My DP has been living in my house for 2 years now.
I’m mortgage-free and my bills are fortunately quite low, he wanted a Sky package so he pays for this and £200 towards bills and food.
I don’t want to make a profit off him, but I feel that he’s at a big financial advantage by living with me and he’s not getting a true taste of the cost of living away from parents home (before moving in with me he lived with his parents his entire life), he’s also benefitting from me working hard before meeting him and putting a huge chunk of my salary into paying off my mortgage. I don’t know what I want to change, but because of this set up I feel a bit of resentment, like we’re not equal partners and that I’m subsidising his life as he has more disposable income to do all his endless hobbies. I guess an option could be to sell my place and buy somewhere bigger together, but I’d be spiting myself by getting into a mortgage again.
Also, a minor point but he is always super late transferring his bill money every month, I haven’t mentioned it to him because ultimately he does transfer it, but it’s another thing that’s making me feel less like partners with a responsibility to pay bills and more like a cheap board and lodge option.
Is anyone else in a similar position with a DP moving into their owned house, if so do you have a money set up that works well?
edited to add: title is misleading, I was going to mention chore share as well(as that’s another issue), but the post is long enough already!