50 and becoming boring - anyone else resonate?

[theartfuldodger100]

This weekend I had the chance to go away (UK) with friends. I binned this off because I would rather be at home. Home in my comfy joggers. Home having a spring clean and looking forward to giving the house a good clean and making it smell nice and feel clean and sorted. Home so I can go on long runs. Home so I can have a BBQ (weather permitting!) and my choice of food (whereas being away and going to restaurants I am limited to the menu choices). Home so I have all my creature comforts around me. Home in my safe space. and own bed.

Is this peri ?

am I becoming boring ?

anyone else resonate ?

The thing I find frustrating is mind vs body....I love swimming, going to classes at the gym, walking, camping, going to the cinema and theatre. I simply do not have the physical capacity for it any more. On a Friday after work I struggle to stay awake long enough to cook dinner. Saturday and Sunday I am zombied , recovering, then prepping to get through the week ahead!

This is me too. I feel safe and content at home. I was abroad last week, I enjoyed the sunshine but could not wait to get home. I have a couple of close friends who I see regularly but we tend to meet for lunch which means I am
usually home by late afternoon which suits me. My favourite day is a day at home with washing on the line.

I think it’s very natural to enjoy home more as you get older, but you can still have adventures if you plan some recovery time in! We are not planning to spend our 60’s sitting around at home, even though I have fibromyalgia, just pace yourself.

DH and I are off to a big music festival at the other end of the country in June and are even camping! But we will take it easy when we get back for a few days and have booked a ready pitched tent with foam mattresses and proper bedding.

I’m mid 50s, but it will be a while before I’m child-free. I’m trying to get my experiences in now while I’m still capable. My dad died when he was only a few years older than I am, and I’m not making the mistake of waiting. I definitely don’t feel like I’m too old for anything*

Except skiing. That is far too risky.

Honestly, I'm getting really fed up with the narrative that just because you dont want to go out partying, getting drunk, and going away on weekend trips it makes you "boring". I never really enjoyed that much even in my 20s.

Self care just feels better to me- diet, exercise and having a nice uncluttered space to be in makes me feel good. Having a hangover which now in my 40s lasts like, 3 days makes me feel like shit and the days following it are certainly boring because I feel rubbish and never want to do much.

Why should I do stuff that doesnt make me feel good out of fear of other's perceptions of me?- isnt that just monumentally stupid? Who gives a toss if someone finds you boring - life is way too short to spend it hung up on living up to others expectations of how you should live your life. Thats not to say I dont enjoy being with friends btw, I absolutely do, but not for the whole weekend which is my only downtime after work and kids etc

I am puzzled by the narrative that going out means partying and getting drunk. I am out three days a week, but I don't drink or party. I haven't been to the pub in years.

@Xyz1234567 I'm envious of the Stressless chairs! It's so very empowering and liberating to only do what you want and revel in it.

I am puzzled by the narrative that going out means partying and getting drunk. I am out three days a week, but I don't drink or party. I haven't been to the pub in years

Thats what those around me seem to think is non boring, hence my comments. Since I stopped drinking I've had lots of "dont be boring" comments from people which baffles me as nothing more boring than a repetitive drunk

a good weekend for me would be to have some time off work on the Friday to fully clean, tidy & sort the house. Ideally this would include all bedding washed, dried and put back on, the carpets shampooed (we have a machine for this), the nightmare downstairs flooring would be scrubbed by hand (takes 2 hours), everything put in it's place, fully stocked fridge and treat myself to fresh flowers then relax with a sense of cleanliness, calm and serenity throughout the house. Sat morning it's a hot summers day, I walk to the local lido for a very long swim which is set out for swim lanes only and only adults tend to go to that, then back home to sit in the garden all day with a home made cocktail and BBQ in the eve. Repeat on Sunday.

Oh, they sound very limited. I was never much of a drinker and hardly drink at all now. There are so many other things to do. Maybe not if you are very rural perhaps, but even there I would rather go for a walk or do a sport.

Well, boring is subjective isnt it? lots of things people have mentioned in this thread sound tedious to me and I am sure what I might find interesting and fun would be boring to others so I dont really know how you can categorise something as "boring" as it will be different for everyone.

Do what you want to do- if thats boring to someone else, who cares? its your life and you should do the things you like to do. You cant live your life for someone else's definition of fun.

Sounds perfect! 👌

I am the same. I love cleaning, gardening and just pottering about the house. Never go on holiday. I’m in mid 50 s. I very rarely go out socially and I only now have a couple of friends. My life was very different 10 years ago. I’m happy with it though. When I look back I think I found conversations with friends often just annoying..feeling they’re not really happy about anything good going on.. I’m much happier just talking to family. I think I’ve reverted to all the things I enjoyed when I was a child , crafts, reading …etc. and am more like my true self.