! That does sound like a stressful day. I am happy the your daughter is getting help while she is away, I hope you have a better day tomorrow.

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Whataday241 · 21/05/2024 13:28

Silverfoxlady · 21/05/2024 13:19

So many judgy comments on here!

I was a mum with four children six and under, and I can tell you I had some really bad days like that too. Looking back I don’t think I handled the stress of it all very well and I had to go on to antidepressants for six months. The worst was taking them to the supermarket, thinking I could cope when I just ended up chasing them around and trying to get my youngest to stop crying. We went online shopping after that.

In my opinion are doing this the healthy way, if you are feeling overwhelmed it is fine to take a day out. One day is not going to hurt anyone, and if you would have carried on day after day like this I can tell you that your own mental health may struggle, especially with four children depending on you. It is hard enough to have mum guilt as well as frustration / anger / sadness at the whole situation, and taking time out to take a breath is the best option.

Is there anyone out there that can help you? A partner / family member that can give you a little break? My partner worked full time and my family live an hour and a half away, so I didn’t get any help either. I am hoping you may have someone to take the load off, even if it is just one day off to decompress.

Good luck OP, I hope it all gets better soon.

I'm so sorry things were hard for you back then. I think if people are honest most of us have had fuck it days. I hope things are better for you now . I'm same as you I have no one to ask. But life changes thry get older new challenges etc . But we manage even when its hard

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Nanny0gg · 21/05/2024 13:35

Democracymanifest · 21/05/2024 10:19

Why?

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They'd been sick?

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Whataday241 · 21/05/2024 13:43

NotbloodyGivingupYet · 21/05/2024 13:21

OP I'm gobsmacked at the "you should have/ I would have" brigade.
Well actually, I'm not, they seem to hunt in packs.
(I bet you're glad you mentioned the croissants!)
You're a bloody hero for carrying on after the first sick incident, that plus a cut face would have done it for me. The second time - nah, it's time to go home.
Hope your day is getting better.

It was his lip. Dribbling blood all down his chin on his uniform. I'm saying your fine. But im really shocked because I always thought your blood was blue like your favourite colour. Let's give it a wipe have a drink abd see how it gos.. it stopped pretty quick it looked worse than it was he forgot about it within a few mins.

Yeah its all about the croissants. It's definitely not easier doing breakfast at home when we can litterly grab and go.

And yep made the kids day coming home 🤣

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sprigatito · 21/05/2024 13:46

FFS nobody ever died from an impromptu day off school. They are being looked after by a slightly overwhelmed Grandma while their mum is on holiday, not deregistered and sent up a chimney. OP - everyone fed, no one dead. It's fine.

HcbSS · 21/05/2024 13:50

Nobody seems to be asking why OP’s daughter thinks it’s ok to feck off on a non important and completely avoidable trip leaving her two kids including a baby with her mother with no transport. Selfish personified.
If it was work it would be one thing, but a holiday? She’s blatantly young.

AtomicBlondeRose · 21/05/2024 13:53

My DC’s school would apply the 48 hour rule to a vomiting child even if they’d thrown up because of seeing a baby be sick! So would most schools. So that’s one kid at home + baby anyway…I think I’d have turned back too. Covered in puke, stinking, bleeding child and two potentially ill. Yep, stopping for a croissant didn’t cause any of that.

TeaandScandal · 21/05/2024 13:55

Seeline · 21/05/2024 10:20

Who on earth goes out to breakfast on the way to school missing point of thread entirely

It could only ever have been downhill from there, op.
If you’re taking your grandchildren to school as well as your own children, a lot more organisation will be needed.
And yes, you don’t get to keep the lot off school because it all got too much for you!

TeaandScandal · 21/05/2024 13:56

sprigatito · 21/05/2024 13:46

FFS nobody ever died from an impromptu day off school. They are being looked after by a slightly overwhelmed Grandma while their mum is on holiday, not deregistered and sent up a chimney. OP - everyone fed, no one dead. It's fine.

What happens tomorrow? And the rest of the daughter’s holiday?

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Whataday241 · 21/05/2024 14:11

TeaandScandal · 21/05/2024 13:56

What happens tomorrow? And the rest of the daughter’s holiday?

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They are going to school

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Whataday241 · 21/05/2024 14:12

TeaandScandal · 21/05/2024 13:55

It could only ever have been downhill from there, op.
If you’re taking your grandchildren to school as well as your own children, a lot more organisation will be needed.
And yes, you don’t get to keep the lot off school because it all got too much for you!

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Well I did l kept them off

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Whataday241 · 21/05/2024 14:16

AtomicBlondeRose · 21/05/2024 13:53

My DC’s school would apply the 48 hour rule to a vomiting child even if they’d thrown up because of seeing a baby be sick! So would most schools. So that’s one kid at home + baby anyway…I think I’d have turned back too. Covered in puke, stinking, bleeding child and two potentially ill. Yep, stopping for a croissant didn’t cause any of that.

I explained to the school my ds was sick because of gs being sick I think it was because of the smell and sight of it. And they said its fine to bring him in tomorrow.

Oh and croissant has nothing to do with it . I was just sounding of . Croissant or no croissant I still would have had sick on me and come home

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Pettyman · 21/05/2024 14:17

Do you have grandkids and your own kids of the same age??

Pettyman · 21/05/2024 14:20

Ps. I would’ve gone back home too.

AdoraBell · 21/05/2024 14:22

Hope the children recover soon OP, and you have a relaxing day after your DD returns.

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Whataday241 · 21/05/2024 14:22

Pettyman · 21/05/2024 14:17

Do you have grandkids and your own kids of the same age??

There's 18 months age gap

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Fiery30 · 21/05/2024 14:24

HcbSS · 21/05/2024 13:50

Nobody seems to be asking why OP’s daughter thinks it’s ok to feck off on a non important and completely avoidable trip leaving her two kids including a baby with her mother with no transport. Selfish personified.
If it was work it would be one thing, but a holiday? She’s blatantly young.

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I'm assuming OP's daughter just didn't land up at her door and say have the kids, I'm going on holiday! 🙄 It would obviously have to be planned in advance with OP obviously agreeing to it. Isn't that what family is all about? This incident could have happened to anyone taking care of the kids.

LadyKenya · 21/05/2024 14:31

Arraminta · 21/05/2024 10:38

Being stressed doesn't justify not taking them to school. Sounds to me like these children are going to need every shot at an education that they can possibly get.

Judgy much, eh?