I have no friends and I'm fed up with it

[LegendaryGlitter]

Exactly what the title says.
I had one friend who I have been friends with for years but she seems to have just ghosted me and I'm unsure why. Other than that, I have no actual friends.

I'm mid 30s and a mature student, but everyone on my course is a lot younger, so whilst I get on well with most people, it hasn't sparked any real friendships. I guess that could change next year though.
I have DS and chat to school mums at drop off and have invited one of his friends over to play though nothing set in stone and I don't want to keep pushing and forcing it, so again nothing has really come of these chats.
I had a hobby, but due to time and money, that has fallen by the wayside a little but even when I was taking part regularly, I didn't really make friends.
I work aswell and get on with all my colleagues and have a laugh at work, but they will all meet up with each other for drinks, coffee and it's never mentioned to me until after it's happened.

I'm always on the periphery, get on well with everyone but never anyone's friends and I'm so over it. It's lonely. I'm starting to think it is me tbh, I think I'm a nice enough person but clearly not.

Anyone else just never really been able to make friends or just me? Sorry a bit of a self pitying moan but I'm feeling a bit down about it lately.

Ive school mams they great everyone so busy though ....

This. You have to be proactive. Identify people whose company you enjoy (this bit is crucial) and initiate things. Find something low key - a free local music event, a craft fair, a kids’ event (if they have kids) and ask if they fancy coming along. Just keep doing it and doing it. This is what it takes to make friends in adulthood, when everyone’s busy with a million things. It doesn’t just happen by itself. You gotta hustle a bit!

Some prefer to get to know people in a group first, I know I do because people are diluted like this. You can also see how they interact with others and scope them out from afar.

If I hardly know someone and they ask me out as an individual very quickly and I hardly know them if anything it puts me off them.

Story of my life. But not like 100%. There have been times when I've felt more comfortable around people and made lots of friends. I was even told on occasion that I was the life of the party, which is not exactly how I viewed myself. Truth is, I'm an introvert, and at the time I was tired of feeling lonely, so I decided I was going to change that. I started telling myself that I could do it, and it just brought out this side of my personality that I didn't know, and it was amazing. I realized I hadn't been self-confident enough to feel good around others, and once I told myself I was capable of making that happen, it did. It just comes easier to some people, I guess, but that doesn't mean you cannot turn the situation around.